My husband and I are about as different as night and day... seriously. We have carried the burden of many mountains never understanding. Each time we decided to put a boulder down...we could climb together. Although I find when I take down my stuff and lay it at my feet, it encourages others to do the same. We played the back and forth game 'till we realized that that behavior had no value was predicated on living a life with no value.... for either one of us. We are still different...very different. It has created a good balance for us.