It means accepting qualities about me and others that I don't like, rather than hiding them, denying them, repressing them, demonizing them. It means allowing and getting to know those disliked and unwanted parts of myself and others rather than separating from them and turning them into an other that I declare bad. It means being open rather than closed. It means being kind and loving rather than judgmental and hateful. I create the shadow side of me by disowning some of me, and we create 'them' by separating them from 'us.' The shadow side of me is still me, and it is part of my whole, and it is important that I accept all of me and be whole. 'Them' is still part of the human family, and it is important that we accept 'them' and work and live together rather than demonize and make war and kill each other. Learning to accept more of me and more of others is a celebration. What has helped me better connect with me and others is a growing deeper realization that I am one and that we are one which seems to flow naturally into being more kind. Alan Watts said, "We divide in thought what is one in nature." One is kind.
On Nov 4, 2013Amy wrote :
I have read this more than once. In it, I admire your growing wisdom of self. Appreciate, very much!
Love yourself as others love You.
On Nov 5, 2013Jo wrote :
My church very much demonstrates this. It's protective shell is so thick, it lacks the flexibility and permeability to grow. It's boundaries are well defined. Those on the inside, shame and blame those on the outside . . . Those on the outside, blame those on the inside . . . And nothing changes.
My God, on the other hand, has No boundaries. (He gave me free will.) My Savior has NO protective shell. (I touch Him and He touches me.). The Holy Spirit was designed to permeate . . . . my spirit. (Ever thankful for the flexibility of Heaven, am I.)
While I am yet a sinner, He accepts, loves and actively pursues me. No blame . . . No shame.