The choice to surrender to higher guidance means to me, in the words of James O'dea, "to listen deeply to one's inner voice and soul's beckoning." For me, that typically includes a well-informed knowledge base gained through openness, study, and reflection. My most satisfying stance is when I am both deeply compassionate and spiritually detached. In that stance I deeply and sincerely care about the person or cause while I and my well-being are independent of the person or cause and of the outcome, knowing I don't control either. What helps me is being clear about what I am and am not responsible for. That is, I am responsible for my action, and am not responsible for outcome. When I am committed to right action and don't try to control outcome, I avoid the traps and stay free.