@ganoba Date, what you do is right, but you just insist that the term forgiving can refer to nothing else but a false understood forgiving which is not a forgiving.
you must make a distinction between "pain" that arises in the moment, which is ment to be withnessed (without the need of beeing related to someone else) and the "pain" (despair) that you create by holding the idea that you can not be at peace with the moment, because you define your self as detemined by the past, rather than you present moment. forgiving means leaving the location of psychic time and entering the moment. eckhard tolle adresses common misunderstandings about this in the (audio) book power of now.
On Aug 13, 2008 nanook wrote on The Theory Behind Forgiveness, by Ken Wilber: