It's crucially important to have the experience/awareness/realization of shared identity, however it happens, whatever precipitates it. It's important to get to the point of looking across at the other and seeing myself. There is no other. We are distinct, but we are one, and until we realize that, we will go on fighting and warring, taking ourselves further away from the peace we say we are seeking. I suppose there is no other way of resolving the war outside than by sharing identity with the ones we are fighting.