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In my world, it helps to write down what your mind is doing (your thoughts) in any particular moment, so that you can have a good look at it and see where it diverges from reality. Otherwise you will end up chasing your own tail, going round in circles. There is also the question of having the will to challenge our own familiar and often comfortable / safe feeling world view The urge to help can be healthy and useful. It can also result from distorted thinking and be particularly unhelpful. …or both.

Paradoxically, the best hope we have of feeling better is to forget about trying to control how we feel and instead to concentrate on doing things which require courage and discipline based on our values and the life we would like to lead (is this spirituality?). This would be despite how we feel and may initially result in feeling worse because it might mean letting go of those behaviours designed to keep us feeling comfortable and safe. The first step is awareness or mindfulness.