Why Does This Matter?

Of course we can swap so-called absolute goals for relative ones. Outpacing others can replace the things we really care about. Those happen via conditioning, doing what we think we should, or not having the self-confidence or courage to do what we want. I was once on a career path that I and others wanted for me. I wasn't in it by chance; I was in it by conditioning and choice. I was succeeding and had a bright future; when I no longer wanted it, I anguished over getting out and going in a different direction. I didn't know where I was going, but there are always other places to go. While making the change cost me, it was liberating and transforming for me. What helps me more than anything is to be honest with myself and pursue what I want, not what others expect. My feelings and my heart are my best reference points.