To me this means simply, that we cannot control other people's thoughts, actions or words; nor can we make assumptions about the intentions of their thoughts, actions or words. When we make assumptions or judgements about others, and how their words or actions relate to us, we are likely to suffer. The only "control" we have in life is that of our own thoughts, behaviors, etc.
On May 24, 2014Mark C. Williams wrote :
On May 24, 2014Peter wrote :
To some extent this is true but to a large extent it is not. We can influence others, and we can and should make assumptions; it is how we make sense out of the world. We just need to know the limitations of both our assumptions and our ability to influence others.