For me, having soft eyes means being open to hopefully see what is, not just see my thinking or prejudices or expectations or preconceived judgments. Having soft eyes means being open and welcoming, not closed and defensive. A personal example is that I went from narrow religous beliefs that I defended as a child to widening my spiritual periphery as I got older. I think I became open to truth wherever it was to be found. I opened my eyes and learned from various traditions and disciplines. What helps me develop soft eyes is openness to learn, having an attitude of searching, openness to my mind changing and evolving rather than being rigidly set, and valuing the truth.