Who Is Having This Pain?

The quote which stands as when we consider pain with a blend of Ego it increases the suffering, which implies that when we don't accept we resist we fight we tend to believe subconsciously that we can control the things but in reality it is increasing the suffering only and there are some things, incidents of which neither we have any answer nor we can control them at which acceptance is the only way to surrender and end the struggle. But acceptance should be dependent on the context we shouldn't be accepting to each and everything where we forget the line of act thus it needs to be clearly demarcated.