All Comments By Pat Hardy

I watched those "never knew what birds they were until today" amazing acrobats in the sky!

Maybe it's time for some truth. Your friend might not realize how repetitive she has become, and how such negativity helps no one. There are cruel losses in life, but life must go forward with an abiding sense of hope that better times will come. To become so mired in your own grief that you can think of nothing else benefits no one. Honoring a loved one's memory with kindness toward others is restorative. What was it that the lost one would have desired in his life? Figure that out, then help someone else's aspirations come true in honor of the beloved son who was denied the chance to achieve his goals. Just some thoughts that might help your friend go on with the life in a positive manner, rather than drown herself in a sea of grief.

No matter how little your "kind deed" may be, it will have an impact on the receiver in some way, maybe never forgotten. Jo G. and I worked together. She was much older than I at the time she presented me with a small mother of pearl circle pin out of the blue. It wasn't a holiday or a birthday, it was just a sweet gesture. I no longer have the pin, except in my memory, but I have cherished them both, Jo and her gift, all the days of my 84 years!! Just keep "giving" in some small way or large way, and we will all benefit in ways we never know.

A quirky little incident...As I was taking a morning walk, I was jolted by something which suddenly fell on the top of my head. It was a small little pebble. Too small to hurt, it just made me laugh. I had been thinking about a deceased friend of mine known for his journalistic skills and sense of humor. "Must be Charley," I thought, "letting me know he still has his sense of humor." I saved it for the longest time as a reminder that sweet things can happen when we least expect it.

Very important lesson. When we say something we deem to be very important, it’s painful not to be heard, but words are seeds, so there is hope!!!

My imagination is rusty, but I go on with life in the last chapter still hoping that God will finally open eyes of the powerful that my friend, Nancy Seaman, never a threat to society, will be released from prison after 20 years of an unjust life-sentence. I imagine that I still have time "to get things in order." I imagine happy endings and fascinating new beginnings we can only imagine.

Reading this again, I'm wondering how Brian's son is doing today. I know what it is like to be haunted by actions of the past, and I guess most of us experience "haunting." This is such a powerful piece of literature. I hope Brian has gone forward with his writing, and I hope his son is doing even better than expected.

I can't say I have ever had such a life-changing experience or awakening, but I loved reading about his. What a beautiful change of consciousness and a new way of thinking and living. Seek and ye shall find your real self!! Thanks for sharing your profound story, Drew Lanham!

All very good suggestions. Thank you, Mola Samba. When you discover the answer to your 3 questions, I hope you share them.

Philosopher Eknath Easwaren teaches that meditation can help us train our attention. When we are aware of our monkey mind at work, we are simply to go back to the beginning of the passage we are trying to ingest. Each time we wander, we must go back to the beginning. Eventually, we will absorb what it is we wish to understand or retain.

Examining oneself with an open heart and mind is an act of courage which leads to personal growth. Who among us is perfect, or even wishes to be perfect? Better we should try to be a better "us. " A wise friend once made a statement I have never forgotten..."Comparisons are odious." I think there is a connection regarding becoming the best person we can be...comparing ourselves to no other than our self!!