Witnessing sheer joy, relief, and peace that may not have been present just moments before. Being present when someone jumps the crevice between perceived impossibility and the potential for something good, beautiful and surprising. Facilitating moments of happiness and showing that they can occur at other times and places. Tying together intention, right means and ends. Living in a way that combines serendipity and enduring goodness. Seeing someone laugh or smile.
Fortunately, the most important things in life cannot be condensed into one event. For me, pivotal moments often signify greater meaning that grows over time. When I was in the fifth grade, for instance, I had my first bout of depression, which I encountered in college in 1968, again in 1973 and in less profound ways several other times. The depression was a gift, even though the suffering was barely bearable. I learned that I could be loved, even when I felt incapable of meriting that love. Shramadana work camps organized through the Sarvodaya movement in Sri Lanka have definitely changed my life. Few methods for community organizing have the elegant, existential elements of such living, working wisdom. I was drawn to the Sarvodaya movement because of shramadana. For many reasons, the tsunami that struck S.E. Asia at the end of 2014 profoundly changed my life as well. Generosity in its most wonderful, challenging and questionable forms. Ask me about that.
Many times, especially amidst family or community crises, people have given us solace and supported us. And "us" is the right word. When my mother and father decided that our family would go to India for a year, for example, a doctor who had always wanted to do that, but couldn't,sent us $5,000, totally without strings. When both my wife and father were very ill, I had three part-time jobs and we could not make ends meet, we did not have to ask for help. A couple paid for our daughter's schooling and part of our living expenses. My wife's elderly piano teacher quietly gave us enough money for us get by until we could do without it. Friends loved us and cared for us. We will never forget that. Then there are the everyday acts of kindness that nest in my memory. Fuel for life.
Travel to Timbuktu.
"You are the most precious being on earth: on you depend the lives of all the other living beings and nature....so don't waste a moment." --A.T. Ariyaratne