i am in total aggreance with your thought process of not being in a constant " unconditional giving " even though as i realise i am a " giver" and enjoy that part of myself. however as lifes experiences made me aware that this unconditional giving is taken " for granted "; encouraged " co-dependency "; selfishness;lethargy..... only when i experienced that did i change my own attitude to " learn and teach how to fish "; rather than " hand over the ready fish " with the kind of personalities we hold i agree it is difficult to say " no" but the consequences of it when seen are far more damaging. hence the practise to say " no " when required{ that is when all the negative outflow is emerging } is imperative. thanks for sharing your thought process on this as it has both encouraged and motivated to renounce the path of " unconditional giving " .
On Jul 1, 2014 HEENA wrote :
i am in total aggreance with your thought process of not being in a constant " unconditional giving " even though as i realise i am a " giver" and enjoy that part of myself. however as lifes experiences made me aware that this unconditional giving is taken " for granted "; encouraged " co-dependency "; selfishness;lethargy..... only when i experienced that did i change my own attitude to " learn and teach how to fish "; rather than " hand over the ready fish " with the kind of personalities we hold i agree it is difficult to say " no" but the consequences of it when seen are far more damaging. hence the practise to say " no " when required{ that is when all the negative outflow is emerging } is imperative. thanks for sharing your thought process on this as it has both encouraged and motivated to renounce the path of " unconditional giving " .