Yes I relate that relationships are here to make us conscious. After 25 years of marriage and taking responsibility of your state , one comes to this profound conclusion.
I have been one to feel “ valuable” only when I caretake. And this childhood trauma carried into my marriage. After 24 years, I awake to this and inspite of being aware, I would still act like my husbands mother and preemptively do things for him. I would notice it and get mad at myself. Very recently I have accepted that old habits take a while to change and gave myself grace. Somehow my husband has got it and catches himself waiting for my help and takes charge himself.
Priming myself in the morning with meditation has been the best practice to set the tone for compassion, grace , acknowledgement and understanding for myself.
On Mar 7, 2025 Nomita Mehta wrote :