My husband was much wiser than I, right from the beginning. Because there were constant physical and emotional battles in my family, I decided to use the "silent treatment" rather than fists or words whenever we had a serious disagreement. Once, after about three days of "no-speak," Tom broke the silence by asking, "Pat, do you love me?" "Yes," I answered truthfully, "Then why do you want to waste these days when we can be happy?" he responded. He was right, and so I tried earnestly to abolish that foolish mindset. According to Tom, an attorney and counselor, marriage was not 50/50 proposition. "If each of you puts the other first, you will have a happy marriage, "was his mantra, and that is what made our marriage of 64 exceptionally beautiful years last. Tom passed away in April of 2025, but not a day goes by when I don't feel his presence. He is still with me, and I long to see him again.
On Mar 19, 2026David Doane wrote :
Thanks for sharing a wonderful journey. Isn't it wonderful that presence other than physical goes on beyond death.
On Mar 17, 2026 Pat Hardy wrote :