In this life, all that is is temporary, constantly changing, and uncertain; we are different yet one; we are of this planet and not on it. A big part of becoming real is to learn and accept those facts of life and live accordingly. Real people don't fight, deny, or ignore the facts. Real people may not be in harmony with everyone but are in harmony with life. Real people see what is rather than seeing their own thinking, expectations, prejudices. I am able to get in touch with what is real for me when I look inside to my own feelings, my own experience, my own intuition, and not just go along with what is said to be real. What I am seeing or feeling is my truth. What helps me is to accept and value my truth. What also helps me is to be open, express my truth and listen to the response of others, which process modifies my position and I learn and grow.