when one lives mindfully ..then separation by any sort( bereavement, retirement, ) becomes a very natural event. The school where i worked was moving away from its vision ( I thought ) I held it tight and demanded that everything has to change! I was frustrated . But once I let it go.. I now have a clear mind to " see" what is really happening and think of solutions in a very humane way!.People who I thought were exploiting me and the situation now appear genuinely wanting in ideas and competence !