I subscribe to caring. Interpreting my "internal life" to mean what I am experiencing in a given situation, my physical life harmonizes with that naturally, and sometimes that shows and sometimes I try to not let it show. I interpret my "inner world" to also mean what I am experiencing in a situation, and I sometimes harmonize my outer action to that and sometimes force myself to act in a way that is not in harmony with my inner world. For example, I have felt anxious or scared or irritated in my inner world and forced my outer action to hide that and act otherwise. What helps me welcome strangers is that I genuinely care, which I value, and I am fairly good at being present and not behaving with strings attached. Having strings attached is conniving. Judgments happen, I know I can be judgmental, and it helps me to acknowledge all that and take my judgments into consideration while being open and welcoming with some cautiousness.
On Jan 20, 2023 David Doane wrote :