As I/we age, we become more and more who we are. The opinions of others, regarding my behavior/appearance/choices mean little to me at 64 years. At 16, 30, 50 I cared enough to consider changing. I'm content, not always comfortable with, who I am in my mid sixties. I can't change anything about my past. I can embrace who I see in my mirror, offer her forgiveness, acceptance, unconditional love for all that is, has been, will be.
When I deeply listen, I suspend all expectation, clear my head of imagined responses, honor the other by giving them my full attention (not just the part that isn’t composing my grocery list). I am moved 100% into Now where I listen with my mind, my heart, my body.