When I was care giving for my mother in her last few years I quickly learned to spend time with her without bringing my agenda into the day. At first I wanted to schedule our days with everything I thought would bring her joy. In my mind I thought she deserved to experience so much because of her hard & complicated life, I was wrong. She was her happiest when I sat with her simply talking, singing or spending time in nature. Those are the times that brought us both joy & a peace.
I have been doing the same in my life. I grew up in a childhood of drama & at times physical abuse of my mother & myself. The first 20 or 30 years of adulthood took many turns, counseling & getting my whole self healthy mentally & physically. But I always wanted the kindness I saw in the world to become a daily mantra & behavior! I realized during the Pandemic & shutdown we really needed all the extra kindness we could find for a healthier, happier world! This article touched on so many topics I’ve thought about. Thankfully my spouse has the same attitude about living, he always says being kind & safe are the important behaviors for every life. My personal license plate on my vehicle reads:
It’s a daily reminder to me and anyone who follows behind me on this bumpy road called life.
On May 23, 2023 Phyllis wrote on Letting Someone Know They're Not Alone Is No Small Thing, by Deborah Hawkins: