Judy,
You say you lead a grief group. In dealing with what I think was he greatest grief of all, the loss of our 6 yr old son (fist born and my spiting image) a good friend told us that life after a death is like a hand saw with jagged teeth. As you go up the saw blade, there will be ups and downs but you continue on. Another friend who had lost a child told us not to listen to those who say 'take it day by day, one day at a time' because they have never lost someone close. You take it minute by minute because a day is to huge to deal with. One minute laugh, the next cry, the next anger, the next quiet. Too many emotions and they are all raw during the first few years. Let your group know they can go on, just to do it slowly and to always remember the things that made their loved one smile and laugh.
On Nov 15, 2016 Dave wrote :
Judy,
You say you lead a grief group. In dealing with what I think was he greatest grief of all, the loss of our 6 yr old son (fist born and my spiting image) a good friend told us that life after a death is like a hand saw with jagged teeth. As you go up the saw blade, there will be ups and downs but you continue on. Another friend who had lost a child told us not to listen to those who say 'take it day by day, one day at a time' because they have never lost someone close. You take it minute by minute because a day is to huge to deal with. One minute laugh, the next cry, the next anger, the next quiet. Too many emotions and they are all raw during the first few years. Let your group know they can go on, just to do it slowly and to always remember the things that made their loved one smile and laugh.