I am so lucky to have the job of sharing CBCT with others, either by teaching the classes myself or by helping others to learn to teach them more effectively. The seven core practices that comprise CBCT are the most reliable method that I know of to foster and sustain a more compassionate stance toward others as well as toward one's self. The method is powerful because it engages critical thinking as well as present-moment awareness in order to prepare the most fertile ground for constructive insights to arise. This type of practice gives us the chance to catch the mind in its habitual patterns and then to reshape these patterns by developing more wise and inclusive perspectives. With these methods, we set ourselves up to generate such insights more regularly and then to absorb and sustain them after they occur. In CBCT, it is these broader perspectives that we are after in order to sustain and extend compassion throughout a lifetime.
When I was 24 I stopped out of school to trek in the Himalayas. I was stressed and needing a break and I loved mountains (I still do!). The night before the trek, I got sick and had to cancel the whole thing. The illness passed, but it ruined my plans and I remained miserable and resentful. With little to do but sulk, on a lark I wandered into my first meditation class. There, a monk talked about the causes of happiness: "If we come to Nepal to see the mountains, and then something stops of from seeing the mountains, we become very angry and miserable, and we blame that something, whatever it is, for our misery." He calmly went on to explain that happiness is not due to the circumstances of our life, but rather to our perspective on those circumstances. The short meditation that followed, guided by the kindness of his voice, was my first chance to explore this radical idea in the context of my own inner experience. It made sense, and it made a difference. I'm exploring still.
The times I have been forgiven for my weaknesses and mistakes are some of the most memorable moments of kindness in my life. Also, my parents' providing me with love throughout my formative years was an act of care that I will certainly never be able to forget, nor fully to repay.
Attending a meditation retreat in a remote Himalayan monastery for three months. (Or maybe even three years but don't tell my partner about this last part!)
“I can never be what I ought to be until you are what you ought to be, and you can never be what you ought to be until I am what I ought to be.†(Martin Luther King, Jr, “Letter from a Birmingham Jail,†1957)