Well, several things. One is just being outside with my dogs in the mountains because I get the closeness and warmth of being with the dogs, with the vastness and beauty of the mountains. It all makes it easier for me to drop my usual distractionswhich don't make me nearly as happy anyway and it just lightens and warms my heart. The natural world is so big and so harmonious that I easily fall into entrainment with it. What also makes me come alive is talking with one other person, sharing deeply what we're most passionate about. It might be what one of us is chewing on in life or in our meditations, or the relationship between the two. Mostly, I love seeing if I can find a way to be with them that somehow helps, encourages, inspires and informs them.
Chronologically, I would start with a two-month camping trip in many of our national parks when I was 15. It was then, living outside, sleeping on the ground, climbing mountains, and kayaking down rivers, I realized the vast power and exquisite beauty and perfection of the natural world. I came back to the city and realized that civilization wasn't all it was cracked up to be. The city looked to me like a house of cards, built on a false foundation on top of which we were continuing to pile cards. In response, I decided that first, I needed to go to the country and live directly from the land. I did that for many years, and still live in the country. The next turning point was having children. Of course, that forever changed me into a mother. Our orientation in life completely changes when we have kids. The next was meeting my teacher, Tulku Sangak Rinpoche. It transformed my life and gave it a huge amount of meaning beyond what it was before.
This isn't one act of kindness. It was ongoing. There was a woman who worked for our family who actually was very much a part of bringing me up, even though that wasn't her official job. She worked in our home and we were very simpatico. She was very religious in a completely heartfelt, true way, and she had a spiritual orientation to life. She was Christian, which obviously was not a route I chose, but the essence of her genuine spirituality, loving kindness, and compassion I think still seeped into me. Also her warmth. She grew up on a homestead and then I grew up and homesteaded. Even as a kid I always loved the natural world so I was inspired by her stories.
I kind of did my bucket list a while ago and then life just offered up better and better buckets that I hadn't even thought of! So I'm not sure there are any more new buckets. I'm happy to enjoy continuing with the buckets I've got. Okay, well, there is one big bucket left: Complete enlightenment. Here's a minor bucket: taking a vacation and doing absolutely nothing productive! I'd be happy just to be at home—then it's really doing nothing and I love where I live.
Think of all and everyone, even non-human creatures, as your friends and relatives. If we did that, we would turn around this whole mess that we're in and experience heaven on earth.