Just today I awoke with an understanding why "judging" is so "bad". When I judge , "good or bad" it removes me from the experience. When I am removed from the experience I cant accept. When I cant accept, I am feel lost & disconnected!
" Love with hands wide open" to me means loving without grabbing on to. it means giving without being possessive. it means giving without expecting, receiving, getting , taking in return. it means free love.
maybe breaking the unhealthy bonds is about creating the space and fertile ground to have the capacity to love .maybe the sadness and challenges are just necessary for fine tuning, they are different stages of development and the expression of living love
Now I understand why my world has been falling apart!. The Universe is preparing me for Love! After getting past feelings of anger that I have had for many years I am now slowly getting in touch with sadness. Its very deep and I can only feel little bits at a time. The sadness is me being alone. I do understand that I have been dependent on the "outside" since I was a baby, beginning with my mom. That has transmuted to institutionalized Jewish religion which I am now in a evolution/revolution stage until I find my path being connected to God and myself. I am hoping that my path will be the one of love! Thank you so much, I feel wonderful that now I can have a community of "lovers:"