In learning how to authentically ask the question to another, there is also the step of learning to ask ourselves that same question. Can I pause several times a day, connect to my own heart and compassionately ask the question: How are you doing dear heart in this moment? There exists the challenge of pausing our busyness to take the time to ask the question. The greater challenge may be to create the space to truly hear the answer. Just like we expect a simple "fine" when asked "how are you?", it's easy to fall into allowing ourselves to provide a shallow answer when inquiring about the wellbeing of our hearts. And if creating the space to allow an authentic answer to surface was not challenging enough, then comes the challenge of having the courage to acknowledge and respond to its answer.