All Comments By Paul Fillinger

this causes my reflections of times (church, community, etc) when I have been judgmental and distracted by others rather than concentrating on the organic idea of unconditional giving.

Your post, Lori, goes to the heart. I'm living though that situation right now. This approach will make me a better caregiver.

Frankly, I had never thought this closely about the three. It is like waking up. I love these differences and attitude about relation to another. The judgement or indebtedness that we unconsciously bestow on others when we can deal with the whole person. I will try this--I can't think of ever quite doing this.

How do I give? There are so many situations but this causes me to think about what I'm doing and how I'm doing it. It clarifies so much for me but there is something inside that argues about "kingly giving" in that we don't want to give ourselves away. I've thought we need to keep something of ourselves. Maybe I'm not understanding?

My daughter and I were caught in one of those "life and death struggles: She wanted to go out with friends; I wanted her to stay home and do family things. Things were intractable until I remembered about "letting go", it didn't have to be a war between my way or your way. I tried it and the war was over. We both accepted the "what is" and went on to have a nice family evening.

money has always been a problem for me. As a depression baby we leaned to be very frugal. Money has never rushed through me. It's not been a friend only a necessity, a necessary evil. Nipun gave a wonderful overview of what the service is all about; very inspirational. I wanted to hear more from Waldinger as to observations from 8 decades of interviews. Money is a tough subject for me.

not sure I've ever got to the fourth level