As a child and as an adult I have heard many times the wise statement "To err is human, to gorgive is divine." I see the value of forgiving others in all dimensions of my perosnal well-being:physical, mental, the emotional, interpersonal, and spiritual. To me, forgiveness is letting of judgemental attitude that comes in the way of being a healthy and happy person. It menas letting go of hard and judgemental thoughts, feelings and actions. I call it puification of my internal demerits and making my consciousness free from the past hangovers. Lack of forgiveness hurts both persons in relationships. Blame game and self-pity game drians my energy and comes in the attainment of the well-being of myself and of others in my life.
I know an important person in our extended family who has been holding her grudges from a couple of past events. I woild like to clear up heavy clouds of misunderstandings and ask her forgiveness for causing grief in her life. She has been holding on to the wall of the past grudges and wounds and and notletting them go for her own well-being as well as the well-being of others related to her. I have let go of the past sad and painful expereinces and that way I live in peace.
I deeply value empathy and compassion in my relationships with people in my life, recognize and accept my own shortcomings and mindfulluy work on them, let them go and that way be free from the hangovers of the past. I find this way of working on myself liberating.
Jagdish P Dave