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Love without Conditions

--by Paul Ferrini (Sep 27, 2011)


You will find all kinds of methods to teach you “how to be”.  But, as long as there is a method, you will be “doing”.

I am telling you to drop all your methods.  They are not necessary.  Simply cease judging, interpreting, conceptualizing, speculating.  Let all that is not “being” fall away.  And then being will flower of itself.  Then grace will unfold out of the seeming randomness of events.  And you will understand the meaning and be glad that it is so.

There is no one who would shrink from his purpose here once it has been revealed to him.  But it cannot reveal itself as long as he is trying to force his life open.

Be patient.  Be gentle.  All the joy and beauty of your life is at hand now.  Your purpose is fully manifesting in this moment.

Do not look for meaning outside your own experience.  Just trust what is and be with it.  That is the most profound teaching I can give you.  For, in this simple practice, all the barriers to truth will come down. [...]

Authentic spirituality is not linear.  It is not prescriptive.  It cannot tell you “do this and do that, and such and such will happen.”

Whatever is done must come from deep inside.  It must be fresh, clear and centered in the heart.  It must be done spontaneously.

If there is any residue from the past, if there is any fear, trust is missing and the miracle will not occur.  Every thought that is free of fear, every action that is free of the compulsion to “do”, to “save” or to “heal” is miraculous in nature.  It is free of the laws of time and space yet operates with spontaneous efficacy within them.

Why is this true?  Because it is unrehearsed.  Because it does not come from the conditioned mind.  Because it is spontaneous and fully trusting.  Such a thought or action is a living prayer.  It cannot be anticipated or repeated.  It is not a product of your learning.  It is a result of your living communion with the unconditioned mind.

--Paul Ferrini in Love Without Conditions


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On Jun 22, 2013 Alexander wrote:

I like the observation.  Now, what if you could know exactly what your "being" in this life is?  What if you could see exactly what your "spontaneous" passion in life is?  What if your purpose could be known as easily as if you were reading the Book of Life itself?  

It can.  www.spiritualnutrition.org



On Oct 28, 2011 VIJESH wrote:

We love someone without conditions,but it should be same from the other side too -right?else wont our love be a futile exercise?

 



On Oct 3, 2011 Jovie Polvorosa wrote:

Very inspiring. We should indeed love without conditions. =))))



On Oct 3, 2011 odeza wrote:

 it is very inspiring.. :)



On Oct 1, 2011 Olive wrote:

Thank You Paul. I choose to love without conditions. Olive



On Sep 30, 2011 wyeth wrote:

yes very inspiring!



On Sep 30, 2011 pappu wrote:

simply beautiful.... love without conditions...



On Sep 29, 2011 Brinda wrote:

Here are some thoughts I didn't get to share last night...Another thing about unconditional love---many of us feel this from our parents or for our children, etc. I was especially thinking of the mother-child bond which can be an example of this.... and in the spirit of letting an individual "be"--as parents we can watch our children "unfold" into who they are meant to be...instead of trying to fit them into a "mold" (I heard that expression somewhere--"unfold, don't mold"--can't remember who said it, but it stuck in my head)Also liked the part about being "unrehearsed" and spontaneous...to me this means living in the world with your heart WIDE OPEN....so that you have the spirit to BE in the moment and let the DOING follow from there.... it does mean letting go of fear, and embracing the fact that none of us can know what tomorrow (or the next moment) will bring--even if we "plan"....and I loved the Les Kaye statement about &  See full.

Here are some thoughts I didn't get to share last night...

Another thing about unconditional love---many of us feel this from our parents or for our children, etc. I was especially thinking of the mother-child bond which can be an example of this.... and in the spirit of letting an individual "be"--as parents we can watch our children "unfold" into who they are meant to be...instead of trying to fit them into a "mold" (I heard that expression somewhere--"unfold, don't mold"--can't remember who said it, but it stuck in my head)

Also liked the part about being "unrehearsed" and spontaneous...to me this means living in the world with your heart WIDE OPEN....so that you have the spirit to BE in the moment and let the DOING follow from there.... it does mean letting go of fear, and embracing the fact that none of us can know what tomorrow (or the next moment) will bring--even if we "plan"....

and I loved the Les Kaye statement about "what's wrong with what we are doing right now?" Right now is the point! :-)

Hugs to you all.

 

Thanks--loved this quote!

 

 

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On Sep 29, 2011 Vicky wrote:

Beautiful and comforting to read..



On Sep 28, 2011 deepak wrote:

all is well when ''I'' IS NOT THERE.

all unwanted, illadvised things start when ''I'' come in between, the loved ones.

spontanuity also lost . so learn to live without past.

J. Krishnamurthy 's  '' FREEDOM FROM THE KNOWN'' is the key to love without conditions. and

this is possible when the ''I'' IS VERY WEEK.



On Sep 27, 2011 Navin sata wrote:

            Love Unconditionally: Love eliminates ALL differences"Pure love is willingness to give without thought of receiving anything back in return" - From the book, The Peace Pilligram"We are raised in a world by conditional love of me,mine; my wife, my husband, my children, my house, my job, my car, my city, my country, my religious beliefs, my political views, my opinions, etc...There is NO end to all this division.  This way of thinking, if you will.  I believe that this is the root cause of all of our attachments to the material world.  It's bondage and so many don't even realize it, blinded by the lustful and "good" things that money can buy us.  There is nothing wrong in loving our family, friends, or our country.  One MUST keep an open mind and expand family circle to one big universal family.  A spiritual person transforms all this allowing him to learn the truth o  See full.

            Love Unconditionally: Love eliminates ALL differences

"Pure love is willingness to give without thought of receiving anything back in return"

- From the book, The Peace Pilligram"

We are raised in a world by conditional love of me,mine; my wife, my husband, my children, my house, my job, my car, my city, my country, my religious beliefs, my political views, my opinions, etc...There is NO end to all this division.  This way of thinking, if you will.  I believe that this is the root cause of all of our attachments to the material world.  It's bondage and so many don't even realize it, blinded by the lustful and "good" things that money can buy us.  There is nothing wrong in loving our family, friends, or our country.  One MUST keep an open mind and expand family circle to one big universal family.  A spiritual person transforms all this allowing him to learn the truth of unconditional love.  The results will be freedom from worries and  freedom from bondage of the material world.  That, in itself is priceless.           

1. There is no path greater than unconditional love! 

2. There is no law higher than love 

3. And there is no goal beyond love

4. God and unconditional love are identical -Mehar baba  .

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On Sep 27, 2011 LB wrote:

Thank you for the reminder once again. One of these times I will feel strong enough to forego the fear and I would love to feel the miracle. And this is why, now I know, my intuitions are so quiet - fear is the locked door. Thank you also, Conrad for the list of 12. Will read over and over again. They keep telling me "it's going to happen (my blossoming), I can feel it." I too know it's there and so ready to burst, time to be set free.



On Sep 27, 2011 Erna wrote:

This is beautiful. Thank you.



On Sep 27, 2011 Conrad wrote:

I shared what Ferrini said with my friend Dave and he replied with the following:Important message -- being instead of trying, pushing, and doing.  It's been said that a technique is at best training wheels to use briefly and get beyond -- I suppose the same is true of a method.  Thanks for sending it.  Dave        See full.

I shared what Ferrini said with my friend Dave and he replied with the following:

Important message -- being instead of trying, pushing, and doing.  It's been said that a technique is at best training wheels to use briefly and get beyond -- I suppose the same is true of a method.  Thanks for sending it.  Dave

 

 

 

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On Sep 27, 2011 Ravi Sheshadri wrote:

I absolutely agree that living sponteneously in the moment is true living, because it is not rehearsed. It is actual how we feel, how we are at that moment.

This comes to practise, hard practise, diligent practise. It comes from overcoming fear of what people will say, and if I would earn enough if i behave like this.

Thanks for a very good, sense making article



On Sep 27, 2011 Craig Coss wrote:

What a beautiful statement about the imortance of just being. Ferrini beautifully describes that spontaneous, trusting, honest quality that we all knew and lived from as young children, before our conditioning. Here he gives fresh insight to the meaning of non-action in the Tao Te Ching and the teachings of Krishna in the Bhagavad Gita, where he urged Arjuna to live and act without attachment to the fruits of ones actions. I really love this week's reading. It's so important. Thank you!



On Sep 27, 2011 David Reddy wrote:

Paul Ferrini's comments are so true and we need to apply that in our daily lives whenever we interact with fellow human beings-this will bring about peace and harmony and the real happiness,we all seek.

Two thousand years ago Jesus preached to all to "love one another as I have loved you "-His love was unconditional,His patience,mercy, compassion ,kindness and healing were all,unconditional.

Mother Theresa also practised the above and we know the influence she had in this world for the poorest of the poor.

David Reddy



On Sep 24, 2011 Conrad wrote:

Ferrini wrote a wonderful article. Thanks for the opportunity to respond. I don't seem to have 100% trust in myself to drop all methods since much of what I do seems to arise from my unconscious. Even if I intend to drop all methods my unconscious protection devices are operating as an "unconscious method."  I am reminded of paraphrasing Gandhi, who might say: There is no way" to be."  "To be" is the way. I'm also reminded of what I have called the mental  equivalent of stem cells. Doing these twelve "events" helps one do everything  "right." These were sent to me by psychotherapist Jim Guinan. He wrote:           1.  Increase the tendency to let things happen rather than make things happen. 2.  Have frequent attacks of smiling. 3.  Have feelings of being connected with others and nature. 4.  Have frequent, almost overwhelming, episodes of appreciati  See full.

Ferrini wrote a wonderful article. Thanks for the opportunity to respond. I don't seem to have 100% trust in myself to drop all methods since much of what I do seems to arise from my unconscious. Even if I intend to drop all methods my unconscious protection devices are operating as an "unconscious method."  I am reminded of paraphrasing Gandhi, who might say: There is no way" to be."  "To be" is the way. I'm also reminded of what I have called the mental  equivalent of stem cells. Doing these twelve "events" helps one do everything  "right." These were sent to me by psychotherapist Jim Guinan. He wrote:

          1.  Increase the tendency to let things happen rather than make things happen.

2.  Have frequent attacks of smiling.

3.  Have feelings of being connected with others and nature.

4.  Have frequent, almost overwhelming, episodes of appreciation.

5.  Have the tendency to think and act spontaneously, rather than from fears based on past experiences. 

6.  Have an unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment, and to make the best out of each experience.

7.  Lose the ability to worry.

8.  Lose interest in conflict.

9.  Lose interest in interpreting the actions of others.

10. Lose interest in judging others.

11. Lose interest in judging self.

12. Be compassionate to self and others without expecting anything in return.

Warm and kind regards to everyone.

 

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