We each have our personal power that we bring to a relationship, and it is at least part of the medium through which we relate to one another. Owning my personal power makes it easier for the other to own his or her personal power. I can't make anyone do anything -- I can make it more or less difficult for the other to express or do whatever. Power isn't given to us by others. My power is mine; each person's power is their own. It's my birthright to own my power. I don't need to grab my power -- it's simply mine to accept or reject. Satisfaction that I feel from using my power to be of service has helped me view power from a service perspective, and dissatisfaction from using my power in a manipulative, dishonest, coercive way has helped me reject a Machiavellian perspective.