I feel when our idea of "Self-the "Me" melts gradually detachment happens as a natural consequence and one is able to perform any act without any vested interest. Ou inner work - our spiritual growth helps in this journey. My experience with rescuing cats and often failing to save lives taught me the lesson of detachment. Earlier I used to be devastated but now I do it with more detachment and less ego. I have realised my role is do my Karma and leave the rest to will of the Universe and that soul's destiny. I felt at times that maybe I was just meant to be a comforting loving presence during the last breath of that soul. That was our soul connection and that's ok. When we drop Why? Why Me? Why Now etc.. and just see the truth of each moment as it is life becomes much simpler.
Having said that ego is very much there in all of us to varying degrees perhaps. So I try to be observant of my inner emotional state, to see when the my Attachment mindset playout in different situations. And I try to do it with as much neutrality as possible, without judging myself for the same. It's only when I embrace myself without judgement that we can accept others with imperfections. In fact we are a reflection of each other really. What triggers us is often our own reflection.
On Feb 10, 2026 Geetika Lohani wrote :