Mt priorities have been changing as I have been going through varied developmental tasks in my life. For the last two years the topmost priority in my life is to take care of my wife who is suffering from Alzheimer's disease. I know fully well that my equally important priority is to keep myself well as a care taker for taking care of my wife. I do not see and experience these two priorities as opposite of each other. In fact, they go hand in hand, they flow into each other. It is expereincing oneness in apparently different "twoness" or" manyness". When I am fully present and attentive in doing what I do lovingly, my action is parama, excellent. It is an inner state in which the doer, the deed and the doing become one. Then sitting by the river, spring comes, and the grass grows by itself. Namaste.