Of course we don't have to stay in the fire, and obviously if we survive, we have climbed out. But the question is directed towards how to find peace and healing when you are covered with scars for the rest of your life. Even if you successfully manage to avoid those people in the future, knowing that they are ready to throw bombs or wish you dead with any contact at all, for any reason at all, means the wounds are never able to really heal. And when you accept an invitation to "resolve things," and they use that as another opportunity to attack, all wounds are broken open anew.
So, the choice of "staying in the fire or getting out of the fire" only addresses that one incident. Not all the years that follow and how to heal from years and years of damage and heartache. "Forgiveness" doesn't take all the pain away, either, knowing that there is a group of people out there that want you DEAD. When it's "family" that is supposed to love and protect each other above all others, then what do you do? What do you say?
"I forgive you and stay away from me for the rest of my life?" What kind of healing is that?
All these answers I read sound so simple in their generalities, but trying to apply them to real incidents is where I get lost.
On Mar 7, 2014 Catherine Todd wrote :
Of course we don't have to stay in the fire, and obviously if we survive, we have climbed out. But the question is directed towards how to find peace and healing when you are covered with scars for the rest of your life. Even if you successfully manage to avoid those people in the future, knowing that they are ready to throw bombs or wish you dead with any contact at all, for any reason at all, means the wounds are never able to really heal. And when you accept an invitation to "resolve things," and they use that as another opportunity to attack, all wounds are broken open anew.
So, the choice of "staying in the fire or getting out of the fire" only addresses that one incident. Not all the years that follow and how to heal from years and years of damage and heartache. "Forgiveness" doesn't take all the pain away, either, knowing that there is a group of people out there that want you DEAD. When it's "family" that is supposed to love and protect each other above all others, then what do you do? What do you say?
"I forgive you and stay away from me for the rest of my life?" What kind of healing is that?
All these answers I read sound so simple in their generalities, but trying to apply them to real incidents is where I get lost.