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For me, forgiving is not something am doing good for others but to myself. Hatred should not be homed in our lives for our own good. It is stressful, time consuming and exhausting. Most of us normally do not come across things we cannot forgive. However, they may be certain incidents, which might have turned their life into trauma and brought to dead end. I understand it would be painful and not easy to just forgive when a victim suffers and assailant living a care free life. I pray, every one gets strength to handle those misfortunes and start over again. Paramatma bless!

Sir, I have a question for you. Richard Rohr - this sentence: "Set your intention to welcome everything you are and watch your life open like a fist, like a flower, like a gate". Isn't this statement flawed? intention could be good or bad. Terrorism is also an intention of destruction. Accepting is different from reflecting. One accepts it all but may choose not to reflect.

I feel when a person wants to reflect they will always find a way to reflect. This reading is absolutely good for the ones who should get inspired and accept what they are. (if they are good person) What about those people who accepts am selfish, greedy and there is nothing wrong hurting others if it serves me good? Will they ever reflect themselves. During the counselling sessions I come across so many twisted minds. It is good to accept positive and negative so that one can bring about a change to be better person. Without change 'accepting' is useless. Besides, after accepting they should find it immoral to do wrong things, which is very difficult. Even after explaining what they have done wrong - "They say that as a counsellor I cannot understand their perspective".

What I learnt in my life is every experience is precious. Not only we are bound to make mistakes, we will also be wronged. This is the beauty of life. It is we who have to observe, think and reflect. A simple way to live is just take a single step to better ourselves with our every single experience. Life is very precious, like mine - every ones too.

I respect Vinoba Bhaveji. But I disagree to the concept of waiting for the nature to give. The coin has two sides but we often see just the one we want to notice, rest is just left unnoticed. One side of the picture is Vinoba Bhaveji is waiting for the nature - good. But I equally respect the boy - What he gave was not just the fruit - it was an affection. The boy also taught we need to put effort in our lives - nothing is free. Am sad that people saw Vinoba Bhave's ideas but why is innocent boy neglected? We all here have accepted from the nature by will, force - directly or indirectly. If not, will it be possible for farmers to survive? What about the massive population will we be able to survive?

Isn't everyone of us Hero of our own lives? Our life may not be remarkable like celeb, whom we generally may find flashy. We can choose what we have to do with our lives. Isn't that good thing? Unexpected event may shatter us. Isn't that everyone faces in their lives, even the celebs? What I have learnt is everyone has their own fears and shortcomings. We face it, endure it, run away or die yet we are the hero of our own story. I was shattered when one of my closest deceived me - I thought hatred would run through my veins but only I could choose was apathy. (I could never hate someone whom I trusted immensely) And of course, lesson of life. What one does wrong is their KARMA to bare. One thing is sure it will not make me immune to trust others. If I did, I would destroy myself and surely I love myself.

I agree with you cen percent

Empathy must be sincere from both sides. true. but what is wrong with accepting empathy so what it is not sincere. Why is it a bait? For some people who is a loner may need someone to comfort them. It doesn't matter who it is, even if it is just a tech stuff. Though I feel tech is not completely reliable, not yet.

So true. I believe that thinking process is really good. It is exhaustive when it is taken negatively. Like if i make a mistake, I need to reflective myself so I do not have any regrets. If I am in difficult phase of my life, I will work on how to resolve. If someone deceives, is it end of my life, I have think of how do I work to come out it. When my dad passed away, I felt i hit rock bottom. It still pains when I think of it. But, then how can I forget if I will be vulnerable, I will make my husband and child vulnerable too. Besides, dad would never like to see me unhappy. Thought process helps us to come out of our worst situations. For me, I am grateful to god that I am still alive and have my loved ones around. This is my greatest happiness rest anything can be resolved.

what a wonderful thought. Even thinking life in this angle just makes it so beautiful.

The Day I Learned Giving We are the culmination of the experiences we gather, shaped by the vigour and attitude with which we approach life’s journey. Even when people go through similar experiences, each of us may still choose a different path. We all believe our chosen path is right—yet ultimately, only time is the true judge. I was fortunate to have a protector in my life. Whenever I strayed toward a path that might lead me astray, an incident would arise that quietly guided me back. My dad always believed in giving, though it did not make sense to me then. When I was still in school, he asked me to tutor his friend’s two sons for free because their family was going through financial hardship. I accepted, though unwillingly, and continued doing it for a couple of years. One day, I overheard one of the boys speaking ill of my dad. When I questioned him, the truth spilled out—shocking and unbelievable. For a moment, I thought I had misheard him. He called my dad a fool, and he said it with a sly smile. From as early as seven or eight years old, my mind had already begun treading a karmic path—questioning, reasoning, defining and redefining my own beliefs. Situations like this put me at war with myself. A flurry of questions filled my thoughts. I was a mess, confused and torn. Was my dad right or wrong? If he was right, why was he being mocked? If he was wrong, then was doing good not the right path? What was the point of sacrificing my time and potential earnings for people who did not even respect him? While I was still struggling with these questions, the next unexpected episode silenced my confusion. One day, after boarding a bus, I realised I had forgotten my wallet. Just as I was about to get down, an old man paid for my fare despite my protests. When I asked where I could find him to return the money, he simply said, “You don’t need to pay me. If you want to return the favour, do something good for someone else without expecting ... [View Full Comment] The Day I Learned Giving We are the culmination of the experiences we gather, shaped by the vigour and attitude with which we approach life’s journey. Even when people go through similar experiences, each of us may still choose a different path. We all believe our chosen path is right—yet ultimately, only time is the true judge. I was fortunate to have a protector in my life. Whenever I strayed toward a path that might lead me astray, an incident would arise that quietly guided me back. My dad always believed in giving, though it did not make sense to me then. When I was still in school, he asked me to tutor his friend’s two sons for free because their family was going through financial hardship. I accepted, though unwillingly, and continued doing it for a couple of years. One day, I overheard one of the boys speaking ill of my dad. When I questioned him, the truth spilled out—shocking and unbelievable. For a moment, I thought I had misheard him. He called my dad a fool, and he said it with a sly smile. From as early as seven or eight years old, my mind had already begun treading a karmic path—questioning, reasoning, defining and redefining my own beliefs. Situations like this put me at war with myself. A flurry of questions filled my thoughts. I was a mess, confused and torn. Was my dad right or wrong? If he was right, why was he being mocked? If he was wrong, then was doing good not the right path? What was the point of sacrificing my time and potential earnings for people who did not even respect him? While I was still struggling with these questions, the next unexpected episode silenced my confusion. One day, after boarding a bus, I realised I had forgotten my wallet. Just as I was about to get down, an old man paid for my fare despite my protests. When I asked where I could find him to return the money, he simply said, “You don’t need to pay me. If you want to return the favour, do something good for someone else without expecting anything back. Think of it as returning my kindness. This way, goodness and faith will keep circulating in our society.” That moment was an eye-opener—a perfect answer to the turmoil in my mind. It showed me how even a small act of giving can brighten someone’s life. Giving does not always have to be monetary. It can be kindness, time, words of support, or simply sharing one’s food. It can be soothing a hurting heart or making someone in need feel less alone. From that day on, the value of giving became deeply ingrained in me. [Hide Full Comment]

I can only say, give only as much as you can afford, not to go down. Give to them whom you expect no return then you know how much you can actually afford to give. I am really sorry about the worst thing that happened to you. Again, giving is not only monetary. One can give moral support, physical help or other kind. Giving makes our world beautiful and better place to live. Giving is a hope.

Waiting without expectation is not necessarily good and waiting with an expectation is not necessarily bad. Are they not part of our life? And we must cherish every bit of our life that is what my belief is. Being a homemaker I have lot of time to spare and lot of waiting time too. But I have never felt unhappy about it. However, I have learnt many ways so that I could engage myself in some kind of work. It is human nature, some crib about waiting time while others whine about having to work like machine and need some waiting time. Running time or waiting time is all 'Our Precious Time' of our lives which we will never get back. How to use those time is up to us, to make it beautiful.

In the series of events in our life, where good, bad or ugly would be a part and parcel, each of us have our own share of it. There are situations in our lives that we have not experienced yet we have an opinion. We may not know what the other is undergoing and yet we have an advice for them. Intentionally or unintentionally our remarks or behaviour will be the reason for someone’s pain yet we have no consideration. However, when we are in the similar condition or phase we are stressed. We blame others, expect understanding. Even if we regret our past mistakes, we never admit or apologise even though it may haunt us. We need to understand is, practically it is not possible for ourselves to be always right. So, can’t we go a step ahead to apologise when we realise our mistake. And in case, if it is the other way round, shouldn’t we just let it go with smile, thinking that poor thing must not have experienced the situation, which could be the reason for rudeness. It would be a bold statement to say that we can always forgive everything and everyone for whatever they do. However, if we stress ourselves for others wrong doing, aren’t we punishing ourselves for the mistakes committed by others? We should know to let go, for ouselves to have a peaceful life and believe in our KARMA. KARMA is a boomerang, it will revert back sooner or later.

Everything comes with a purpose. Night we sleep because it is dark. Darkness implies dark times of our life where we spend sleeping, which also means it is meant to rest. Rest our body,and organs, relaxing & calming our mind and soul. It also indicates a transition period from darkness to light. In turn sunlight brings energy, hope and a dream of a good day ahead.

I personally believe, every difficulty in my life made me think better and develop stronger version of myself. If I would not have faced difficulty, I probably might not understand the pain one goes through, and I would have been insensitive to their agony. Now I feel alive to understand and resolve others problem. I totally feel connected and exactly feel the feeling one undergoes.

There was a time I was shunned and I did not speak, for not 4 weeks or 4 months but for almost 4 years. Faced countless emotional difficulties. But with every difficulty it evolved me, and if one does not loose hope, work hard towards the positivity, then happiness is inevitable. And one who has foundtrue happiness, the need to grasp counterfeit gold nullifies.

Sorry Sir, I feel irrespective what our upbringing was, how our childhood was, one can bring positive change in oneself. What I learnt in my life is ............. I can give others what I was deprived of..... i.e. love, affection and care.....because I know its importance in our lives....... and I can also give what I already have......positive thoughts..... positive vibes.

In this case, I am a little selfish......I love to smile and see everyone happy....so I make efforts to, try to bring positive changes in people around me......

True, none of us can choose a family where we are born. It is beyond our control. Each of us get to face right and wrong, good and bad. It is practically impossible to have each and everything perfect in our life. But with every wrong it gives us an opportunity to learn and with every right it gives hope to better ourselves.

Being a girl born in a conservative family, with lots of society norms, I had no right to even decide my own dress, forget about the life partner. Born in a South Indian family, the only freedom I enjoyed was a freedom to education. I never felt its importance when I was little.But this freedom of education opened my path to my beautiful life. Life of hope and independent decisions.

Ultimately, our life leads us to the decision we make. Our decisions always reflects in our life. I am fortunate and blessed with life where I get to live the life, which I never thought was possible when I was in my teens.

I totally believe that different world is possible because even after being born and brought up in conservative family, I wear western outfits which I am comfortable with, worked as a counselor in the international level, opted for love marriage and live life with my terms. What more I would expect from life. I am so gratefulto GOD to be blessed and hope in return I could be of some use to people and bring smile in their lives.

So true, not to conjure up with all kind of imaginations and empty ourselves with those idle and unwanted thoughts. We are continuously in the process of thinking. Stress, anxiety clouding our mind makes our thought vague and us vulnerable. To have clear mind, it is very much necessary to empty it and fill it with positive thought and always do something that could bring smile to someones face.

It is not necessary we get everything in our life that we have expected, it can never be possible. But we can make it better and beautiful by cleansing ourselves physically and mentally every now and then. Letting go the unwanted and nurturing whatever we have...that is our present.