Who Is My Neighbor?

Ivan Illich

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Awakin Feature¿Quién es mi prójimo?
--por Ivan Illich
Hace unos treinta años, me metí con sermones desde principios del siglo III hasta el siglo XIX que tratan de la historia del buen samaritano, y descubrí que la mayoría de los predicadores, cuando comentan ese pasaje, lo comentan para mostrar cómo deberíamos de comportarnos con nuestro prójimo, cuando en realidad esto es lo opuesto a lo que Jesús, quien cuenta la historia del samaritano, quiso señalar. Los fariseos vinieron a preguntarle: "Maestro, maestro, dinos quién es mi prójimo". No le preguntaron cómo se comporta uno con el prójimo. Le hicieron, sin rodeos, la pregunta: ¿Quién es el tipo al que llamas vecino?
Y él, como historia, les contó que un hombre bajaba a Jericó, se encontró con unos ladrones, fue golpeado y le dejaron herido. Pasó un profesor, pasó un sacerdote, lo vieron y siguieron caminando. Y luego apareció un forastero, el enemigo tradicional, y se volvió hacia el hombre herido, como un giro interno, y lo levantó, lo tomó en sus brazos y lo llevó a la posada. Así que él les respondió: "Mi vecino es quien yo decido, no a quién debo elegir". No hay manera de categorizar quién debería ser mi vecino. Esta doctrina sobre el prójimo que este tipo, Jesús, trae a colación, es completamente destructiva de la decencia ordinaria, del comportamiento ético y decir esto hoy es tan sorprendente como lo fue al principio.
... El Maestro les dijo que su vecino no está determinado por su nacimiento, por su condición, por el idioma que habla, por las etnias, lo que significa realmente el modo de caminar que se ha vuelto apropiado para ti. Puedes reconocer al otro humano que está culturalmente fuera de los límites, que es lingüísticamente extranjero, quien,-puedes decir por providencia o por pura casualidad- es el que se encuentra en algún lugar a lo largo de tu camino en la hierba y crea la forma suprema del parentesco que no viene dada por la creación sino que ha sido creado por ti.
Preguntas semilla para la reflexión: ¿Cómo te relacionas con la idea de que tu vecino es quien tú decides, no alguien que tienes que elegir? ¿Puedes compartir una historia personal de una vez que creaste una forma sagrada de relación con alguien más? ¿Qué te ayuda a ir más allá de los límites de tu condicionamiento para crear verdaderamente una relación con otro?
por Ivan Ilich. Extraído de aquí.

Ivan Ilich was a Croatian-Austrian philosopher and Roman Catholic priest. Excerpted from here. The photo is Mister Rogers and Francois Clemmons -- background story here.

Seed questions for reflection: How do you relate to the notion that your neighbor is someone you decide, not someone you have to choose? Can you share a personal story of a time you created a sacred form of relatedness with someone else? What helps you go beyond the limits of your conditioning to truly create relatedness with another?

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    On Dec 29, 2018 MamaBird wrote:

    Here's my take on this text as a preacher:  Jesus was saying "Your neighbor is the person you least want to be 'beholden to'."  That's a colloquialism from my youth growing up in Appalachian USA. So I totally agree with Ivan Ilich!  


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    On Dec 27, 2018 Jodyne wrote:

     I've not felt like I had to chooose which one I'd want for a neighbor.  I do know my heart will tell me who my neighbor or is though. 


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    On Dec 23, 2018 david doane wrote:

     'My neighbor is someone I decide' means to me that my neighbor is someone I decide to relate to with true care and in a way that helps him or her have what is needed to heal and/or grow.  There have been times that I have listened carefully, responded in a way that was respectful, responded in a way that the other felt safe, responded in a way that connected with the othier, provided what was needed, and the other benefitted.  Such times were sacred forms of relatedness with the other. What helps me create relatedness with another is to truly be present with the other and listen to and respond to what the other is presenting, not to my tlhinking, prejudices, expectations, agendas, or judgments, which allows intimate healing sacred relatedness.


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    On Dec 22, 2018 Jagdish P Dave wrote:
     Ivan Ilich offers a different way of knowing who is our neighbor  and I love it. Relating to some one, a stranger, even an enemy, without preconceived and conditioned notions about who is my neighbor is the right way of creating sacred relatedness. Such relationship is created by turning in, by seeing with clear eyes and by listening to the inner voice, the voice of the heart. As Ivan Ilich states, "There is no way of categorizing who my neighbor ought to be" and my neighbor,"whom I decide to, not whom I have to choose." I came to America in 1959 at the age of 34 to study at the University of Chicago, a strange city in a strange country with no friends and friendly neighbors and very cold freezing cimate. I was going through mild depression. There was another student from Poland staying in the same building on the second floor. As I was going out to go to school on a very cold morning, he noticed me with compassionate eyes. He faced me and extended his emotionally warm hand... [View Full Comment]

     Ivan Ilich offers a different way of knowing who is our neighbor  and I love it. Relating to some one, a stranger, even an enemy, without preconceived and conditioned notions about who is my neighbor is the right way of creating sacred relatedness. Such relationship is created by turning in, by seeing with clear eyes and by listening to the inner voice, the voice of the heart. As Ivan Ilich states, "There is no way of categorizing who my neighbor ought to be" and my neighbor,"whom I decide to, not whom I have to choose."

    I came to America in 1959 at the age of 34 to study at the University of Chicago, a strange city in a strange country with no friends and friendly neighbors and very cold freezing cimate. I was going through mild depression. There was another student from Poland staying in the same building on the second floor. As I was going out to go to school on a very cold morning, he noticed me with compassionate eyes. He faced me and extended his emotionally warm hands. He touched my hands and said,"Consider me your brother!" His touch and words removed the fog of my depression. He was 7 feet tall,I am 5 and a half feet tall. He was all white. I am all brown. He was Catholic. I am a Hindu. He was from Poland. I am from India. All these outer barriers vanished, He became my good Samaritan neighbor. He has passed away. He dwells in my heart.

    What has helped me to go beyond my conditioning to create a sacred form of relationship is an ongoing awareness of the walls and boundaries I create in my own mind. This way of relating myself to myself with awareness and releasing my inner boundaries helps me to relate to others in an open and free way.. It goes beyond  my self- created boundaries  caused by conditioning and ignorance. This is an ongoing promising journey.
    May we cultivate an attitude of relating to a stranger with awareness, with an open mind and an open heart!
    Namaste.


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    On Dec 21, 2018 susan schaller wrote:

     Ivan Illich, an exiled Russian in Mexico, would know what he is talking about.  He had to redefine "family" and "neighbor" in order to have a life in community instead of an exile of alienation.  Thank you for reminding me of one of my heros from my youth.  Indeed, Illich provoked new definitions, thinking and behvior in me, precisely, because he forced me to realize how connected I was to all of society and humanity, not just those who looked like me or lived/thought/assumed the same way.  Like Illich, my life and thinking expanded the more I met and befriended 'the other.'


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