Respected Sis Asha Ji ,
Your comments as you mentioned discussed before in your spritual circle . What you said is really a very very important and sincere learning . But as you know there are every kind of people of ,stress over aspect of only spiritual thinking , very few give their opinion and could be mould either way .
Why people keen to have others problems and least bother abut their own problems . It gives pleseant and soothing effect to the heart of course if one take initiative to solve others problem , giving backseat to his own problem . But if you are living on others dream ,it is not practical be yourself .