While I agree with the basic context of what you're describing, loving another person if the relationship is physical could lead to the end of your life or cause an incurable disease if someone has an extra physical relationship. The duty we all have is not to bring harm to anyone but especially not someone who cares for us. We have a duty to be honest with ourselves and others and while that may be uncomfortable and not very fun, it's the rule of treat others how you want to be treated. Why is it bad to expect someone to keep their end of an agreement? We give love and want love and the right thing to do is remove yourself if you can't commit to someone who loves you. For love to exist there must be mutual trust and without trust there is no love because self protection should be instinctive. So find someone who shares your values because we can love more than one in our lifetime once we get passed the hurt and disappointment of someone who doesn't value themselves enough to do the right thing.
On Apr 16, 2019Merv Martin wrote :
There is no duty, nothing you have to do. Only what you wish to do. It is not a duty to keep someone from harm, and if it is not your partner's wish to keep you from harm, run screaming!
There's nothing onerous about loving. (That's a good test.) Contracts and "agreements" are made between people that need a way to punish if a signee defaults. If the partnership can't be a partnership without a contract, then expect all the problems that the business world has with contracts. With children it's tough. But the defaulting entity is hurting them as well.
Cause joy. And when someone reflects it back, check 'em out. (Good filter!) Besides, random acts of kindness and senseless beauty are great fun. I love putting quarters in expired parking meters with cars parked by them. (It's a misdemeanor, but civil disobedienceis kinda fun too!)