Tenzin Palmo is a beautiful writer. I do not experientially know the difference between "holding tightly" and "holding lightly." I want to hold lightly but if my desire is strong to hold lightly, I am holding tightly to wanting to hold lightly. I notice that I get angry when something doesn't occur exactly as I want it to occur. I am holding something tightly and I'm not sure what it is. It is probably the way I think things should be rather than how they are. Not knowing is somewhat helpful. If I would accept my not knowing why I anger quickly I probably would not get as angry as quickly. John Dewey, in 1921, stated that science has clearly established everything is in process. He also said we only give lip service to that. I'm reminded of Milan Kundera's novel, "The Unbearable Lightness of Being." Accepting one's holding tightly, when one wants to hold lightly,
may possibly help one hold more lightly. Part of the process of beginning to hold lightly may be the topic of a not yet written novel: "the bearable heaviness of becoming." Thank you for giving me the opportunity to respond. Warm and kind regards to everyone.