There is nothing like watching people's faces light up when they "get" self-compassion. My favorite thing to hear people say after they've read the book or been to a workshop is "My brain makes sense!" We often walk through the world blaming ourselves for the aftereffects of trauma we think that we have character flaws, when in actuality we have perfectly normal reactions to hard times and to being what I call "unaccompanied." This means that we haven't had the combination of warmth and precise understanding that lets us know that we belong to the human race.
The most pivotal moment for me was the first time I received empathy guesses in the Nonviolent Communication tradition. It was the first time that I really received the feedback that I might make sense. Before that, whenever I felt anything, my universal experience was of being told that I was wrong to feel whatever it was, and to think about it differently. This radical moment was the sea change for me. Everything else followed.
The greatest act of kindness I have ever received was being wholeheartedly adopted when I was 19 years old by my friend Penny Walden. She became my greatest protector and advocate, and she changed my life.
To take a couple of months and live in Interior Alaska again, where I grew up. To feel the rhythm of that particular nature and those particular people and the easy social movement there. I miss that landscape every day.
Heal your words, heal your brain!