When I was care giving for my mother in her last few years I quickly learned to spend time with her without bringing my agenda into the day. At first I wanted to schedule our days with everything I thought would bring her joy. In my mind I thought she deserved to experience so much because of her hard & complicated life, I was wrong. She was her happiest when I sat with her simply talking, singing or spending time in nature. Those are the times that brought us both joy & a peace.