How to live life fully is a challenge for all of us. How to accept fully and trully the departure of someone we love is also a challenge for us. When a child is born, we celebrate the arrival of the child and celelbrate her birthday. And when that child passes away we feel sadness and grief in our heart. We need to give space in our heart to truly and fully accept our sadness and grieving. It takes time and support of our loved ones to go through grieving. This process allows us to get the true acceptance for the transistion of our loved ones.
I have gone this process several times when all the mebers of my family and my dear good old friends passed away. Knowing intellectually the impermanace of life was not enough for me. I needed to go through the process of fully grieving, putting my head on the shoulders of my family members and friends and letting my self cry heped me to truly accept their passing away. I needed that space within me to expereince my sadness fully and feel lheir love and blessings and my love and gratitude for them. The last loss in my life, the passing away of my wife, was a very difficult expeirence for me to go through grieving. Fully and truly accepting my sadness has helped me to live my life fully.
Life is a gift and death is a gift. Light is a gift and darkness is a gift. To see the light fully I need to see the darkness fully.