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Who Was That Masked Man Anyway?

--by Lawrence Kushner (Jun 11, 2007)


Humility is founded on creatureliness -- I have been created to do something that only I can do, just as you have been created to accomplish something that only you can do. It is founded on the notion that each life has a sacred, unique and never-recurring possibility. No matter who I meet or how beneath me she might "appear" to be intellectually, socially and financially, spiritually, she has a job that only she can do and it is an honor to meet her ... or him. [...]

The Talmud asks the question, "Who is wise?" and gives the surprise answer, "Someone who learns from everyone." We recognize humility in others by finding something that we can learn from them. Do you hear them? Are you paying attention? There's something you can learn from everyone, something that only he or she knows, that only he or she can teach you. [...]

In my experience, no one seems to get issued a complete puzzle. Everyone's puzzle is missing, on average, seven pieces, and these puzzle pieces are distributed randomly into other people's puzzles. We spend our lives walking around saying, "Do you need a puzzle piece with a little yellow in the corner and a red line running through it?" Then we meet someone, and he or she says, "Oh, my God, I've been looking for it all my life." We say, "I don't know what to do with it, I wound up with it, take it, it's yours." It's rarely the author or featured speaker who has your puzzle pieces; it's usually someone who has a big part in your life whose name is not recorded in the program.

I call it the "who was that masked man, anyway?" phenomenon. Usually, we don't know who it was until months, years, decades later when we look back realizing, with humility, that if it hadn't been for that person, our life wouldn't be the way it is now.

--Lawrence Kushner, From This Interview


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On Jan 16, 2008 tsholofelo wrote:
yah that is sooooo true.thats why we need each ather to survive.we r all created in our own and unique way.....thanx

On Jun 13, 2007 HM wrote:
I was looking for audio version and could not find it. Is it discontinued? I meant to email you and let you how much I appreciated the audio form....I could listen in many times every week and it always felt like words from the heart. Many thanks to whoever read it.

On Jun 12, 2007 Pam wrote:
It occurs to me that my voice is only heard in concert with others, distinct for sure, and known by the difference I am from others; yet necessarily together as one. Life is finding, knowing and sharing my voice.....

On Jun 12, 2007 Tristan wrote:
Humility redefined here. True humility largely ignored. Yes, there is some wisdom to be found among Kushner's words.

A read thru the full interview reveals more of the primitive motivation that guides Western religious thinking. Desperation to find MY life meaningful... inventing whatever it takes to create an illusion of such. How about, instead, a truly honest and humble search taking the risk that, even after much travail, one might not find anything?

On Jun 12, 2007 shelley wrote:
Iknow that I know. Like a hologram. It is inside of all of us the known and the unknown. With that I am in chaos. Sweet calm chaos.

On Jun 12, 2007 Suddhananda wrote:
wow
what a wonderful reminder of the gifts we all are for each other
thank-you

On Jun 11, 2007 viral wrote:
Thanks Conrad for sharing your insights.

I think the place of "not knowing" is rather a powerful one, as it leaves you open to many possibilities.

Toni Packer describes this well in a previous thought of the week:

(see link)


On Jun 11, 2007 Conrad wrote:

I have already learned much from Nipun and Viral and from others who have responded to these communications. I am still far away from the dedication and genuineness of Nipun and Viral. I say to myself, and occasionally to others, that it would be good for me to be no one, going nowhere. I use that in the sense of I am no separate self. At age 75 I am still often acting automatically. I often want much attention before I think and turn off my old automatic self. While meditating one day last week. I came to what I thought was a great insight, and that is that I do not have much insight. I at times think I want to be humble and other times I catch myself wanting other people to say, "look how good he is." I read recently that the universe is only 4% matter as we know it and 96% dark energy and dark matter. It seems to me that I don't know much about anything so I experience it it is good not to know in an intellectual sense. I project that on to other people. Being compassi  See full.

I have already learned much from Nipun and Viral and from others who have responded to these communications. I am still far away from the dedication and genuineness of Nipun and Viral. I say to myself, and occasionally to others, that it would be good for me to be no one, going nowhere. I use that in the sense of I am no separate self. At age 75 I am still often acting automatically. I often want much attention before I think and turn off my old automatic self. While meditating one day last week. I came to what I thought was a great insight, and that is that I do not have much insight. I at times think I want to be humble and other times I catch myself wanting other people to say, "look how good he is." I read recently that the universe is only 4% matter as we know it and 96% dark energy and dark matter. It seems to me that I don't know much about anything so I experience it it is good not to know in an intellectual sense. I project that on to other people. Being compassionate to myself and others I believe is the way to live whether we know something and not. Without the notion of natural compassion I would never have found my unique way of living. I still have much to learn. Thank you for continuing to give me the opportunity to respond.

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