This is really powerful for me. I have experienced this observer role and my behavior and response, and have been able to adjust in the morment and respond more positively. I have also failed and experienced the residual feelings that the author describes. It is plain and simply awareness. My awareness is still growing. I can see the impact on the relationship with myself and others... very cool!
To me we are all at different places in our walk in this life. I was put off the article by the authors writing,
"The fact that most people do not see life this way testifies to how deeply asleep and in denial they truly are."
It is a judgment statement.
As I am living and being in a different country, in a different culture, people do things differently. I am finding we are basically the same, just different. Everyone's journey is different and self discovery for each of us will be different...
Wow, loved this read! Such a wonderful thing to begin my day with here in my world. A reminder of love in everything, of doing the small things with great love! The analogy of the conch shell and our whole being and the universe... of the holding and listening and the challenge to us all for compassion.
Wow, this is a thought provoking essay; thank you.
True, we, none of us, can abandon or forget our 'self'.
I guess for me, in my continuing to grow up in this life, it is a balance of humility (that helps me engage more deeply with others and enables better empathy within), and the care and love of me much like that which I work within myself to cultivate for others. I seem to be balancing this with increased awareness of my internal responses to others and pausing and feeling and allowing for understanding of others and myself in these situations. Also, the realization and experience of the larger world really does drive home the sameness of us all which has humbled me rightly.
Your term 'internal executive' is one I am not familiar with and cannot seem to find specific information on the almight worldwide web, though I feel I understand what you are referring to.
Wow, this is a pretty cool story! Relates also to last weeks reading by Timber Hawkeye and the question in his thought on wrongs and understanding, empathising with those that do the perceived wrong... and then here you are connecting it to wholeness, wow, good stuff!
The situation you approached worked out somehow for you and the old man - happily.
I struggle with stepping in or stepping up these days, when I see a wrong. I'm a pretty plain spoken person and fierce about fairness and doing right. I've picked up a few peoples stuggles in an effort and with desire to help a situation. For me, I'm in a pausing mode at present, when I witness perceived wrongs. Living in a different country and culture and interacting with others from round the world, gives ways to many, many different perspectives on right and wrong, good and bad... I appreciate your attempt to do right and bring right and calm and a broader vision/perspective to the situation here in your story.
Personal responsibility... I value it, and live by it, too.
I have been living in a new country now for two years. I am wowed at how many things though different, are the same.
I am from the San Francisco Bay Area and I am living in another 'bay area' in South East China in Zhejiang province - there's a bay and a harbor, and commerce, but it's different. As I move about my city, there are many plants that are the same and though I'm in a different place, the familiarity makes my new city feel friendlier. As I enjoy the different food here in China, I am wowed at the spices and ingredients of which many are the same that I have cooked with back home, yet the culinary outcome is different.
I am a teacher here in China and I see families that love and care for their kids. I observe families enrolling kids in activities, mom's and aunties and grannies picking up and dropping kids off, just like back home in the bay area where we love our kids and want to give them what we think they need to be successful.
The recognition of so many similarities, of so much 'same-ness' really gives way to empathy, to learning to let go of the differences and to simply accept and welcome others in to my life. This recognition and living in community in this new city, is also teaching me that for all our differences, we are more the same than imagined.
It's a beautiful thing to be so aware as to be able to pause, to empathise, and to understand why someone hates, hurts, is racist, etc.
I fall short of this empathy far to often, I'm afraid. I feel so fierce about fairness - fair treatment of others. I am tending to just become quiet especially now with the challenges politically in my home country, America, when I read or hear terrible talk about immigrants, about race, etc. For me my 'right and wrong' are really clear to me and I have sincere difficulty understanding this idea of protection or protecting with racism, or any 'ism' really.
For me the real deal is being more loving within myself, to myself and others, to be of meaningful service to someone else daily, to be accepting and loving in my words and deeds... to be my best self, better and better in every way every day... and when I fall short, I remember that tomorrow is a new day!
Sad, real life story reflected in comments by Ranuath in 2017 here and still in many places in the world... water is such a precious resource. I can recall living in an area of Japan as a young girl where water was scarce. We would have to fill our bath tubs and large containers with water to bathe and flush toilets. We had to collect drinking water from natural sources and treat it for drinking. When it would rain, in celebration my family would run out in the rain without any umbrellas, and play in the downpours!
For me the story is also a metaphor for scarcity and expecting and visualizing abundance. I live in a foreign country and am a newcomer. My mantra for meeting new people and for doing and seeing new things, is to be open to new things an dpeople and to say 'yes' to all invitations and opportunities... I expect and hope them to pour in!
I love that you do this!
Me, too! It feels so far it good to come home to all the goodness in my space!
This is a timely subject for me... I’ve been living and working internationally now for almost 2 years. I’m amazed at how apropos this theme is to all expats, we need an ear, to be heard about the challenges with transition in regards to differences and adjusting to them; me, too. This theme also rings a bell with me on listening to ourselves and our bodies always, but specifically during times of transition albeit physical or emotional change.
Elizabeth, I am inspired by your writing... I've had a desire to live around the world, to work and live in different communities. My life has been quite mainstream as a single mom focused on children and family and providing. My daughters are grown and on their way in their lives now... still I couldn't figure out how to make this live/work idea come to life for myself... then I lost my job and, to coin a business term, a forcing function occurred in the need to find a new job. I began to spread my net of out reach for a new job, as well as my networking and some educational efforts, to include opportunities abroad... I also allowed myself to dream more about the possibilities, what it might look like, how it might feel to actually live and work in another country... low and behold, I was recruited for a job in China - I accepted! And my exciting journey to live and work in other communities has begun!
...sometimes the purest among us, our children, are nothing more than sleepy and crabby when waking. Separate yourself and your own issues from your sweet baby girl. Recognize your sensitivity in possibly needing more sleep and truly nothing more. I know little of your situation but caution, that keeping things simple is always best.
Awe, hugs to you, and what a lovely salutation Conrad always used, "Kind and loving regards"; beautiful!
Ohmygoodness, I await the delivery of the weekly iJourney read with delightful anticipation! *giggle With each delivery I am encouraged to think beyond myself and I am sweetly reminded of how beauty-full life is and can be with learning and living. This weeks iJourney read, I am reminded of the engagement received at the Wednesday gatherings, the peaceful quiet of the Mehta family home and sharing of thoughts and feelings and ideas.
I felt those same blessings here the last couple visits to this iJourney post reading the thoughts and feelings of those that have shared here... I found the poem and poet to be as Pavi stated, "gentle and sharp at the same time" and reading through Katherine's and Manisha's experiences and then Somik's wisdom and connection to "The Mahabharata", I am beautifully nudged to open my heart further and my mind more to Ms. Nye's message.
Kindness, indeed awareness, can come with the experiences of a heavy load or the weight of responsibility. These experiences can give way to understanding. When the understanding is shared with another in empathy it becomes kindness. This is how it is for me, too, though additionally I would share that at best it is also in practicing kindness, or simple goodness for this matter, that the behavior will become habit and a part of my very person and further a part of my identity and my way of be-ing or the way that I am; I am kind.
I have deep and incredible gratitude for the many kindnesses shared with me, my family and those I love. Though I am sure that there are many I have forgotten, there are so very many acts of kindness I summon to my thoughts and whilst doing so I give thanks and a prayer for these kindness givers. Those that share a kindness with me inspire me to reciprocate within my world, and I do. Kindness feels good.
So my thoughts on kindness are that in practicing kindness I become kind, in recieving kindness I am energized to share kindness, and the gift of kindness and being kind increase my quotient of gratitude in living and loving.
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The power of love! So enjoy the reference to Jimi Hendrix I think of many song lyrics, "All You Need Is Love", "The Power of Love"... to name a few more. *giggle
Mostly I have reflected on the power of Love that resonates with in me 'still' from many people that have crossed my path that I haven't seen in some time and with people that I've not met though correspond with or think of regularly through prayer and meditation.
It is this power of love that makes such wonderful things possible... believing and allowing it to manifest!
Thank you Pancho for that piece of you with in me always, thank you Mehta family for your loving example of service and support in all you do, thank you Dadhich for your loving reach, thank you Jay and Dani, Thank you Maddie n' Ellie for your love, Linda and Sadie, Rosli for your love of teaching & your students, so very many more!
... Ohsomany examples of the power of love!
I missed this week and the gathering of like hearted people at the Mehta Family home. This disturbed me, and my usually staid and predictable goings on in life! As is true to Margaret Wheatley's passage though, the difference even in my activitiy this week has caused me to be out of my comfort zone adn recognize the value that the gathering in peaceful repose with 20-60 people and the habitual nature of sitting quietly has in my life.
This morning I've watched the sun rise over the desert in Las Vegas, Nevada. Absolutely beautiful how the soft pink pallet of light reflects on the hills surrounding the city. I thought of Ms. Wheatley's writing and agree that it is our differences that are beautiful, thought provoking, sometimes uncomfortable, for me always attractive and essential to individual and group growth. A friend of mine use to say to me that it is our differences that make us who we are and also keep things interesting!
There is something more to this stopping and listening and recognizing the discomfort that Margaret writes about ... it is intuition as well, our gut feeling, our inner compass. The wisdom comes to us in recognizing the what and why we are uncomfortable. This allows us to learn more about ourselves and each other. I return to the words of so many in our Wednesday circle - understanding and compassion for ourselves and others.
Why I Sit… Seeking peace Of mind Within my heart In search of connections With you Within the world A quest for Understanding and Compassion Mindful equanimity Discovering quietness Sitting peacefully 10/2009 SB
Why I Sit…
Within my heart
In search of connections
Within the world
A quest for
I am interested in my mind.”, this statement conjured up so very many things the days before our weekly gathering and even still today several days following. Then reading the passage from “Why I Sit” by Paul Fleishman, brought to mind many more things about nature, about our human nature, about meditating, about why we as individuals do any number of many things we do and also about taking care of our bodies and our hearts and minds by being present with ourselves as well as with others. As is the usual case, the nature of the Wednesday evening gatherings at the Mehta Family Home, this coming together of mindful, thoughtful and heart felt individuals was as colorful and profound as Mr. Fleishman’s eloquent prose.
As the mic rounded the room, people spoke of why they choose to meditate: for clarity, for peace in their hearts and minds, to recharge, to connect with their inner self, to connect with nature, to learn more about themselves and to better understand themselves and others.
Others spoke about our very natures as individuals and as a species and comparing ourselves to the snow goose that innately knows it must migrate with the change of season. The comparison came with the fact that as humans we have choice. The choice to find quiet within that in practice allows us to be better connected with ourselves and with each other and with the world around us. The choice of inward reflection affording us the internal resources to assess situations with better clarity, to be able to have compassion and understanding of ourselves and others, and to find the joy in our connections and in our everyday.
A common thought this evening was that as humans we are born with this ability to find quiet within and to understand and have compassion and understanding for ourselves and others. Several people shared stories of their children and of themselves as younger people and the how naturally we seemed to do these things but as life becomes more full or we become more involved in living we loose touch with this ability.
For me discovering meditation and recognizing my desire for seeking quiet within , is a gift from Maddie, my oldest daughter. Maddie introduced me to meditation when she was 8 years old (she’s now 14!) as she was enjoying doing this in class with her second grade teacher Mrs. Gillies. Maddie invited me to create a sacred space in our home and to sit with her and meditate. At 8 my daughter was where I desire to be right this minute in my 40‘s! I learn so many things from Maddie that I, as my friends shared this evening, practiced and “knew” when I was a kid. I feel blessed in so many ways, mostly that one of my most favorite people, who I’ve thought I would be teaching about life and living, wonderfully teaches me every day about loving, acceptance, understanding and compassion.
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This weeks passage and gathering was as enjoyable and impactful as always, though I noticed that the e-responses on the site here were much more than usual! A very interesting and topic of interest to many!
If I Really Pay Attention... I found myself changing the word my to I all week as I reflected on this passage. The change became powerful for me in my every interaction with customers, coworkers, friends, family and especially my lovely daughters!
This Wednesday evening in the Mehta Family home, there was great energy around this topic. Some interesting threads of thought exchanged are as follows:
How we are "heard" by another and what another person's perspective is on what we say. The gent sitting next to me this evening hit it right on the head with this observation. What he actually said was that it is never too late to reflect upon what someone says and really understand what you heard. He shared that his coworker in a remote office misheard and misread his intent when he was visiting the local office and requesting assistance on a project. At first he didn't get it at all, but later, upon reflection he totally understood where this person was coming from and why they reacted the way they did to him and his request. Such a powerful recognition. If we can slow down and listen more effectively at the moment, wow, what clarity, understanding and harmony we might be able to contribute to in an exchange.
Another sharing was that when we concentrate on the words a person is saying we loose the message and actually the physical experience of listening is limited. Sharing furhter around the room it came to be said that listening is observing, hearing, having compassion and understanding, and feeling with our hearts the other individual.
A couple of people shared experiential exercises they participated in regarding "listening" activities. From corporate training events, to university studies, to non profit organization team building exercises. The information discovered was the same; communication takes at least 2 of us, it requires being "present" with the other person andi n the intereaction, this allows "feeling" the other person by observation, energy, physical expression and curiously the 'words" though valuable and important were not neccessarily the key componanat to listening! Really!!
For me, "If I Really Pay Attention" to my daughters as they share with me about their most recent test scores, or the upcoming class project, or student activity at school, I will hear thier desire to achieve, to make and build good relationships, the anxiety that comes with being a teenager, and perhaps I will realize that sometimes the simple act of listening, giving a smile, a high five, a huge hug and kiss, being available to take and pick up, is really all these lovely women need at the moment... just lending an ear and reaching understanding.
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the measure of time given to a task at hand
or the need to be fulfilled
or a desire held deep within
giving equal measure to each
learning to be comfortable
with incremental gain
a fullness of pleasure
observing a wholeness of self
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I had the pleasure of sharing another Wednesday evening in the company of like hearted people in the Mehta Family home in the south bay! I’m humbled again and again at the mindfulness of this community, the true consideration that many give to the thought for the week. Perhaps the best part is the joy and laughter that we share too, about the thoughts especially with Thoi, Bhoutik and even Pancho! This passage makes me think of the vision the Mehta family first had 12+ years ago with the first meditation evening hosted in their home. Did they believe the group would continue these many years later, be in practice around the world, and having touched so many peoples lives? Or do they simply focus on the week in which the Wednesday falls. Preparing the lesson, choosing the food menue… Interesting how the author simplified the processes of vision and focus to a housekeeping chore- sweeping the floor; something we all can relate too, in one fashion or another. The repetitiveness of sweeping, the necessity of the act, and the strategy of the focus on the task. The analogy is able to be used in regards to so many different things in our lives from our jobs and the companies we work for, to our personal lives and families , mates, children and parents and all we do each day in this circle of people. The process transfers to a students plan for education whether it be for secondary education or post secondary education; the need for a vision or a goal and for focus on the achievement of this goal. This Wednesday evening the number in attendance allowed for a bit longer sharing when passing the mic though the input and the thoughtful nature of the group was par for our weekly gathering. Several different analysis of the ideas of “focus” and “vision” were shared in ways that we all could understand from the perspective of a software engineer and the constant bigger picture of applications running in the background and the immediate use application in the foreground, to focus & vision compared to a volume button of a radio; all interesting and thought provoking. Our community welcomed newcomers and returning members alike… I’ve been very focused lately on a particular project of importance, and when I step back and gain perspective of my vision again, I am able to breath a sigh in the realization, that the tasks are doable and that my vision remains reasonable and attainable. @ @ @ @
I had the pleasure of sharing another Wednesday evening in the company of like hearted people in the Mehta Family home in the south bay! I’m humbled again and again at the mindfulness of this community, the true consideration that many give to the thought for the week. Perhaps the best part is the joy and laughter that we share too, about the thoughts especially with Thoi, Bhoutik and even Pancho!
This passage makes me think of the vision the Mehta family first had 12+ years ago with the first meditation evening hosted in their home. Did they believe the group would continue these many years later, be in practice around the world, and having touched so many peoples lives? Or do they simply focus on the week in which the Wednesday falls. Preparing the lesson, choosing the food menue…
Interesting how the author simplified the processes of vision and focus to a housekeeping chore- sweeping the floor; something we all can relate too, in one fashion or another. The repetitiveness of sweeping, the necessity of the act, and the strategy of the focus on the task. The analogy is able to be used in regards to so many different things in our lives from our jobs and the companies we work for, to our personal lives and families , mates, children and parents and all we do each day in this circle of people. The process transfers to a students plan for education whether it be for secondary education or post secondary education; the need for a vision or a goal and for focus on the achievement of this goal.
This Wednesday evening the number in attendance allowed for a bit longer sharing when passing the mic though the input and the thoughtful nature of the group was par for our weekly gathering. Several different analysis of the ideas of “focus” and “vision” were shared in ways that we all could understand from the perspective of a software engineer and the constant bigger picture of applications running in the background and the immediate use application in the foreground, to focus & vision compared to a volume button of a radio; all interesting and thought provoking.
Our community welcomed newcomers and returning members alike… I’ve been very focused lately on a particular project of importance, and when I step back and gain perspective of my vision again, I am able to breath a sigh in the realization, that the tasks are doable and that my vision remains reasonable and attainable.
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Thank you to the the Mehta Family for your home and the delicious meals you prepare for us, for your loving nature and the opportunity to sit in meditative repose within community.
The question that was posed this Wednesday evening as the mic passed through the community at the Mehta house, was how is your life plan from age 20 progressing for you from then to the present day? In other words is your life as you planned?
Interestingly from the youngest to the oldest among those that chose to reflect in this manner on Niccole Grassete's writing, the resounding answer was no and even more that it didn't matter that the plan was not met!
The reality is that life is a working plan!
The recurring message, attitude and desired behavior of so many in our community is to live in the moment, to be present in this moment with who you are with and with what you are doing. As the mic continued to move around the room this evening, most shared they liked the idea of some sort of plan something forward thinking, though they desired to not be chained to the "plan" but rather to be accepting of the changes that might occur with the “plan“.
There were a number of our community returning, those that had been unable to attend for weeks or even months, Susan from England joined too, having been wanting to attend a Wednesday evening for so very long and finally being able to!
As these several weeks and many weekly reflections have passed behind us, this week's lesson was equally as poignant as so many before, though perhaps this week for many, acceptance that life is truly every changing and that it's alright to go with the flow and still have a plan a road map of sorts, well it seemed a healthy recognition for us.
Several other thoughts came up as well, such as Rumi's poetic thought, "May the beauty we love be what we do." Is it like Rumi writes or like Cheryl Crow sings, “It's not having what you want, It's wanting what you've got.”
The consensus for sure was that small acts of love and kindness were just as important as the larger acts such as eradicating polio in a portion of the world! That each of us, in our small acts of kindness ,can change the world, our little worlds, and have an impact on those we love and the stranger we pass on the street with a kind gesture, word, and even with the sweetest smile. \:-D
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Hump day, mid week, Wednesday arrives and it is time for the weekly gathering in the Mehta Family home. Truth be told the community created here is on going beyond the weekly evening gatherings that have occurred for the past 12+ years. We arrive and enter the meditation setting in silence. We are physically coming together once again and the ripple affect of this community is far reaching up north and south, east and west on the San Francisco Peninsula, across the United States and internationally via physical connection, electronic medium and phone. After meditation and the reading of the weekly inspiration, and during the serving of the shared meal, the connectiveness, familiarity and love is evident among those attending for the first, second or gazillionth time!
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Amazingly each Wednesday as part of this community of people who've come together to sit quietly together, reflect and than break bread in communion - I find myself humbled by the deep insight of my companions!
Intermittantly all week I thought about my "choices". This thought empowers me and gives me the responsiblity of manging my life - my thoughts, the attic of my mind, the physical house of mine... I find i like "things" figurtively and physically.
The beauty of our Wednesday community is that in the most sincere and genuine way these companions of mine assist me on my journey - daily!
As we passed the mic and introduced ourselves and shared reflections on the reading and of those in our hearts many themes came to mind and to the group... the notion of the mind body connection and health and aging and of simplifying our thoughts and our belongings in a way that frees up space for fresh new thoughts and behaviors. I can put this behavior in to action!
Another notion that came to mind is the metaphor of a house and our minds and memories being the "attic". Taken directly from Thanissaro Bhikkhu's writing, the idea of putting away or of hiding things/feelings/experiences in our attics and that periodically it was healthly to take out the old and unused no longer usefull to lighten our psychies for a more open approach to ourselves and others. This is a practice I can put in to action, too!
Another notion was one of clearing space to enable acting out of kindness to another especially in times of frustration or anger or when feeling a need to be blatantly honest with another. When we free up the space in our minds it allows for a more thoughtful approach to others. Love this thought, too!
As I listen to my companions each Wednesday evening I'm humbled at the insights that are shared and too, by the compassion, love and support that shows in each face as the mic is passed and sharing continues. Even first time visitors share openly their feelings and needs in this respectful environment.
Even as the week moves closer to the next Wednesday, I find myself still reflecting on the lessons, the insights I gain each week about my companions and myself... thank you![Hide Full Comment]
Leadership as service, being part of a team as service, part of a friendship as service, participating in family as service… putting ourselves equally with another in context of relationship! I get this thought, this ideal! This ideal of service in leadership, in relationships overall, resonates with me in the most delicious way!
In my work the very best bosses or leaders I’ve worked for made me feel that they were there for me! And the other members of our team felt the same way. Our productivity was always high, commitment was foremost as was loyalty because we all felt the respect, trust, commitment from our leader - service!
In my best and most successful friendships the mutual giving and nurturing, the service to each other, has been the “why” our relationships continue… We are equals, giving to each other because of the love we feel for one another - service.
My family circle works so successfully because of service to each other and the whole. My vegan daughter often prepares our family meals. This loving act ensures that all items are vegan, but more Maddie is serving her sister and I out of love! Not to mention that her cooking is pretty darn good!
The passage also has me reflecting on difficult or currently relationships that are not very successful. The missing element is “service” as much as the struggle for power. I recognize that I cannot change anyone else, or cause anyone to behave in a particular way. What I can do is begin the change with myself by finding compassion and understanding for the other(s) in these difficult relationships and also to be of service to them and the group. The eternal optimist I am, tells me that this gentle loving approach might afford the change in our relationship that brings about a change in the overall attitude and intent of the other(s).
Giving , doing and meeting another, there
Where they are at on their journey
Sharing compassion and understanding with another, where
We find ourselves together at this moment in time
Replacing expectation with the richness of giving, for another
Bringing about a change in self that ripples out to another, and another, and another…
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Driving to the weekly gathering there was traffic which would cause me to arrive late and my mind was so full - the events of the day and week were pressing on my mind. All week I reflected on the inspirational reading and on how busy my mind is mothering two teenage girls, with my work, with my family and with all that I desire in my life. I have a full, busy, active mind!
I arrived to our wonderfully quiet gathering space, to the warm smell of incense and the meditation had already begun; I'd missed the symbolic ringing of the bell. I peeked around the corner in to the mediation area and found an available cushion on the floor, sat, began to take comfortable breaths and to settle in next to my neighbors.
But my mind would not quiet.
I continued to have thoughts of the day, of the week, of relationships. I began to think of "love". My mind continued to be active and loud and I giggled as I "thought" so much. Just then a very cold blast of air hit the small of my back! My cushion sat right in front of the vent in the room! I giggled loudly inside and felt like a child in church who just could not settle down!
I realized I'm new at this mediation that I need to learn the fundamentals, but where to begin. I realized the difficult relationships just required my love; but how to love these difficult people?
Then the ringing of the bell signaling the end of our hour of “quiet” and our evening guides read the weekly inspiration aloud and our sharing began. In this moment as I sat and listened, I felt that God is great, the Universe is great and that I am given everything I ask for and need… and, all my questions during my "quiet" time were answered!
How can I love these difficult people? Compassion and understanding, my compassion and understanding of them! And the icing on the cake, another reminded me to accept people where they're at in that moment, be present with them, compassionate and understanding of them.
How to meditate? Nudged by the sharing of another, Michael Singer's writing of the weekly inspiration just so happens to be a simple instruction on how to meditate! Ohmygoodness, answers!
It is the whole of this experience, the daily reflection on the inspirational reading, the gathering with community in quiet meditation, the sharing of individual thoughts; I can learn, with practice, to find quiet and step back from my beautiful active mind. This is my gift from God and the Universe – a new found community in the generosity of a family opening their hearts & home and preparing space & nourishment for me.[Hide Full Comment]
Since 2006 I have been on an new life journey that brought me back to the bay area and to come to be introduced to Charity Focus... Ms. Palmo's writing reminds me of so very much in my life, and our Wednesday gathering and sharing inspires me.
After Pavi read the reading aloud on Wednesday evening one of the attendees spoke about our attachments in love as representing lessons we still have to learn, another spoke about holding on to memories and people and things and needing to learn the lessons of letting go, others spoke about loss of loved ones by death or distance and letting go or celebrating their lives... I found I could relate to all of those thoughts and behaviors and feelings.
More for me though, I found myself realizing the lessons of love I learn each day from my daughters that are 12 and 14.
Since my oldest daughter, Madeline, was 7 years old she has asked me to meditate with her, to create a sacred space in our home and to sit quietly together. I'm just now finding the ability to allow myself to slow down, to stop and sit in quiet with myself! Madeline has always had a quietness inside her and has loved and forgiven easily!
My youngest daughter, Eleanor, is the most gregarious and loving person I think I've ever met. Eleanor makes a friend wherever she goes and has the courage to stand for the underdog in any situation. She is not the quiet one, but her energy and character propel her to engage with people and to love them for who they are and where they're at in life.
These two incredible young women teach me daily about loving, letting things go, forgiveness, sitting quietiy, and also a good deal about having plain ole fashioned funnn and enjoying life! I'm blessed with two incredible teachers living right beside me in example of living and loving well. And to think I thought I would be the one teaching them about life! ;-)
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Mr. Fleishman... I read and now reread your post... I'm inspired to truly sit and listen to the quiet, to me, to the outside... the theme of death stopped me at the first, then in rereading I'm understanding the idea...
I've a need to listen, to stop and listen and to hear.
I appreciate the humility in your statement , "There is little I have heard from others ... that I have not seen in myself as I sit." We're all so much the same, it's good and ok to love ourself as we appreciate and love and listen to someone else.
Thanks for a well written thought and a well stated discipline and practice... I'm inspired!
On Sep 13, 2022 Susan wrote on On Love, by Justin Faerman: