Tennis has been my exercise for a long time. I make time for it whenever I can and have played for over 20 years. I love it so much that I work really hard at it and try to learn and improve every which way I can. But the fact remains that I have not improved very much despite all my efforts. Coaching, just rallying and trying to relax -- none of them make a difference and every third day, I think of giving up because it becomes very frustrating.
Paradoxically, when I let go and allow the game to be what it is and stop trying to improve it, enjoy it for its own sake, something shifts. My game is at a higher level and balls fly and it does not take any effort. But when I "try" to relax, it only becomes worse. it is like allowing life to occur instead of giving a direction and intentionality to it. When I just experience it without any agenda, it moves beautifully in the direction of my deeper intent without any effort.
Of course, I appreciate it, understand this and when I consciously make it into a formula, it goes away.
Of course the rhythm of the game is like the rhythm of life as it is said in the movie Legend of Bagger Vance.