Hosting The Pain Of The World

This notion that we must "re-own" (and thereby re-live, then re-process) seems paradoxically painful. Whatever happened to "let go"...and get on with your life? Acknowledging the (past) hurt (trauma) and finding a way to work through - work it out (of the system) seems healthy, helpful and healing. From my own personal circumstances the painful dissolution of my marriage caused trauma , emotional and psychological breakdown I have re-owned (re-lived) - re-visited too many times over the last 30 years. This has done nothing to lessen, resolve and/or relieve the pain that has stunted my emotional vulnerability (ability to trust and love fully). Only when I remember to "let go" of the re-living, re-processing, "re-owning" the trauma can I get on with my life. Indeed, over the years (when I could afford it), I have sought counseling and/or therapy ; read many self-help books and attended my "healing groups" - only to find the re-telling, re-living, re-processing the trauma makes my ability to live in the present more challenging. Instead, as Buddhist tradition invites, being present ...is the (best) place to know/live/be peace.

I think processing helps in the right amount, not too much and not too little. Obsession with the past or the future can be a problem. Being present is where life is, and processing that truly helps one let go, move on and be present is what helps.

Going over our individual traumas and taking on the worlds trauma is far too much! We must accept that our world is broken thousands of years of killing torture and cruelty . Let us live each day as best as we can. Can not take my past and the worlds onto my shoulders anymore