To me "Holding lightly" as opposed to "holding tightly" means loving without expecting anything back in return. It means being in a space of full acceptance of the now without judgment. It means nothing is forever and we have what we need when we have it and when we don't need it anymore, it may leave us and it's ok. After studying with Sufis in Cappadocia, Turkey, I learned life is an illusion and life on earth is really just a journey back to connecting authentically with our souls and others. We have a choice to enjoy the ride and be free or hold on tightly and live in fear. I choose to live freely.