The quest for perfection is exhausting because it's unnecessary goal-directed hard work. Perfection has much more to do with allowing rather than seeking. I haven't completely let go of what others think of me, but I have loosened my grip. I have gotten positive feedback when I say what is true for me rather than hold back or be inauthentic out of concern about what they might think. It helps me to remind myself that I have the right and responsibility to be me and express my truth. It helps me to have felt more regret when I don't express my authentic self than when I do. It helps me to get support and appreciation for what I have to say. I like to be known, and it helps me to know that in being authentic I become known.
On May 19, 2018 david doane wrote :
The quest for perfection is exhausting because it's unnecessary goal-directed hard work. Perfection has much more to do with allowing rather than seeking. I haven't completely let go of what others think of me, but I have loosened my grip. I have gotten positive feedback when I say what is true for me rather than hold back or be inauthentic out of concern about what they might think. It helps me to remind myself that I have the right and responsibility to be me and express my truth. It helps me to have felt more regret when I don't express my authentic self than when I do. It helps me to get support and appreciation for what I have to say. I like to be known, and it helps me to know that in being authentic I become known.