I feel that replacing of 'coercion' and 'should' mindset with trust hall make such a huge difference. I feel like going back in time and doing so in incidents where I have been coercive with others or myself.
Thanks for sharing your observation, it is helpful indeed for others too. It is true that we create anxiety, tension and excitement etc. Its our reaction to a situation which gets reflected in our behavior. The observance as you did is similar to what is taught in vipassana. Pratice of 'samta; and 'pragya' is very useful for each awareness.
Hope your journey is going good. Have faith, you may lose out on few things which give false sense of security but gain few others which help you evolve as a person. I remember my past and some of younger friends , relatives present on reading your piece. I can assure all will be good for soul, go with trust in universe!
Being vulnerable is my new mantra. It just frees me from all fears of failure, looking good, losing out to evil or wrong, being taken for granted etc.
So much power in this , to surrender to the unknown and now I can follow the path i decide to take. I am not bothered about anything now but my own vision and choice to live each moment. I am ready for anything for what i believe in and want to practice. Now, i live without securing all but just have everything on stake for that which counts for me.
Sir, hope your pain is less now or you are able to manage the feeling of it. Wish you wisdom and peace.
Are you feeling alone or sad for losing your partner, that could be one reason of your pain. Please, think, meditate and try to let go of such stored emotions. Amen.
i can see that he is talking about those times when we are so busy that anything which slows us down does not fit in. We dont smile, cant care, we are just running fast to achieve God knows what! We don't see to have patience and listening and start losing on loving relations. We may realize that we missed a lot when we stop by due to some failure or problem and see that we actually did not live at all.
Most problems in the world exist because we consider each other separate so we want to occupy more, be selfish and win over each other and cause several problems for these. If there are no boundaries ,all these fights are resolved. I love others as much as myself, and share everything with others with love.
The concept is very vast, and this was just one example for the same.
The passage is beautiful and a very good message indeed. I see myself few years back, saying whatever came into my mouth/mind and then saying sorry if it wasnt apt. I was truthful and i was honest. I learnt in corporate world and with outsiders that this would not do. I was punished for what i said in several ways, not getting promotion, out of the group and regular little fights.
I changed myself speaking lesser after thinking more, but ofcourse i feel less alive now. Less fulfilled and more fearful. I do think that being in an environment where you do not fit because you are just different becomes a problem. Changing yourself and constrainting your ways to less expressive and more as per social norms is a bigger problem. I am yet to find a solution which works all the time. I try to balance by being raw & expressive with few close friends now.
What you have stated above does exist and I have experienced it myself. There are all kinds of people, some who would accept and motivate us very soon, others who would be tough to please and others who may express negativity even when you are being good.
The understanding i derived from these experiences was that i did little good and wanted something back, in terms of acceptance, acknowledgement. I was limited. The tough and negative people who create problems, actually ask you to raise the bar. o not judge them or try to correct them, that hurts. Be even more kind, more loving, more forgiving. Be there for more sacrifices and support if you truly love them and want nothing in return. It is easier said than done.
I did maintain a distance with people who were consistently bad after few attempts of being good But I forgave them. I also continued to care for their important needs though i kept myself away from day to day conversations. I was being taken for granted so that became less and I got some consideration from their end plus i freed myself from thinking and worrying about them too much.
It is beautiful to realize that love is not only expressed as love , goodness or kindness but also as tolerance, patience, humbleness etc. Loving enough can do wonders, hope we all increase our capacity to love day on day. Amen.
I am grateful for this reading, this is so educational in terms of understanding ourselves. I have been able to see my own anger, fear or other emotions few times but after they are there and I have reacted. This is a good achievement de to meditation i would say as earlier i was completely unaware. However, observing the beginning of these is a new idea to me altogether and yes it is thrilling.
The complete post is quite informative on observing self and comments as usual are very helpful. I plan to read the book and other links posted in reading and comments. Thank you for so much wisdom in the beginning of week.
Love this group.
Being truthful, authentic and shining for the benefit of all with us, supporting their spiritual growth, wonderful message.
Anyone who comes in your company grows as a human being in positive ways, would like to follow this.
Anger has been my issue from beginning. I am not sure why unfair attitude or my perceiving of another as wrong caused anger in me several times since childhood. It has lessened now, but still exists sometimes.
Probably, I feel vulnerable in such situations when the other person would not follow values and get angry , want to set things right and end up leaving a bad impression with nothing changing in that moment atleast.
I felt it was being weak to bear with such situations without revolting head-on against them, to let people know, this is not accepted.
Not been very successful with the whole thing though, still not sure what's good way to handle such situations. Trying to be more peaceful within by practicing meditation and silence.
Thanks a lot for bringing this up and providing valuable suggestions.
I went in for an hour of silence before reading this passage. Silence , I said to myself means silence of creating new thoughts, judgements, or imaginations. Silence shall mean just receiving, listening and accepting as it is. No desire for coming out of the posture due to pain in leg or even using the time most effectively etc. Just let it be silence of senses and head.
It was a great feeling indeed, I got peaceful with trying this practice of silence, though not perfectly.
The passage gave me exactly similar message. Accept, keep patience, and have faith, be silent and there shall be beautiful gifts pouring out , just what you need.
Thanks for the enlightenment through passage and comments..