I have looked at my anger. I can't remember a time that I became angry that I am proud of or after which I felt good or believed my anger was good for myself or the other person. At some point I came to the conclusion that anger is an unnecessary emotion. I don't need to become angry and work myself into a lather. As far as I'm concerned, there is no righteous anger, and to call some anger righteous is only a way to try to justify it. I still do at times become angry, but less often than I used to and I can nip it in the bud much more than I used to. For me, anger is an indication that I have plenty of growing to still do. It is possible to disagree, object, have my own opinion, assert myself, and even defend myself without being angry. I do have a right and a responsibility to have my voice, express and stand up for myself, and I don't have to be angry to do so. When I do speak up without indulging in anger, I feel satisfied rather than regretful, and I have achieved some freedom from the compulsion to be angry.
On May 31, 2017Ana wrote :
Couldn't have said it better... How a person feels towards anger - and other emotions-related subjects - relies much on personal experience. Nevertheless, I entirely agree with the way you describe this process.