Previous Comments By 'rossal8'
On Sep 4, 2012 Ross wrote:|
Two transformational exercises LOVE - recently I came up with the idea of feeling love in my heart towards all that I saw, this was a CHOICE (had not considered it as such before), I had a wonderful day, more relaxed and open with everyone, and hopefully it was good for others too. Compassion - This helped me recently totally change the impact of a difficult relationship I had. There is an amazing exercise in Buddhism called Taking and Giving (Tonglen in some traditions) where with pure motivation and compassion (this is crucial otherwise it will not work) we imagine all the suffering of others (this can be one specific individual you care for or are having problems with, a group of people such as people suffering from specific illness or problem that YOU may also be suffering from). Then having developed compassion for them we imagine and breathe in the suffering (anger, depression, illness, bad fortune....) in the form of Black smoke into our own heart center (with the belief that this dissolves our own self-centered attitude which is very strong when we are unwell or are having problems AND eradicates the suffering of the other). Then we imagine that we breathe out White smoke which is full of blessings and completely fills their bodies making them healthy and happy. We then meditate on this sense of joy: Our own relief from self-centered attitude and their relief from suffering. This is extremely powerful - it is impossible to have problem with people that you care about by creating compassion towards them. How can you be angry or have problems with someone that you cherish, and this is all down to you!!!! By doing this exercise YOU take control in being happy and develop better relationships. Initially this may be challenging as: we may not want the other to be happy!!! or worry about breathing in the Black smoke. However if we do not want the other to stop suffering, we will suffer as we are in rela See full.
Two transformational exercises
On Mar 27, 2012 Ross wrote:|
Looking outside seems so much easier and protects us from looking within. Ironically as boring and slow as it may be, the looking within ultimately may reveal the only thing that is continously with us. What we avoid knowing may not be as ugly as we fear, it may not save us but in reality nor would another human being, title or wealth. It may be just as ordinary and mundane as anything/anyone else OUT THERE. This is a major struggle for me, having chased many careers, lived in many countries, had relationships, married etc. I have crammed my brain with enough knowledge and skills to last many life times!! I have been practicing Buddhism theortically for 10 years, I say theoretically because the practice is hard, it is always easier to surf the net, watch a dvd or do anything that can fill the time you can be meditating. When I look back on some of my days to see what I did in place of meditation, the triviality is pretty amazing. we shall go on, hopefully and very slowly :)