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A Scheme to Change the World?, by Hazrat Inayat Khan

FaceBook  On Feb 24, 2017 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 There are two worlds I (and we) live in: The world which has more darkness than light and also the world which has more light than darkness. I can talk about my world more authentically than the world of others.What are the two major components of my inner world?:The kind of world I really like and love to create and live in.It is a world filled with light and love, a world graced by kindness, forgiveness, truth, gratitude, generosity and compassion. Then there is another inner world with my ambitions, needs, and desires and my likes and dislikes. The challenge for me is to strike a dynamic balance.

My life long work and challenge has been to build  a realistic and constructive bridge between the two worlds. Can I serve myself and others? Can I take care of myself and others in my life? I do not aspire to be a martyr or  a an unkind self-serving narcissist. The more I introspect and remain aware of the self created imbalance between these two apparently opposite perspectives, the less I go through self-hurting or other-hurting wishes, desires and behaviors. To me, life is an ongoing journey of maintaining the balanced flow between these two valances.Living life this way has made me a better person and a happier person. Living this way is like maintaining the flow of the river of life between the two banks.

May I maintain a wholesome balance between the two poles of existence! May others live a balanced and happy life!

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave

 

You Play the Piano, by Alan Watts

FaceBook  On Feb 17, 2017 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 Living is an art like music and dance. The art of living fully in the moment is the way of living.When our mind is occupied by the future we  miss the existential unfolding beauty and joy of the present moment. A mind that is present enjoys the present of presence. The mind that is absent misses the present of presence. When we are fully engaged and absorbed in the present, we are in the flow, in the being zone. 

I have been practicing mindfulness, the art of being fully present, attending to what is happening inside and outside without being hijacked by the past or the future. It has been a great blessing to me. This way of living is enriching my life personally and relationally.I have been able to appreciate the gifts coming from nature and people,  feeling my heart with gratitude.

I am 91 years old and I am accepting my aging mindfully and gracefully. If I compare myself with the past, I am sure I will make myself impoverished and miserable. If I worry about the future, I am going to reject, diminish or even destroy the  gifts of the present. I have realized the wisdom of living in the here and now. When I step out of the flow of the river, I miss the water of living and get thirsty.When I wake up from my illusion, I quickly get connected with the flow of life which is beyond space and time. I love Deepak Chopra's book "Ageless Body, Timeless Mind".

May we learn and practice the art of living life fully and share our gifts with others!

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave

 

Praise Song for Wide Open Space, by Omid Safi

FaceBook  On Feb 11, 2017 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 I had lived in a wide open space in a village size little town in India until I was 16. I graduated from a high school and went to a collage located in a relatively big town.Now when I go back to India, the same town has become a mega city.There is not much open space. It is crowded and cluttered. Living in a wide open space expanded my awareness of natural beauty and human beings.I felt easily connected with them. I  indeed saw the wisdom expressed in the saying "Small is beautiful". The smallness of size expanded and enriched my inner space,my connectedness with nature and people around me. The bigness squeezed my inner and outer space.

My inner openness helps me to receive blessings coming from nature and from people in my life. Outer openness facilitates my inner openness and expansion. I may not be able to change the outer openness but I can expand my inner openness-mind and heart openness.Living this way has definitely enriched my life-mentally, emotionally, socially and spiritually.

When my eyes are open, I see the miracles of nature. When my ears are open, I hear the music of silence.
When my hands are open, I feel the touch of kindness. When my heart is open, I feel the grace of love and gratitude. What more do we need to fill the cup of life? 

May we not live in the  self-created prison, when the door of freedom is wide open!

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave

 

Why Meditate, by Suzanne Toro

FaceBook  On Feb 7, 2017 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 I regularly practice Mindfulness. Meditation I am blessed to reap the benefits of meditation narrated beautifully and clearly in this article.I also teach mindfulness meditation.. I notice the changes taking place in my students who have been regularly practicing meditation. I like the group meditation, meditating in a sangha.

My personal experience as a meditation, as a teacher, as a therapist and  a  researcher has convinced me that meditation is one of the most effective contemplative practices. I am happy to see the acceptance and incorporation of secular mindfulness meditation in schools, wellness centers, in the corporate world and even in prisons.

May we be instrumental in offering meditation as a gift from our heart to others! It is by giving we receive!

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave


 

Letting Meaning Flow Into Purpose, by Brother David Steindl-Rast

FaceBook  On Jan 29, 2017 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 I deeply value such reflective writings. They evoke deep thinking in me and I am very grateful to Awakin for giving such gifts to me and others. Here are my reflections on this reflective writing.

We all who are born are journeying from womb to tomb, from the first breath to the last breath.The question is how awakened and conscious we are as we are aging every moment?Are we present to ourselves, to others and to the surroundings or are we half present or absent to what is happening? Am I aware of the fact that my inhalation is accompanied by my exhalation? Awakening and awareness are the foundations for me to live fully. Awareness of death-the tomb-makes me realize the value of living my life wisely.

Am I living my life purposefully and meaningfully? What is the purpose of my living and how am I realizing this purpose? These are foundational questions for me. The purpose of my life is to live a good life, a happy life that brings goodness and happiness not only in me but in others connected with me. What am I doing that unfolds goodness within me and gets me connected with others? What am I doing that brings happiness in me and in others? When I am engaged in doing  meaningful activities that are attuned to the purpose of my living I feel happy and good.

I would like to conclude my reflections by quoting the last two sentences of this thought evoking writing: 
" We distinguish between purpose and meaning not in order to separate the two but in order to unite them. Our goal is to let meaning flow into our purposeful activities by focusing activity and passivity into genuine responsiveness."

Let our daily life be a monastery by incorporating the Benedictine Rule! Namaste!

Jagdish P Dave




 

My Misgivings About Advice, by Parker Palmer

FaceBook  On Jan 25, 2017 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 Loving attention and compassionate presence is what we need in good times and bad times. Kind genuine look, empathic understanding,therapeutic loving touch, helping hands and active listening are the core ingredients for helping someone who goes through depression and suffering.We all need such seeing, hearing, witnessing  and companioning when go through a downward turn in our journey of life. Advising done with all good intentions is counterproductive.

This writing reminds of a poem I had learned when I was in a high school.It is in Hindi: Ghayal ki gata ghayal jane' aur na jane' koi- A wounded heart knows the pain of the other wounded heart and none other. Yes. We need someone to walk with us as a compassionate companion when our heart aches and when we feel down.

Reading this writing reminds of me a moving experience I had with a 5 years old girl sobbing and sitting by herself. I was heading towards my lunch. When I saw her crying, I paused and stood beside her. I  looked at her and put my hand on her shoulder. She felt my compassionate and caring presence. Her lips were dry. I brought water for her to drink.She seemed to calm down a little.I asked her what made her cry. " I miss my mom. She is flying to Colorado for two weeks for her work and I won't see her for two weeks.." Sitting beside her, holding her hands, listening to her and feeling her sadness was good enough for her to be herself. I asked her if she could face time her mom on her smart phone.There was a soft smile on her face and I left  holding this little girl in my heart.

May we extend our loving hand and be connected with someone going though emotional suffering! It is by giving we receive!

 

Theory and Practice, by Vincent Horn

FaceBook  On Jan 14, 2017 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 According to my understanding theory and practice are two wings of the bird of living. Our thinking mind asks questions about what and why.Such explorations provide a theoretical  foundations for application, action and practice. Without practice and experience, only theoretical knowledge or information does not have the taste of life.

I am very particular and careful about what I am putting into my mouth. I know food is medicine. I need to know and want to know what is good, nutritional and wholesome food. And I want to know the benefits of such food. But unless I put such information in practice, what good does it do? My grandson and I took an online course on Plant-based nutritional whole food course. The course offered very valuable scientific information. We were convinced and made a few changes in our diet.The action  has sharpened our appetite to know more about diet and nutrition.

I am taking another online course on Science of Happiness. What is happiness? Why should we know about happiness? What are the benefits of living happily? It is up to me and others like me taking this course to apply what we learn from this course.

May we cultivate wisdom to live a fulfilling and growing life!

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave

 

Medicine for the Earth, by Sandra Ingerman

FaceBook  On Jan 1, 2017 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 I am grateful to get such tapping on my shoulder to remain awake. Such tapping turns my life into  a pilgrimage. My everyday becomes a holy day, a Buddha Day, a Christ Day, a Krishna Day.It awakens me to see the light that is always there.

The seen is born in the womb of the unseen.When I get so much caught up in the seen world I tend to forget and become oblivious of the unseen yet always present ,the ground of existence, I get entangled in the web of Maya,the illusion.

The spiritual journey as I understand is a process of keeping my inner eyes open to see the unseen, to keep my inner ears open to hear the sound of  the eternal silence. When I come to realize this truth, I feel oneness in manyness.

Transformation, alchemy, takes place when we get connected with the invisible ground of existence, the Being, the Self. We come home. When I deviate from this path, I pause, breathe,wake up and see the light.

May we make our life journey a pilgrimage and relate to each other as children of love and light!

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave

 

Five Prayers, by Thich Nhat Hanh

FaceBook  On Dec 29, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 Prayers open up my heart to receive blessings from others that include my ancestors, my parents, my other family members, friends, teachers and even those who have hurt me. I have learned priceless life lessons from such a wide circle of people in my life. And how can I forget blessings that I receive everyday from nature? I feel deeply grateful to all of them for taking care of me, loving me,  and teaching me how to live and be connected.

There have been two difficult things for me to be grateful for. One: When I have acted selfishly and expected somebody to fulfill my needs and when my needs are not taken care of ,I find fault with them. I have learned to thank them for making me more mindful of my role in causing hurt and disappointment me. I am thankful to them for showing  my own limitation and for maintaining connection with that person and for working on me. Second: To forgive someone for causing hurt in me. This is very essential for me for learning to let go and ease and heal my suffering.

May we all be grateful for the blessings we have received from many in ourl ives and thank them!

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave

 

Inner World of Moods, by Patty de Llosa

FaceBook  On Dec 17, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

This thoughtful and helpful reading indeed hits home! I would venture to say that all of us have gone through momentary or prolonged negative emotions and feelings. That shows that we all are human beings. We also know that negative emotional outbursts drain our energy and the energy of the people who are associated with us. We are engulfed by the flood of negative emotions and cause harm to  us and to others connected with us. We may feel powerful by throwing arrows of anger towards others. But it is surely a sign of inner weakness and ignorance.

When we get out of the raging river of anger and reflect on our harming behavior, we feel bad and remorseful. However, if we do not work on ourselves, we resort to the same habitual negative patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving. So how can we wise up and do not react unwisely? The how question is as important as the why question. Why do we get angry, anxious, fearful and obnoxious? And how can we improve ourselves?

Anger or anxiety or depression are reactive ways of dealing with an external stimulus something outside of us, an event or a person or a situation to which we react. We are not mindful of what is the impact of the outer stimulus on us. We instantly and impulsively react. Such reactive patterns become habitual. When we pause, take long and deep breaths, we respond appropriately, mindfully and wisely. We create an inner space that gives us an insight into understanding the situation and our own reactive behaviors.
 
I have been practicing mindfulness to do the inner work. I am also helping others to cultivate mindfulness skills. Mindfulness takes me to the being zone from the un-mindfulness doing zone.There is a way of moving from darkness to light.We do not have to be victims of our own creations.

May we be free from the bondage we create and do not become means of hurting ourselves and others!

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave


 

How to Live If You're Going to Die, by Blanche Hartman

FaceBook  On Dec 10, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 I know what is born is going to die. There is a connecting line between the two points-the line of life. The two points, birth and death, are beyond my control. I can make a choice how to live my life  knowing and accepting the fact that I am aging everyday, knowing that I am going to have more pain in my growing body and a day may  come when I may not be able to walk. As I am going through these changes, I am accepting them gracefully. I love living, taking care of myself as a whole being, serving others and filling the cup of my life with , love,joy, happiness and gratitude.

I accept myself as a human being with its frailties and follies, ups and downs and turns and twists- plays taking place in the doing zone. When I witness the plays of the doing zone, I move into my being zone, the zone of awareness, that keeps me centered and balanced and freed me from my self-created pain and pleasure cycle. I feel at peace with myself and feel the fullness of the flow of the here and now.

Four years ago,  Vanleela, my better half passed away. All the members of our family were watching with sadness the last hours of her passing away.She opened her eyes with a smile on her face. She looked at everybody standing in front of her, and said these last words, "Is everybody OK?" She died the way she lived her life, caring for others, serving others joyfully.These  last words came from her being zone touching the heart of everyone standing in front of her. Her life was a message and her death also was a message.

It is up to us how to live our life-the line between birth and death.

May we all remain awake as we are going through the journey of our life offering gifts of love and joy to ourselves and to others!

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave

 

For the Traveler, by John O'Donohue

FaceBook  On Dec 6, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 A call comes from within to wake up to explore new and unknown territories. Is it exciting? Is it frightening? Is it both exciting and frightening?

There have been times in my life when I had put my life on hold. The fear of being bitten again would stop me from traveling on the road unknown with no guide or a compassionate companion. I felt stuck. The stream of life getting dried. I let myself go quietly in this zone. A new day began and I let myself breathe fresh air, open my eyes to see the beckoning light. I stood up and started walking. There was something within me was still live and gave me the energy to take new steps. It felt like the autumn of my life was receiving the blessings of the upcoming spring.

When I was in a high school, I read and loved a poem in my language Gujarati. I still remember the title of the poem-
"Jivanni gati santana!" Life, like a river, moves on! Those words have inspired me and have been a mantra for me to move on and not not to get stuck with the life holding past.

May we let go of the life-holding past and embrace the the new day with hope, courage and gratitude!

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave

 

Every Piece is Meant For You, by Virgil Kalyana Mittata Iordache

FaceBook  On Nov 27, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 I view myself as a gestalt, a configuration, composed of different parts and structures performing different activities and functions.Each one is different yet connected with each other creating a sense of me, my identity. There are times when I feel cohesiveness, a sense of integration, wholeness and oneness- my true identity.I feel deep joy, ecstasy. These are the times of thankfulness and gratefulness; times of bowing, surrendering and merging.

And there are times when I feel disconnected within myself. I feel pull and push between two forces not in tune with each other. These are the times when I feel alone and lonely though there is a world of people hustling and bustling around me. I feel a sense of alienation. I feel not at home. These are the times for me for deep contemplating and searching, meditating and praying. Sometimes such times are short and at times they are long. I do not push or  myself from what is transpiring in my inner world. I mindfully stay present watching and witnessing my changing inner panorama. Slowly and steadily I come back home.

While I was writing my reflections, my 19 years grand daughter came to see me in my room and asked me what I was doing. I told her I am at that stage in my life when I spend quiet time with myself to listen to my inner voice in deep contemplation so that my times with others become more meaningful and full. She smiled and left.

May we all find some time to be with us for home coming and live our life as fully as we can!

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave


 

Love Needs to be Constantly Cleansed, by Ajahn Jayasaro

FaceBook  On Nov 19, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 It has been my experience that pure love brings peace, joy, happiness and fulfillment. It has helped me grow and expand. It  has also helped the other connected with me grow and expand.Love keeps the tree of life green and flourish.

It has also been my experience that craving to possess and to control the other in intimate relationships causes suffering. Such suffering has helped me to reflect on me, awaken me  and is has created deeper bonding. Such love showers flowers of joy, peace, happiness and fulfillment. When love gets soiled by selfish desires and cravings, we need to cleanse the dust before it gets dense and heavy.

It is my conviction that when I wake up from my self-created suffering, the light of love dawns upon me and makes me free from my own bondage. Such awakening demands courage to be true to oneself and to the other.

May we wake up from our self-created suffering and be grateful to receive the blessings of pure love!

 

Restoring Balance and Meaning in Ourselves, by Alan Briskin

FaceBook  On Nov 13, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 Such readings make me go deep inside of myself. I have come to realize that when I create dissonance in me by being carried away by my self fulfilling needs without consideration of the other, I create a big split in me and  the other. When I become aware of my self-created disharmony within me and consciously make a shift in me I once again feel wholeness in me and with the other. This is like tending my garden and receiving the rain of grace. To me this is the awakening, coming out of my slumber, and relating to the light within me and without me.This is the middle point where both hands come together, the outer and the inner. And the rain of joy, love,light and peace showers.

May I continue learning how to remain awakened and balanced and receive the blessings of the rain!

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave

 

Why I Make Movies, by Mickey Lemle

FaceBook  On Nov 8, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 There is my truth, your truth and the Truth. My truth is subjective  as i perceive it and your truth is also subjective as you perceive it. The absolute truth is beyond the subjective lenses. Knowing that my truth is not absolute helps me not to close my sight to understand and appreciate the other person's truth. Remaining open to understand the other person's truth has widened my lenses and has enriched my mind and heart. 

The absolute truth has  intrinsic consistency. Whatever is born is bound to die. Everything that has form is going to vanish.Whatever is space and time bound comes and goes.The world caused by ego,  mine and thine, is like a veil covering the face of truth. When I experience the world unbound by  my ego, I feel intrinsic oneness with life everywhere. It is like a shift from somebody, to nobody to everybody. In such a state of unity consciousness, truth, love and bliss become one. Taking a mindful walk in nature, comforting a sad child, giving my hand to a handicapped person entering a medical building, attending to a client going through pain caused by cancer are a few blissful gifts that I receive that fill my heart with deep gratitude and joy.

May we keep our mind and heart open to receive and give the wonderful and graceful gifts of living!

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave

 

The Glass is Already Broken, by Stephen and Ondrea Levine

FaceBook  On Oct 30, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 The presence of the present is the only Reality, the Truth and nothing but the Truth, and not to get attached to what is not in the present moment is the core message of  the wisdom traditions. The challenge for me and for most of us is to stay fully in the present moment. When I bring the shadows form the past and the shadows of the future I disconnect myself with the flow of the present. It is relatively easy for me to flow in the river of the present when I give myself time to be still and remain awakened and aware of this ever presence of the present, I feel the fullness of the moment. It is non-conceptual, non-local and non-causal. I become the present. The I gets dissolved into the river of the eternal and universal flow of energy. This knowing and awareness has helped me to go through ups and downs with equanimity,peace, compassion and love. It has taken time for me to arrive at this place in my life. It is a blessing and I am deeply grateful to the teachers who have blessed me by showing the path.

May we be blessed by the beings who guide us on the path of light and love!

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave

 

Destiny is Within Us, by Hawah Kasat

FaceBook  On Oct 15, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 We make choices in life from the time we wake up and the time we go to bed. Certain behaviors are habitual which do not require my conscious choice making. There are situations which warranty choice making.If I do not make a wise choice and act accordingly, I miss the bus and regret after words, blame myself or blame the other or come up with a an explanation like it was not meant to happen, it was not destined to be.

I have learned that it is  up to me to make my choice. I have freedom to make my choice and I am accountable for the outcomes of my choice. I have prostate cancer. Of course the first choice I  made was to look for a competent oncologist and consulted him. He mentioned the right conventional medical treatment for me. I read more about it and decided to go along with his recommendation. I also read about what causes prostate cancer , scientific research done by renowned researchers in the filed. I have made radical changes in my diet and life style. I have been able to control the growth and spread of the cancer.By making wise choices I am shaping my destiny.

I use mindfulness paradigm for making wise choices when I encounter situations that have the potential for causing pain and suffering. And even when I go through emotional pain, I mindfully process my emotions and arrive at peace within me. I have learned not to react and not to blame others and not to hold onto the past which is already gone.

I find the Serenity Prayer authored by the American theologian Reinhold Niebuhr very illuminating. 

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.

May we cultivate wisdom  by the light within  to make wholesome choices that do not hurt us and others in our life!

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave

 

Reengineeing Our Patterns, by Eknath Easwaran

FaceBook  On Oct 7, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 If we equate time with money, then we are the losers. It is like putting myself in the ever-busy hands of time. So when I say I don't have time, I need to pause, be quiet for a moment to ask the question: Whose voice is this? When I realize that this is not my voice  I consciously distance myself from the "I don't have time" voice, I become free from my  own self and make the wise choice. Do I need to unnecessarily hurry or I can move slowly? Is it that important that I have got to do it right at this moment? What if I do not rush like crazy and take it easy?

I have found the word "pause" very helpful. It helps me to reset my time button. After pausing and taking a few deep and long breaths, I make a wise choice. I jump if I need to jump. I run if I need to run.I know what I need to do. I know myself. I am not a work -shirker. I am a responsible person. As the author says, use discretion. Identify what is central and what is peripheral and then respond to the task accordingly. I do not like to be Type A Personality or Type B Personality. I want to  act like Type A person when  needed to move fast and act like Type B person when it is time to take it easy. The hyper or hypo cycles in my opinion are counter productive. We need to strike a  wholesome balance.

May we take some time to see the real value of time, pause, breathe and make a wise choice!

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave

 

Becoming Free of Our Substitute Life, by Ezra Bayda

FaceBook  On Oct 1, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:
This writing reminds me  of Mahatma Gandhi's words. " Our thoughts become our feelings. Our feelings become our actions. Our actions become our habits. Our habits become our character. Our character becomes our destiny." 

My identity is shaped by many beliefs. One of the basic beliefs is that I should always tell the truth and live my life truthfully. I know from my own experience how difficult it is to always tell the truth. When I do not tell the entire truth, I feel bad, guilty and ashamded. I find no reason to justify it. What is missing is the courage to tell the truth. Telling a lie is self-serving  and self-limiting. And that makes me feel unworthy. What has helped me is to to mindfully and compassionately process my guilt filled thoughts and painful feelings by letting them come and go and slowly and gradually free myself form the grip of the emotional pain. It is by letting the dark clouds come and go I see the light. Mindfulness practice has helped me to cleanse me and brought me to a wholesome place.

This is an going inner work. It needs time to go through this self owning, self examining, self confronting,self cleansing and self forgiving inner work. It feels so good to live a genuinely authentic, truthful and compassionate life.i

May we all be free from the bondage we create in our own selves and by our own selves!

Jagdish P Dave



 
 

Trees are Sanctuaries, by Herman Hesse

FaceBook  On Sep 21, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 Life is a tree. rooted in the all embracing, loving,and nurturing soil. The tree of life grows and faces all kinds of weather, losing leaves and re-growing again, going thought the cycle of birthing, growing , withering and re-birthing. This tree of life is eternal. When we get disconnected from it, we go through suffering. When we silently listen to the tree, we get re-juvinated and joyful. It is our deep trust in the goodness of this tree that upholds us and helps us to rebound.

This is my tree of life. As a human being, I have gone through ups and downs and have fallen flat. I have suffered. When I become  still and accept and process my suffering compassionately, I regain my energy and internal strength. I fall and I rise.I have that unshakable faith in the innate goodness and kindness and forgiveness of the eternal tree within me, I rise with gratitude and start walking on the path of my life. I  feel at home in the caring and loving hands of my home where I can be my true self. Life is a blessing and we all are blessed to have the unending support and love coming from within and without.

May we be grateful to the holy Tree of Life birthing us, taking care of us and providing shade to us when we suffer!

Jagdish P Dave

 

Right Away is the Opposite of Now, by Jacob Needleman

FaceBook  On Sep 12, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 Most of the time we live not right now and  not right here, in the flow of the present moment. We follow our habitual and conditioned patterns of living there and then, caught up in the past which is dead and in the future which is yet to be born. When I embrace the present moment fully, I feel more alive, vibrant, with me and with others in deeper way, more intimate way. It is a reflection of what is happening in me. I am more intimate with me, I am more together with me and that facilitates closeness and togetherness with what I am doing and with the people with me and around me. The ghosts of the past and the future evaporate and the loving feeling good and breathing self shows up on its own. Before I started reflecting on this wonderful writing, I had a counseling session with a client who has been going through depression. I led her through this mindfulness process by asking her to be present with what is always present , our breath. She spent a good amount of time doing belly breathing, deep and slow. feeling centered and grounded. When I sensed she was ready, I suggested her to let what ever was arising in her mind-thoughts- and heart -feelings and emotions and letting them go by each inhalation and exhalation. Ghosts from the past and the future visited her and she let them come and go without reacting, resisting or denying. I stayed with her compassionately and helped her process whatever was showing up  in her mind and heart and  to become mindful of the variety of bodily sensations she was experiencing.It is by feeling we heal, not by suppressing or denying our thoughts and feelings.  We need a compassionate and skillful guide to help us heal and get well. It is an  inner work and it needs to be done regularly to work on ourselves. It helps us unburden ourselves from the  regretful grip of the past and the  worrisome net of the future. By working on the shadow, we see the glimpses of light. May  See full.

 Most of the time we live not right now and  not right here, in the flow of the present moment. We follow our habitual and conditioned patterns of living there and then, caught up in the past which is dead and in the future which is yet to be born. When I embrace the present moment fully, I feel more alive, vibrant, with me and with others in deeper way, more intimate way. It is a reflection of what is happening in me. I am more intimate with me, I am more together with me and that facilitates closeness and togetherness with what I am doing and with the people with me and around me. The ghosts of the past and the future evaporate and the loving feeling good and breathing self shows up on its own.

Before I started reflecting on this wonderful writing, I had a counseling session with a client who has been going through depression. I led her through this mindfulness process by asking her to be present with what is always present , our breath. She spent a good amount of time doing belly breathing, deep and slow. feeling centered and grounded. When I sensed she was ready, I suggested her to let what ever was arising in her mind-thoughts- and heart -feelings and emotions and letting them go by each inhalation and exhalation. Ghosts from the past and the future visited her and she let them come and go without reacting, resisting or denying. I stayed with her compassionately and helped her process whatever was showing up  in her mind and heart and  to become mindful of the variety of bodily sensations she was experiencing.It is by feeling we heal, not by suppressing or denying our thoughts and feelings.  We need a compassionate and skillful guide to help us heal and get well.

It is an  inner work and it needs to be done regularly to work on ourselves. It helps us unburden ourselves from the  regretful grip of the past and the  worrisome net of the future. By working on the shadow, we see the glimpses of light.

May we daily carve some time  from our frenzy and overly busy life style to take care of ourselves and relate to others in a compassionate and constructive way.May we give such a priceless gift to ourselves and to others and realize that by giving we receive.

Namaste.
 
Jagdish P Dave



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Simplicity of the Heart, by J. Krishnamurti

FaceBook  On Sep 3, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

Natural  way of living is a free way of living. It is a way of living different from  the habitual and conditioned way of living. It is a way of living without getting attached to our desires. Our attachment to desires makes us bound by our desires. And we all know that when we are bound by the desires, we go through the inevitable swings of pleasure and pain, elation and depression, ups and down in our life.  Suffering arises from our attachment to desires.

Wisdom traditions have offered different ways of liberating ourselves from the clutches of our desires. If we pay our full attention to what is happening in our body, mind and heart.  We get helpful feed back from our own selves. We pause, recognize,  and allow ourselves to witness  without judging what is happening in the present moment. We inquire and get an insight and an answer from within. This process helps us to make a wise choice. We learn not to make a self hurting tight fist.If we don't make a  tight fist, we don't hurt ourselves.In the quiet inner space, we make a conflict free wise choice.

It is my understanding that it is the self that liberates itself. Such ongoing  non-judgmental awareness has helped me to walk on the samyak- the right path.We need to remain awake inwardly to enlighten our path.This is my everyday practice of living.

May we let the light within us shine to  guide us to walk on the natural, wholesome, and blissful way of living!

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave'
  

 

Taking a Stand, by Lynne Twist

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 Taking a stand means being who you are, what you believe in, and live accordingly. When a person takes a stand for a noble cause, his life becomes his message. People listen to him/her, join hands with him/her and brings about a transformation in the lives of many. There are many examples of such daring people who have taken a firm and radical stand against injustice.

There are also people who taken a strong stand for an unholy cause. History is full of such demonic people who have ruthlessly tortured millions of people.

When I was a child, we lived in a cooperative housing society. Whenever an important issuescame up, my father took a clear and strong position that would serve the entire community and not a few chosen ones. His position was at times was not popular but he remained steadfast and did not cave in.He was well known for being impartial and bold. People respected him for his integrity and courage. He was a good role mode for us.

I have followed in his foot prints. There have been times in the community where I lived in, I took a firm position for electing a president of the organization not because he gave a big donation but  on the basis of his merits. Sadly money talks and silences right voices. I persisted and eventually convinced others to do the right thing.

When we take a position for the right cause, we derive a lot of strength from within. And we leave a mark behind. That's why people who have taken a clear and strong position for a noble cause dwell in our hearts.

May we cultivate inner strength to take a position for a noble cause to serve others!

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave


 

Accessing Desire As Loving Motivation, by Miki Kashtan

FaceBook  On Aug 19, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 This relationship dialogue rings bell in my ears. I have learned to make a shift consciously from I should or you should to I would like me to or I would like you to followed by a rational good reason statement.. Words matter. What I say and how I say has a great impact on me as well as another person involved in the transaction. The word Mindfulness is a very important word in the dictionary of my relationship and interpersonal communication. The word "should" connotes demand, not a request. Demand causes a gap or disconnect between two people involved in the situation. Remaining connected with each other is crucial for interpersonal communication and relationship. We can be authentic. respectful, and empathetic or compassionate in our communication. Such communication builds bridges and not walls, cooperation and collaboration, and not  divisiveness. and non co-operation. I would like to present the significance of the intrapersonal communication to cultivate the skills of interpersonal communication. What I say and how I say to the other person is the reflection of what I say and how I say to myself. It is from the inside out. I find this mindfulness way of communication within and without very helpful. I  counsel children, couples  and families.The first thing I teach them is how to be aware of the impact of the other person's verbal  and non verbal behavior on them selves. I teach them to  attend to what arises in their mind,-disturbing thoughts and feelings and feel their bodily sensations- without judging them and with empathy. You do not fight them, resist them, chase them, cling to them or stuck with them. You need to be free from holding on to or reacting to such thoughts and feelings.Once we clear up the heavy clouds in our mind and body, the compassionate,kind,caring and loving part of ourselves comes out. We get a better and clearer understanding and insight about the difficult cond  See full.

 This relationship dialogue rings bell in my ears. I have learned to make a shift consciously from I should or you should to I would like me to or I would like you to followed by a rational good reason statement.. Words matter. What I say and how I say has a great impact on me as well as another person involved in the transaction. The word Mindfulness is a very important word in the dictionary of my relationship and interpersonal communication. The word "should" connotes demand, not a request. Demand causes a gap or disconnect between two people involved in the situation. Remaining connected with each other is crucial for interpersonal communication and relationship. We can be authentic. respectful, and empathetic or compassionate in our communication. Such communication builds bridges and not walls, cooperation and collaboration, and not  divisiveness. and non co-operation.

I would like to present the significance of the intrapersonal communication to cultivate the skills of interpersonal communication. What I say and how I say to the other person is the reflection of what I say and how I say to myself. It is from the inside out. I find this mindfulness way of communication within and without very helpful. I  counsel children, couples  and families.The first thing I teach them is how to be aware of the impact of the other person's verbal  and non verbal behavior on them selves. I teach them to  attend to what arises in their mind,-disturbing thoughts and feelings and feel their bodily sensations- without judging them and with empathy. You do not fight them, resist them, chase them, cling to them or stuck with them. You need to be free from holding on to or reacting to such thoughts and feelings.Once we clear up the heavy clouds in our mind and body, the compassionate,kind,caring and loving part of ourselves comes out. We get a better and clearer understanding and insight about the difficult conditions disrupting the relationship.It is self introspective work. Such mindfulness work is essential for personal, interpersonal and familial well being. It's an ongoing journey expanding and deepening our  intrapersonal and interpersonal relationships.

May we create silence within ourselves to listen to ourselves and to others with an open mind and a kind heart!

Jagdish P Dave




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My Work is Loving the World, by Mary Oliver

FaceBook  On Aug 13, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 I am looking for beauty far away in the snow clad Himalayas; I am seeking fragrance in the flowers in the garden of Aden; I am searching for the holy foot prints on the sand of the Ganges; and I am  yearning to hear the Divine voice in holy places.

 When I stand still, I hear the soft  whispering voice of a flower right in front of me, look at me, I am right here fully present. O seeker! Where are you?

I am like the musk deer looking for the enchanting fragrance coming from somewhere. I go North, South, East and West, look above, look below getting exhausted and worn out.

 When I stand still,I hear the sweet voice coming from within like the voice coming from the navel of the musk deer. I am here, right here within you.

The Upanishad Rushi sings with his hands folded, It is far and it is near. It is near, it is far.

We need to visit ourselves, be with ourselves as poet Rumi says.

May we find a quiet space within ourselves everyday to embrace our searching soul and listen to our quiet inner voice, counting my everyday blessings.

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave

 

Reflections on Life from Death Row, by Moyo

FaceBook  On Aug 6, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 How to turn a cell into a retreat for deep introspection and transformation? How to be a change agent by  confronting nonviolently unjust and inhuman acts done by powerful forces?  Most of us face such existential and significant questions  to work on ourselves and work for a just cause. This is an inspiring story of an inner transformational process of a young man on a death row.

How I relate to this inspiring story as a mirror to look at my inner landscape and how do I relate to inhuman and unjust acts happening in the world I live in? I firmly believe that in order to see the outer world clearly and comprehensively, I need to continuously keep on working to see and understand my inner world clearly, compassionately, and courageously. It is like a coin with two sides-the inner and the outer. The inner world needs to be cleared and transformed to clear and transform the outer world. Such inner explorations require a cell time, a retreat time to sit, pause, and see. Such retreats can be short or long. I always find time for me from my busy and active life to do mindfulness meditation. This is my time for stepping out of my everyday busy time.This is my quiet time be fully present to my inner world, letting the noisy mind stuff-thoughts and emotions- come and go. I am freeing myself from myself. This practice has helped me to understand and transform myself and relate to the outer world more constructively. I  see myself progressing slowly but steadily. This is not a one shot deal. It is an ongoing  and encouraging self -work.

May we find some time everyday from our busy time to do such  mindfulness introspective  work to heal ourselves and others!

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave


 

Stepping into the Present Is a Gift , by Carolyn Hobbs

FaceBook  On Jul 30, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 Carolyn Hobbs' writing resonates deeply with and within me. As I understand, each one of us has two identities: Ego Identity and True Identity. Our ego identity is developed in social contexts and social milieu sustained by identifying ourselves with ego identity and living in that socially conditioned bubble. Since all of us are born in a social nest, we all are impacted by our upbringing and social transactions. Such conditioning  serves to some extent our practical functions of living. However, it restricts and limits our inherent capacity to develop and cultivate our true identity. Our true identity has its own authentic true voice not suppressed or muffled by the voice of the ego identity. When we live and behave from the center of our true identity, we feel whole and wholesome, relating to ourselves and others genuinely, empathetically and compassionately. We become each other's brother keepers.It is a relationship in which join our heads, hearts and hands come together. We move from ego bound identity to transcendental true identity. We move from an unawakened and ignorant state to an awakened and enlightened state, from bondage to freedom, from darkness to light. We regain our childhood- a source of  pure and joyful energy, seeing our face in other's face.We make wise choices and build and sustain our infra structure of loving kindness, brotherhood and sisterhood.   How do we make a shift from ego identity to true identity? All wisdom traditions have explored this ever present and universal challenge of humankind and have offered pathways to realize our true nature and be happy and blissful. Our challenge is to embrace the pathway that suits our personality and consistently practice it in our everyday living. Following such a path with mindfulness  has been a blessing to me.It has helped me to live in the present more fully. When and if my mind goes away from the here and now consciousness, I  become mindful of my wandering mi  See full.

 Carolyn Hobbs' writing resonates deeply with and within me. As I understand, each one of us has two identities: Ego Identity and True Identity. Our ego identity is developed in social contexts and social milieu sustained by identifying ourselves with ego identity and living in that socially conditioned bubble. Since all of us are born in a social nest, we all are impacted by our upbringing and social transactions. Such conditioning  serves to some extent our practical functions of living. However, it restricts and limits our inherent capacity to develop and cultivate our true identity. Our true identity has its own authentic true voice not suppressed or muffled by the voice of the ego identity.

When we live and behave from the center of our true identity, we feel whole and wholesome, relating to ourselves and others genuinely, empathetically and compassionately. We become each other's brother keepers.It is a relationship in which join our heads, hearts and hands come together. We move from ego bound identity to transcendental true identity. We move from an unawakened and ignorant state to an awakened and enlightened state, from bondage to freedom, from darkness to light. We regain our childhood- a source of  pure and joyful energy, seeing our face in other's face.We make wise choices and build and sustain our infra structure of loving kindness, brotherhood and sisterhood.
 
How do we make a shift from ego identity to true identity? All wisdom traditions have explored this ever present and universal challenge of humankind and have offered pathways to realize our true nature and be happy and blissful. Our challenge is to embrace the pathway that suits our personality and consistently practice it in our everyday living. Following such a path with mindfulness  has been a blessing to me.It has helped me to live in the present more fully. When and if my mind goes away from the here and now consciousness, I  become mindful of my wandering mind and get centered. With practice, it has been easier for me to walk on this mindfulness path. My daily transactions with a variety of people have become more genuine and compassionate. Now when I go back to "sleep", become unmindful, it does not take much time for me to wake up and be mindful. This is a lifelong journey and I am embracing it with hope, joy, and  gratitude. 

May we become each other's brothers and sisters' keepers and  be grateful for receiving Divine blessings!

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave'




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The Power Paradox, by Dacher Keltner

FaceBook  On Jul 12, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 Power is a relational concept and experience. When we try to control somebody in the orbit of my relationship and feel good, great and superior to the other, we loose our wholesome connection with the other person.Empoweng oneself at the cost of others is the root cause of exploitation causing adversarial relationship. When we use power to help  the other, to be connected with the other on equality basis, and with love in our heart, power becomes a great positive force. It results in giving and sharing rather than taking and controlling.Power can kill and power can heal. One has to make a wise choice.

I work with children and help them to make wise choices in relating to other children and their teachers. When they get caught up in a power struggle situation with another child ot a teacher, I ask them to play a pillow game.In this game. The person who feels like " I am right and he is is wrong'', I ask both the children to take turns and let the other child know that he indeed understand his or her perspective empathetically. The other child  goes through the same process.Listening to each other with an open mind and empathetic heart builds bridges and not walls. We need to build more bridges of empathy, respect and actions.

I use the same model in interpersonal communication and relationship. If we do not  learn and practice such positive  way of working on our relationships on all levels family, community,  economic and political, we are planting and nurturing the seeds mutual destruction.

May we keep our mind and heart open to relate to differences wisely and constructively!

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave
 

 

Giving Up is Different From Letting Someone Down, by Brother David Steindl-Rast

FaceBook  On Jul 5, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 I think we need a healthy balance between the apparent opposites: taking and giving. We are very familiar with the stressful life we have created in ourselves because of the time pressure we feel most of the time. Sadly, we do not have time to be with ourselves, to listen mindfully listen to what's happening in our body, mind and heart and in the lives of the people who are  close to us. We have allowed ourselves to be caught up in the no-time cycle.We know how or we may not know how much price we have paid for trading on the fast stressful lane. There is always more to do, more to accomplish- more money, more name and fame, more power and possession. We are paying a big toll for neglecting or side tracking the other side of the doing lane-the lane of not doing,relaxing,giving time to ourselves and the folks in our life, to enjoy the bounties of nature, to reach out and offer our compassionate caring hands. No wonder why there is an increase in mental and medical diseases. They are mainly caused by our lack of giving quality time to our selves, to  our families and to relate to the gifts of nature. I have seen three generations in my relatively 91 years old life. The first generation, my generation, when we had more time to give to each other with hardly any mechanical and electrical toys to play with.Going to bed when the night arrives and waking up when the sun shows up, taking long evening walks and running around with no reason.Life was simple and easy. We had more time to give to ourselves and to others.When I entered into the second generation I witnessed the heavy impact of the industrial revolution-taking more time to do and giving less time to be.The third generation has its own world-  the world of computers and social media. I take a lot of time to check my emails, text, call and face book, without facing the real person in front of me. Benefits? Yes. Losses? Yes. I am learning how to use my discretion to make wise choices, to s  See full.

 I think we need a healthy balance between the apparent opposites: taking and giving. We are very familiar with the stressful life we have created in ourselves because of the time pressure we feel most of the time. Sadly, we do not have time to be with ourselves, to listen mindfully listen to what's happening in our body, mind and heart and in the lives of the people who are  close to us. We have allowed ourselves to be caught up in the no-time cycle.We know how or we may not know how much price we have paid for trading on the fast stressful lane. There is always more to do, more to accomplish- more money, more name and fame, more power and possession. We are paying a big toll for neglecting or side tracking the other side of the doing lane-the lane of not doing,relaxing,giving time to ourselves and the folks in our life, to enjoy the bounties of nature, to reach out and offer our compassionate caring hands. No wonder why there is an increase in mental and medical diseases. They are mainly caused by our lack of giving quality time to our selves, to  our families and to relate to the gifts of nature.

I have seen three generations in my relatively 91 years old life. The first generation, my generation, when we had more time to give to each other with hardly any mechanical and electrical toys to play with.Going to bed when the night arrives and waking up when the sun shows up, taking long evening walks and running around with no reason.Life was simple and easy. We had more time to give to ourselves and to others.When I entered into the second generation I witnessed the heavy impact of the industrial revolution-taking more time to do and giving less time to be.The third generation has its own world-  the world of computers and social media. I take a lot of time to check my emails, text, call and face book, without facing the real person in front of me. Benefits? Yes. Losses? Yes.

I am learning how to use my discretion to make wise choices, to strike a balance between the world of doing  and the world of being.How can we have a balance between taking and giving is a challenge for all of us.This challenge has given me an opportunity to live more mindfully. 

May we all learn, teach and share our ways of creating and sustaining such balance wholesome balance!
Namaste. Jagdish

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Keeping Nothing Between, by Eugene Gendlin

FaceBook  On Jun 24, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 What stops me from being myself to myself? What stops me from being myself to yourself? What is in between me and me and  between you and me? What is that in me which blocks my natural childlike curiosity to look at you and get connected with you?

To find the answer to my questions, I need to look within me with an open and present mind to see my original face. I need to set aside consciously the three clusters mentioned by Eugene Gendlin in this writing: my inner struggles going on in my mind, my mind preoccupied with what I need to do right now and the conventional way of saying hi to myself and others. These are the obstacles that obstruct me meeting me and really knowing me. I do not become intimate with myself. The same obstacles obstruct me to see you freshly, clearly and deeply and to be connected with you. A loss on both sides!

What helps me is very simple. I have set aside daily time for me to be with me inviting and greeting whatever and whoever shows up in my consciousness. This mindfulness meditation has helped me to do self-work to be whole and wholesome. It has helped me to relate to others in my life with openness, wonderment and freshness. Working with children in a school setting has been very beneficial to me.

I would like to conclude my reflections with words uttered by an Indian poetess by the name Meera. They are in Hindi. I  translate them into English. "Remove the veil that you are holding inside yourself and you will find your Beloved." And that's what I am doing.

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave



 

Planetary Beings with Planetary Hearts, by Clare Dakin

FaceBook  On Jun 13, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 "Be true to yourself" is one of my guiding mantras. When I act according to this mantra, I feel whole, clear, energetic, creative, compassionate and liberated. My inner  pure and clear voice has always helped me to walk on the right path.  When I feel conflict in me, a divided self, I have learned not to listen and follow that voice. I take time out, sit, be quiet, take deep breaths and mindfully process whatever arises in my mind pertaining  to the confusing conflicting situations in my life.Such mindfulness and compassionate presence with my conflicting self helps me to be grounded and listen to the true friendly voice inside myself. My closed and deaf ears open, my cloudy eyes become clear and my heart receives the grace of the voice of my true self. It has not been always easy for me to listen to the voice of my trues self.There have been times in my life when I have turned my deaf ear to my true self.When I get caught up in fulfilling my selfish desire or need, I move in the dark zone and refuse to see the light of my true self. After some time and it has not been right away, I realize my own stepping over myself and hurting me it and that way hurting someone associated with the situation. I have cultivated courage to be my true self and free myself from my self created bondage. I feel light and unburdened and feel free to relate to the other person in a compassionate and loving way. My transformed self heals me and heals the other person. I know it is an ongoing journey. It is my realization that it gets easier and relatively quicker to be true to one self and live accordingly. According to the Buddha, when we remain awake and open, we naturally walk on the path of liberation. I bow to the Buddha for teaching this mantra of inner liberation for peaceful living. May we all strive for listening to the voice of the true self and live our life following our true inner voice. Namaste Jagdish P Dave  See full.

 "Be true to yourself" is one of my guiding mantras. When I act according to this mantra, I feel whole, clear, energetic, creative, compassionate and liberated. My inner  pure and clear voice has always helped me to walk on the right path. 

When I feel conflict in me, a divided self, I have learned not to listen and follow that voice. I take time out, sit, be quiet, take deep breaths and mindfully process whatever arises in my mind pertaining  to the confusing conflicting situations in my life.Such mindfulness and compassionate presence with my conflicting self helps me to be grounded and listen to the true friendly voice inside myself. My closed and deaf ears open, my cloudy eyes become clear and my heart receives the grace of the voice of my true self.

It has not been always easy for me to listen to the voice of my trues self.There have been times in my life when I have turned my deaf ear to my true self.When I get caught up in fulfilling my selfish desire or need, I move in the dark zone and refuse to see the light of my true self. After some time and it has not been right away, I realize my own stepping over myself and hurting me it and that way hurting someone associated with the situation.

I have cultivated courage to be my true self and free myself from my self created bondage. I feel light and unburdened and feel free to relate to the other person in a compassionate and loving way. My transformed self heals me and heals the other person. I know it is an ongoing journey. It is my realization that it gets easier and relatively quicker to be true to one self and live accordingly. According to the Buddha, when we remain awake and open, we naturally walk on the path of liberation. I bow to the Buddha for teaching this mantra of inner liberation for peaceful living.

May we all strive for listening to the voice of the true self and live our life following our true inner voice. Namaste

Jagdish P Dave

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Creative Living, by Elizabeth Gilbert

FaceBook  On May 31, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 "The light to shine our life is within us." My dad used to tell me these words of wisdom when I needed to hear them. He was a living example of knowing that truth. I was blessed to have such a wise teacher in my life. It took time for me to realize this truth. When I was 18 years old, I felt that call coming from within to remain open to have glimpses of the rich  treasures shining within me-the treasures of aspirations, aliveness, joyfulness and deep contentment. I felt deeply connected with that call when I will put my heart in doing that filled my heart with joy and aliveness and enthusiasm. I enjoyed learning  about what makes me feel centered, fulfilled and looking forward to continuing my journey. Sharing what thrills me with others and teaching such wonderful findings brings a tremendous of joy and energy to me. The beauty of this discovery is that it does not get stale. It has its ever abiding freshness. It is old and it is new.

I am very grateful to have teachers in my life who have compassionately held my hand and shown me a way of living fully from within.

May we all be blessed  to discover our hidden treasures dwelling with us and sharing our light with others.

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave

 

Learning Not to Be Afraid of Things That Are Real, by Thanissaro Bhikkhu

FaceBook  On May 20, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 Seeing ourselves as we are and seeing others as  they are is not that easy although it is liberating. We wear lenses of our desires, wants and biases to see ourselves and others.Our lenses need to be clean and clear to see the reality or the truth. The truth liberates us from the delusions, maya, we create within our own selves.It is like chasing the mirage. No wonder why we go through ups and downs in our life. Sitting quietly in a meditative way helps me to see things more clearly and dispels my delusion.

I cause my own suffering by projecting my own wishes and desire and seeing things the way I want to. It has resulted in pain and agony. I attribute my suffering to the other person in my life with a blaming stance. What has helped me and still helps me is sitting still to listen to my unfiltered voice and seeing the truth. Such mindfulness processing frees me from my self-created bondage and makes me whole and wholesome. I always set aside time for awakening myself. This mindfulness meditation helps me to remain centered and grounded.

May we  all find some time everyday to be with ourselves mindfully to see the truth for awakening..

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave


 

The Value of Solitude, by William Deresiewicz

FaceBook  On May 14, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 When I sit still and mindfully explore my inner land- scape of bodily sensations, thoughts and feelings compassionately, I deeply feel connected with me. I just got a call from my client who is feeling very lonely, bored and depressed.I asked her to do mindfulness meditation with me on the phone.In the beginning it was difficult for her to let the bodily sensations, thoughts and feelings come and go.She started feeling close and more connected with herself and with me too.A bridge of empathy, compassion, authenticity and connectedness was being built from a long distance call. It was a short session on the phone but it was very effective.I felt pretty good for being with her when she needed my help and she expressed her gratitude for being for helping her.

So we need solitude, stillness, for nurturing ourselves and also for nurturing others in our life. I use technology wisely and I am teaching my grand children to use social media wisely. Slowly and steadily they are getting the message and I am not in hurry.

May we cultivate kindness and compassion for ourselves and others to learn how to be still in the midst of ongoing noise within and without us.

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave

 

Rediscovering the Art of Reverence, by John O'Donohue

FaceBook  On May 6, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 Reverence, like unconditional love, is the foundation of my life.I revere life like a flower with one thousand petals, different yet the same, having the underlying  unifying and  harmonizing oneness.I have reverence for my parents who gave birth to me, nurtured me and loved me unconditionally when I was a child.I felt their loving and guiding presence even when I became an adult and had my children.I feel deep reverence for all my family members and friends who stood by me through thick and thin. Many have gone away physically leaving their blessings in my heart.I have deep reverence for the bountiful nature for providing food for life.

I feel deep reverence when I read  teachings of highly evolved beings from different wisdom traditions. I bow to them for enriching my spiritual living. 

To me, reverence is an offering that arises in and  from my heart. It has nothing to do with external and social dimensions.It is a deep feeling that is felt in my heart and  continues nurturing, nourishing and enriching my life.

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave

 

Pronounce a Silent Blessing, by Barbara Brown Taylor

FaceBook  On Apr 29, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 To me peonouncing a blessing is to remain open and pay attention to what is, not how it should be, could be or would be. Seeing whatever clearly with bare attention, with its unfolding presence, is a miaracle. When I saw the face of a child in a class room filled with sadness, I stopped walking and sat beside him. I held his hands compassionately and said softly " You look sad". He sat quietly. I gave him space to be himself. Slowly he started crying. Hie eyes were filled with tears.I held his hands tenderly letting him feel I am with him.I felt his pain.These were very precious moments of intimacy transcending the age, he beinfg 8 years old and me being 90 years old. These were sacred moments unfolding oneness between two beings. To me it was a miracle. Slowlty we started breathing together, feeling more connected. Slowly a smile dawned upon his face and he said gently 'Thank you." I palced my hand on his head and blessed him. We made each other's day. That little boy filled my heart with joyful gratitude. He gave me his blessing.

Such expereinces happen quite often in my daily life. Such expereinces blossom my heart. They bring necotr- like sweetness.If we keep our mind and heart open and learn to live mindfully, our life itself becomes a blessing to us and to others.

May our everyday be filled with blessings. Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave

 

Relationships Make You Conscious, Not Happy, by Eckhart Tolle

FaceBook  On Apr 15, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

I have been learning a lot about me by my relationships with others. The other becomes a mirror for me to see my true and original self. My transactions with significant people in my life make me see those parts of myself that I unconsciously hide from me. They create a larger space within me to look at me, hear me, show my limitations and help me go beyond the self  limiting boundaries I have unconsciously created in me.It has not been always easy to acknowledge and accept my shortcomings.
Such a journey is an ongoing process for me. I am grateful to people in my life for removing my blindfolds.
When I notice anger arising in me by someone's behavior, I pause, breathe and become aware of my own reactive thought and emotional patterns. Creating such quiet space within me helps me to respond wisely. Such experiences and behaviors help me to connect myself with others empathetically and enrich our relationship. I am very grateful to people in my life for helping me understand my my conditioned and habitual patterns of reacting rather than responding. I am happy to travel on this path. Namaste. Jagdish Dave


 

 

Sufficiency is Not Abundance, by Lynne Twist

FaceBook  On Jan 29, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 I love this idea of sufficiency which creates and sustains a deep sense of contentment. If we focus our attention and our energy on sufficiency, life will be less complicated and less stressful.The economic gap between the classes-the upper, middle and lower- will decrease or hopefully dissolve giving birth to sharing wellness- based wealth according to the needs of the people.As we all know the money-based democracy is not  creating cauthentic political democracy.This is one of the reasons why the  have nots resent and rebel against the haves. We do not have to go back all the way to the Roman Empire to test this idea.We see how it prevails in all countries, the richest and the poorest. I like and endorse this radical idea and I find it relatively easy to apply it in my personal life and in my family.I have simplified my life significantly. We feel much lighter as we have reduced our load of having more and better and newer things in our lives. We have more time to spend with each other, enjoy what we have. We are more relaxed , contented and happy. Mahatma Gandhi and Mother Teresa  are contemporary examples of simple and higher living. They had profound inner richness. They did not live their life on scarcity but on inner abundance, inner richness or inner wealth. Our financial system is based on consumers economy-the more they consume, the more we produce. We need to pause and ask the question-at what cost? The answer comes from within if we shift the idea of happiness. It is the deep contentment we feel in ourselves. A deep sense of fullness and fulfillment we cherish everyday.It is a wonderful feeling of joy we feel in giving, sharing and serving others. To me this is spiritual living. I am blessed to have inspiring people in my life  as models teaching me the lesson of simple living and high functioning. We are all together like a family, the children of Mother Earth. We need to learn to love over neighbor living next  See full.

 I love this idea of sufficiency which creates and sustains a deep sense of contentment. If we focus our attention and our energy on sufficiency, life will be less complicated and less stressful.The economic gap between the classes-the upper, middle and lower- will decrease or hopefully dissolve giving birth to sharing wellness- based wealth according to the needs of the people.As we all know the money-based democracy is not  creating cauthentic political democracy.This is one of the reasons why the  have nots resent and rebel against the haves. We do not have to go back all the way to the Roman Empire to test this idea.We see how it prevails in all countries, the richest and the poorest.

I like and endorse this radical idea and I find it relatively easy to apply it in my personal life and in my family.I have simplified my life significantly. We feel much lighter as we have reduced our load of having more and better and newer things in our lives. We have more time to spend with each other, enjoy what we have. We are more relaxed , contented and happy. Mahatma Gandhi and Mother Teresa  are contemporary examples of simple and higher living. They had profound inner richness. They did not live their life on scarcity but on inner abundance, inner richness or inner wealth.

Our financial system is based on consumers economy-the more they consume, the more we produce. We need to pause and ask the question-at what cost? The answer comes from within if we shift the idea of happiness. It is the deep contentment we feel in ourselves. A deep sense of fullness and fulfillment we cherish everyday.It is a wonderful feeling of joy we feel in giving, sharing and serving others. To me this is spiritual living. I am blessed to have inspiring people in my life  as models teaching me the lesson of simple living and high functioning.

We are all together like a family, the children of Mother Earth. We need to learn to love over neighbor living next to our house or far away from us.We need to make a shift from what is it for me to to how can I reach out and extend my helping hands.

May we relate to others with compassion and kindness and fill the cup of our life with contentment, joy and happiness!
 


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The Same Self Is in All of Us, by Eknath Easwaran

FaceBook  On Jan 27, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 I have learned many wonderful lessons from Eknath Easwaran. I am very grateful to him for giving me gifts from his heart. This is the way he lived his life.When we realize the oneness in manyness, life becomes a blessing, a beauty and joy for ever. Our egoic mind creates separation and divisiveness, mine and thin, better and worse, black and white with judgmental lenses. When we see the connecting link between and among us, we are moving in the oneness zone.

This is my experience in my everyday transactions. I spend a great of time with children in a school setting.They are different from one another in many ways coming from diversified back grounds. What brings them to gather is kindness to each other, holding each other's hands that include me and playing together. When personal likes and dislikes come into play and when they treat each other unkindly, they experience disconnect for a short time.They come back and rejoin their hands.They do not close their hearts. Oneness dwells in the house of our heart. And that is the way I realize oneness in manyness.

May we keep our heart open to feel the bliss of oneness in all of us!




 

Absurd Heroism, by Margaret Wheatley

FaceBook  On Jan 16, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 We, as a human race, are encountering  gigantic storm. We witness it as well as we experience it. We have all kinds of storms created by us..No Gods have condemned us to death. We are condemning ourselves to death.We have weather storms, climate storms,, ecological storms, radical ideological storms, financial storms, political and social storms. It is a  stormy world we live in.And we all are paying a heavy cost physically, mentally, emotionally, socially, spiritually and globally.

We cannot afford to have an ostrich mentality wising, hoping and praying that these storms will pass away over our head. Apathy, denial, blaming and doing nothing constructively is suicidal.

Now is the time to wake up. Now is the time to join hands with people close  in our family and community. Now is the time to join hands with people beyond our borders. We need to break out of individualistic, isolating and self-serving mindset. Now is the time to tackle it. If not know, then the Doom's Day prophecy will prevail.

When things did not go the way I wanted and expected, I used to externalize  and point finger towards somebody. That kind of mindset caused suffering in me and people close to me. I have learned to look within mindfully and free myself from the bondage I create within myself. When my mind is liberated, I feel positive energy, robust hopefulness and deeply connected with people who are joining hands to create a better world to live in-a world where sanity prevails; a world where we have a common mission and vision of treating each other as sisters and brothers, as friends and fellow travelers with open minds and open hearts. This is me, a child of the sacred Mother Earth receiving blessings with gratitude.

May my stay be instrumental in planting trees of love, compassion and selfless service! May we all join our hands to work for a noble cause!

Jagdish P Dave


 

Be Cool to the Pizza Dude, by Sarah Adams

FaceBook  On Jan 10, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 The pizza wheel of life has many interconnected spokes: honoring work, serving and treating people with equality, courtesy,modesty, humility, self regard and empathy.Our self-worth does not necessarily depend on what work I do but how I do it. Do I put my heart in it? Do I accept it? How do I treat and serve others related to my work? I have been applying this philosophy of living and working to the best of my ability. It has filled the cup of my life with deep contentment, gratitude, empathy, joy and a wholesome sense of my self.Work can be worship no matter where I work and what work I do.How I work, the inner quality of my work, is more important than the outer forms of my work.

May we work  with  kindness, compassion, dedication, empathy, humility and gratitude!

 

I Have Decided to Stick With Love, by Martin Luther King Jr.

FaceBook  On Jan 1, 2016 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 Love is the master key that opens the door for healing,  harmonizing, nourishing, connecting, caring, enriching and uplifting. Love indeed i invokes the God Light, the God Truth and the God Peace in all of us. All traditions of wisdom, all highly evolved spiritual teachers all over the world have taught us the healing power of love by their examples. All of us have been blessed to have parents, siblings,friends, neighbors, teachers, farmers, workers, innovators, care takers and even strangers who have given us taste of unconditional love occasionally or on a consistent level. They  are living examples of the kind of love Martin Luther King Jr is talking about so eloquently. Simple acts of kindness touch our hearts with love.Our thoughts, words and actions that harm us and harm others, deprive us and others from benevolence, hurt us and hurt others perpetuate the cycle of hatred and suffering. No violent actions are justified by quoting the name of God or by righteousness. History is full of wars fought in the name of God and by believing and stating God is on our side. And seeds of peace and good will are also planted and blossomed by people who relate to others like their sole brothers and sisters. I myself and many others whom I know well have been blessed by having people who have showered their love on us on a regular basis. When I offer my service to others selflessly, I smell the fragrance of love, the taste of kindness, the sweetness of compassion and the touch of divinity. Usually, such acts happen. I do not plan them  in advance.Being human, I run into helping hands when I need help. And people run into my helping hands when they need help.It is an everyday happening. My cup of life is filled when I reach out and help others and also when people reach out hold my feeble hands. May we cultivate loving kindness in our hearts and create connectedness within ourselves and others by offering and receiving gifts of love!  See full.

 Love is the master key that opens the door for healing,  harmonizing, nourishing, connecting, caring, enriching and uplifting. Love indeed i invokes the God Light, the God Truth and the God Peace in all of us. All traditions of wisdom, all highly evolved spiritual teachers all over the world have taught us the healing power of love by their examples. All of us have been blessed to have parents, siblings,friends, neighbors, teachers, farmers, workers, innovators, care takers and even strangers who have given us taste of unconditional love occasionally or on a consistent level. They  are living examples of the kind of love Martin Luther King Jr is talking about so eloquently. Simple acts of kindness touch our hearts with love.Our thoughts, words and actions that harm us and harm others, deprive us and others from benevolence, hurt us and hurt others perpetuate the cycle of hatred and suffering. No violent actions are justified by quoting the name of God or by righteousness. History is full of wars fought in the name of God and by believing and stating God is on our side. And seeds of peace and good will are also planted and blossomed by people who relate to others like their sole brothers and sisters.

I myself and many others whom I know well have been blessed by having people who have showered their love on us on a regular basis. When I offer my service to others selflessly, I smell the fragrance of love, the taste of kindness, the sweetness of compassion and the touch of divinity. Usually, such acts happen. I do not plan them  in advance.Being human, I run into helping hands when I need help. And people run into my helping hands when they need help.It is an everyday happening. My cup of life is filled when I reach out and help others and also when people reach out hold my feeble hands.

May we cultivate loving kindness in our hearts and create connectedness within ourselves and others by offering and receiving gifts of love!

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave

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Why Are We Running Out of Time?, by Jacob Needleman

FaceBook  On Dec 28, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 Wisdom traditions have taught us how to be free from our self-created and complicated spider web. We want every thing new and instant right on our palms. We as human beings have created high tech and are being allured and captivated by fast connecting, fast moving and fast changing innovative devices. It is my observation and experience that we hardly find time for ourselves and for others to be connected on a deeper level. It is almost like jumping from one branch to another branch of a tree without being rooted. There is an excitement about such swaying at a high price-the price of losing in-depth internal and inter personal connectedness.We need to be mindful of what we are losing by gaining something. We need to be still to contemplate, meditate and reflect and transform.

May we learn and cultivate the art of hastening slowly and mindfully!

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave

 

Every Seed Carries a Secret, by Angela Fischer

FaceBook  On Nov 29, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

I deeply resonate with the last sentence of this writing. It is the seed of love. It says it all. It is pure energy- life creating and life sustaining, connecting within and without. It is both inner and outer. In pure love, the me and the other, the inner and the outer distinctions, go away.The tree of life grows from the seed of love. Such a tree provides shade and shelter, nurturance and nourishment  to all forms of life. It is always full.

Greed, selfishness. what is it in for me, possessiveness, and such inner self-based wishes, thoughts and actions disconnect us from the seed of love.Truth and Love are the two wings of the Bird of Creation. They create the sacred life, the Divine Light. Our ignorance blinds us to see the Divine Light which is always in the here and now pure consciousness.We all have been blessed to have glimpses of the Divine Light. The sad part of being human is that we do not remain awake and go back to self created dark zone. With  awareness and conscious efforts, we get reconnected with the Divine Light. the Pure Love and have inner and outer peace and fullness.

May we remain awake to receive and give the gifts of love in our everyday life!

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave

 

I Awaken Before Dawn, by Helen Moore

FaceBook  On Nov 20, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

This is a wonderful ode to gratitude. It shows how we are connected with each other. Many unseen  hands have been instrumental in creating the cup and creating tea. A cup of tea is a symbol and a reminder of the interconnectedness of existence. We all are everyday receiving gifts from nature and human beings from far and near. We need to be mindful of the visible and invisible  thread that connects us all.We are grateful for the gifts that we receive everyday.

I have been blessed to receive such gifts everyday from the morning to the night in many many ways;My daughter making a cup of coffee for me and reminding me to drive to work safely.Children greeting me Namaste:by folding their hands lovingly. My colleagues extending their warm and kind hands when I need help from them.I feel happy to offer my gifts to my students, colleagues and parents. It is my experience that when I keep my mind and heart open, I realize how deeply we are connected with each other and how blessed we are to have such gifts everyday in our life.

When I take a walk in nature, I realize how the sun, the air, the earth and the water and the space are intimately connected with one another.We are grateful to have such gifts coming to all of us without discrimination.

May everyday be a Thanks Giving day. May we all be mindful of this interconnectedness and be grateful  for such precious gifts.

Jagdish P Dave

 

Time is a Season, by David Whyte

FaceBook  On Nov 15, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 We bind ourselves by closing ourselves to the ever flowing river of time.When my mind is fully present in the moment, I feel the touch of the ever flowing time. I am in the flow of time fully immersed in it.The water of time is flowing and I am flowing in the water, with the water. I am blessed to have such flowing time when I listen to music, take a walk in nature, meditate, and place my self in the loving hands of people who are fully present in the moment.There is fullness in such timelessness. I describe it as the being zone, a zone of doing nothing but just being.Such being zone is described in this beautiful poem:

Sitting by the river
doing nothing,
spring comes 
the grass grows by itself.

Another poem captures it in the following words:

Ten thousand flowers in spring,
the moon in the autumn,
a cool breeze in summer,
snow in winter,
if your mind is not clouded by unnecessary things,
this is the best season of your life.-Wu Men

May we all learn the art of living in the present that gives birth to newness in the womb of now-ness!

Jagdish P Dave


 

Organic Gift, by Parker Palmer

FaceBook  On Nov 6, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 An organic gift is an offering from the heart.It has no conditions, expectations and attachment to its outcomes. In the Bhagavad Gita, such a gift is called Karma Yoga that creates a union between the giver and the receiver. Giving becomes receiving.My daily gifting is mostly organic.. It is effortless. It is natural. It is fulfilling. It nourishes my heart. It enlivens me and brings blessings to my life. Such gifts do not have to be big.I do small acts of kindness with love such as holding a crying or a sad child in my hands, smiling at someone I run into, cleaning pots and pens in the kitchen and spending time with others who are suffering.

When I overstretch myself and do more than I can, it drains my energy. I am learning the art of operating within my limits. I need to take care of myself in order to take care of others. I do not call it selfishness. I call it enlightened self caring..

I also encounter may people in my life who offer such organic gifts. I am very grateful to them.Let me conclude with the simple yet profound saying by Mother Teresa:

Three things in human life are important:
The first is to be kind.
The second is to be kind.
The third is to be kind.

May we let the milk of kindness flow from our heart!

Jagdish P Dave





 

Lessening the Power of Negative Emotions, by The Dalai Lama

FaceBook  On Oct 20, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 What choices do I make that drain and deplete my energy and the energy of others? This is a very important mindfulness question for me. Negative thoughts and negative emotions drain my energy. Positive thoughts and positive emotions enhance my energy. They also result in negative and positive actions hurting or healing me and hurting or healing others. The other is me and I am the other. We are all connected with each other.My intention is to understand the causes of hurting or healing energy, replacing the causes of hurting energy  with positive energy and enhancing the ways of healing energy.

I practice mindfulness for recognizing the patterns of thoughts that create negative energy. I do not suppress or use defense mechanisms to stay away from them. I  observe them , let them come and go.If positive thoughts and feelings come, I observe them, let them come and let them go.This kind of mindfulness processing of my inner world of thoughts and feelings helps me to be free from getting stuck with the negative thoughts and emotions.I sense the change of energy in my body, mind and heart.It makes me whole and wholesome.

May we work on ourselves mindfully to be connected with ourselves and others and create experience goodness in our life!

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave

 

We Are What We Choose to Be, by Dawna Markova

FaceBook  On Oct 10, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 Many times we have read, heard and talked about  wisdom sayings like, " Know thy self"," An unexamined life is not worth living", "The essence of living truly lies in the heart of our cave". These are great words of wisdom for contemplation and reflection. We all know that to be truth is to live the truth freely and fearlessly.When we make it a goal to achieve it, have it, we are adding one more on the doing and having list. Being is like the sun rising giving its
light, the flower blooming giving its fragrance, the wind touching and the mother loving. Having has a beginning and ending bound by  space and time.In the having world-both internal and external, there is no wholeness and fullness. There is always that dear-like, chasing the mirage, there is always that striving, needing and wanting more and more. We are too familiar with this world of doing and having.

I have faced this question many times: What is my purpose for being here in this world? To be happy? My happiness was contingent on having someone to love me.Does it have that forever ingredient? Di I always feel loved and happy? To me the freedom is the freedom of being and not having. Having is more like having clothes but not the wearer. As I am getting older, my  "having world"  is shrinking effortlessly and my "'being world" is effortlessly expanding. In that "being world" there is I without being bound by my ego.When I step out of this being zone, I quickly become mindful of it and move into the being zone.

May we be awakened to be in the being zone! Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave



 

Humility Really Cannot be Considered a Virtue, by Swami Dayananda Saraswati

FaceBook  On Oct 3, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 As long as ego occupies the center of my being, I am going to feel ups and downs, successes and failures, admiration and condemnation. Look what I have, how I look, what I do, whom I know, where I live and what I possess-all such thoughts and feelings are the outcome of my ego-centered being.When I am in the being zone, I surf on the rising and falling waves with evenness knowing that I am an integral part of the ocean of existence. I experience the oceanic feeling of oneness.

This happens when I am fully present in moment to moment  flow of the here and now consciousness.It happens to me when I am in a deeply relaxed meditative state, when I am compassionately connected with another person, when I mindfully take a walk in nature or when I am fully involved in a project when the time and space boundaries vanish on their own.As I am getting older, I am accepting the changing landscape of my life with grace and gratitude.It is good living.

May we learn  how to surf the waves  of the ocean of our life gracefully and gratefully!

Jagdish P Dave

 

Compassion: an Objective Form of Empathy, by Jeff Weiner

FaceBook  On Sep 27, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 Subjective empathy is feeling the pain and suffering of another person. Objective empathy implies not only feeling  the  pain and suffering of another person but also understanding our own perspective  on his suffering  as well as remaining open to understand the other person's perspective. We need to have both head and heart to feel for the other person and have an empathic understanding of the person in relationship. I will add hand to head and heart. The hand stands for action.Compassion implies empathy and acts of kindness. 

 Practicing loving kindness has been very helpful to me in my everyday living.  

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave

 

Awareness is Profound Interest, by J. Krishnamurti

FaceBook  On Sep 18, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 J Krishnamurti is one of my great teachers who has been teaching me how to be in choiceless awareness. I felt it when I attended and mindfully listened to his talk on awareness. I am in awareness when I am fully present to what is happening in me physically, mentally and emotionally without reacting to the happenings in me. I mindfully, nonjudgmentally observe what is going on in me and around me. When a thought arises or shows up in my mind, I notice it without judging it, approaching or avoiding it. I let it come and let it go. I do  not get stuck with it. In that free space an insightful understanding arises and it helps me grow.
I find the application of such mindfulness awareness in my relationship and in my daily actions and transactions with people in my life.
To me, it is an ongoing life journey bringing gifts to me and  to others in my life.
I bow to such great teachers who have been teaching me the Art of living. Namaste.
Jagdish P Dave


 

The Gift of New Eyes, by Rachel Naomi Remen

FaceBook  On Sep 11, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 Rumi's poem says it all. Yes . There is a place beyond right and wrong, a place beyond the legal, rational, social and moral right and wrong. And that place is the place where there is no yours or mine zone. As the Buddha says: Gone, gone, gone beyond the gone and even beyond the beyond. What an awakening! what a bliss!

Our two worldly eyes are colored by the non-unifying perspective. We live in the dualistic physical, mental, emotional  social and even religious world. As law- abiding citizens of this world, understandably, we need to comply with the laws to maintain social order.However, when we love someone from our heart and in our heart, the outbound rules and regulations disappear and we breathe the same breath. The other is no more the other. The other is me and me is the other. There is seamless oneness.

This is not an ideal utterance or wishful thinking. I have experienced such Divine oneness in deep meditative state, in relationships with people close to me or remote from me. I feel it like being in the clear blue sky. It is like being touched by a cool breeze of air, like holding a baby in our hands, or someone offering a glass of water to a thirsty traveler. I have experienced such precious moments. We are blessed to have such Divine experiences in this world while we are alive.

May we know how to to create such a sanctuary and live in the field beyond the right and wrong!

Jagdish P Dave

 

Love Like Water, by Mark Nepo

FaceBook  On Sep 4, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 I love this reflective reading on Love.Love gives birth to life, nourishes it, sustains it, enriches it and lets it bloom and blossom.This is what a mother does for the child she bears and provides nurturing and blossoming energy to her child.Such love does not have criteria or conditions set in advance to meet to be loved.Love is spontaneous and unconditional. It is beyond right or wrong. Love's hands are always open to give and receive. Giving becomes receiving and receiving becomes giving. We witness such love in nature, in animals and in us as humans. I have experienced such love from my parents, brothers, sisters friends, teachers and my students and  at times from strangers..And they have experienced it from me too.It is a natural flow of life sustaining and flourishing energy.Love bubbles from within.It cannot be poured from outside.It is like feeling the touch of water, wind, and a loving hand. It is like smelling fragrance coming from a flower or a smile sparkling on a face with no apparent reason. When I hold a crying child in my hands, it creates a deep bonding between me and the crying child.There si no guide book or prescription for it.It just happens.Such experiences are very precious and rich. They make our day,  our night and our life. What blocks the flow of such a natural energy? We all know the answers because we have experienced both the natural flow of energy and the blockage of the flow of love energy.When I become self-centered and self serving, place conditions for relating to the other, build up expectations from the other or relate to the other out of obligations or fear, the pure joy of loving goes out of windows. It is like going back to sleep and continue living in the illusory dream! We all in varying degrees have lived in these two cities; The city of illusion or the city of Maya, and the city of Love or Prem. May our life touch and be touched by the pure water of Love! Jagdish P  See full.

 I love this reflective reading on Love.Love gives birth to life, nourishes it, sustains it, enriches it and lets it bloom and blossom.This is what a mother does for the child she bears and provides nurturing and blossoming energy to her child.Such love does not have criteria or conditions set in advance to meet to be loved.Love is spontaneous and unconditional. It is beyond right or wrong. Love's hands are always open to give and receive. Giving becomes receiving and receiving becomes giving. We witness such love in nature, in animals and in us as humans.

I have experienced such love from my parents, brothers, sisters friends, teachers and my students and  at times from strangers..And they have experienced it from me too.It is a natural flow of life sustaining and flourishing energy.Love bubbles from within.It cannot be poured from outside.It is like feeling the touch of water, wind, and a loving hand. It is like smelling fragrance coming from a flower or a smile sparkling on a face with no apparent reason. When I hold a crying child in my hands, it creates a deep bonding between me and the crying child.There si no guide book or prescription for it.It just happens.Such experiences are very precious and rich. They make our day,  our night and our life.

What blocks the flow of such a natural energy? We all know the answers because we have experienced both the natural flow of energy and the blockage of the flow of love energy.When I become self-centered and self serving, place conditions for relating to the other, build up expectations from the other or relate to the other out of obligations or fear, the pure joy of loving goes out of windows. It is like going back to sleep and continue living in the illusory dream! We all in varying degrees have lived in these two cities; The city of illusion or the city of Maya, and the city of Love or Prem.

May our life touch and be touched by the pure water of Love!

Jagdish P Dave

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The Power of Art, by John F. Kennedy

FaceBook  On Aug 28, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

The Sanskrit word for the poet is arshadrushta- one who has a  clear sight and has a clear vision of the future. It is like seeing through the "third eye". She lives in the present, knows the downside of the power, is aware of social injustice but is not imprisoned by the short and narrow vision. What she says, writes and stands for may not be popular and may go against the prevailing societal currents. They have clear inner vision and inner strength. They blaze a new trail.

Art, like  strength, takes different forms. There is the art of living- living a life founded on a cosmic vision of living. A living that goes beyond the self-serving, self-centered, greed-based, power and fame hungry, my is the only right way and others are ignorant, stupid and inferior. Such narrow and short sighted vision has damaged the lives of people, nations and life in nature.We are blessed to have visionary people with cosmic consciousness to help us expand our consciousness. Such visionary people at times are crucified. They leave inspiring footprints on the sands of time. I am blessed to  experience the presence of such highly evolved beings like Mahatma Gandhi, Rabindranath Tagore and Anandimaiya to name a few.

All of us have the potential  to be such artists.We are in the process of evolving. There are times when we wake up and start walking on that path and feel deeply connected with the higher level of consciousness. And some times we go back to the same old way of living, going back to sleep.

May we have the vision and courage to go beyond the limited and limiting way of seeing and living!

Jagdish P Dave



 

True Splendor of Science, by Alan Watts

FaceBook  On Aug 25, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 How to know what we don't know? The mind comes up with this wonderment and tries to know the mystery of the unknown.The unknown becomes known and the the inquiry continues. In this way, science has made  great progress. And the inquiry continues. Philosophers  also make inquiries without the requirement of proving their mental explorations and ideas and systems. Mystics also have that wonderment and openness of the heart to welcome whatever arises on its own.

They are not looking for any validation. They become what they realize. The distinction between the subject and the object disappears. It is neither me nor you,  neither this nor that. It is neither demonstrable or describable. It is like pointing a  finger towards the moon.

I can relate to all the three modes of knowing. The most enchanting and the most fulfilling experience is the mystical experience of finding oneself in losing oneself, where the separation between the knower and the known gets dissolved. Such experiences are transformative dispelling the  illusory world I create and in which I live.It is a  non-doing and a non-possessing world. It is like the Zen poem: Sitting by the river, Spring comes, And the grass grows by itself.

Jagdish PDave

 

Choosing Suffering over Safety, by Bonnie Rose

FaceBook  On Aug 18, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 I am learning to accept what is and not to resist or to deny the presence of what is. The first suffering I experienced was the passing away of my dad. I did not want him to leave me. What helped me  to accept his passing away was the way he embraced  his breath leaving his body. He used to recite the verses from the Bhagvat Geeta shedding light on how to live with equanimity, how to remain centered and balanced in the midst of the rising and falling waves of life. He lived that way and died that way. He used to teach me how to live by the way he lived his life. He was walking his walk.He planted the seeds of the art of living and leaving.Breathing in and breathing out are the wings of the bird of living fully. Three years ago, my beloved wife passed away.  She had very aggressive breast cancer. Six months before she passed away, she asked me looking into my eyes, "Jagdish! Do you think I will survive? I trust you. You will tell me the truth." This  was the most difficult question for me to answer. I was holding her hand in my hand and this answer emerged from my heart: " Everyone  is going to pass away sooner or later." That answer was enough for her. Without any hesitation, she accepted the truth. There was a glow of acceptance on her face. And that's the way she lived her life.She was ready to go when the time would arrive. Before she passed away, she asked all of us- me, our grown up children and grand children- to face her face. She touched everybody's hand, looked at all of us and said, " Is everyone OK?" She lived that way caring for all and left  the same way showing her caring for all. These were her last words and these words deeply resonate with me when she comes to my mind and heart. Like my dad, my wife taught me a lesson of how to live and how to die. Suffering is an integral part of living fully. The evening is  born in the womb of the morning sun. There is no morning without evening and there is no eveni  See full.

 I am learning to accept what is and not to resist or to deny the presence of what is. The first suffering I experienced was the passing away of my dad. I did not want him to leave me. What helped me  to accept his passing away was the way he embraced  his breath leaving his body. He used to recite the verses from the Bhagvat Geeta shedding light on how to live with equanimity, how to remain centered and balanced in the midst of the rising and falling waves of life. He lived that way and died that way. He used to teach me how to live by the way he lived his life. He was walking his walk.He planted the seeds of the art of living and leaving.Breathing in and breathing out are the wings of the bird of living fully.

Three years ago, my beloved wife passed away.  She had very aggressive breast cancer. Six months before she passed away, she asked me looking into my eyes, "Jagdish! Do you think I will survive? I trust you. You will tell me the truth." This  was the most difficult question for me to answer. I was holding her hand in my hand and this answer emerged from my heart: " Everyone  is going to pass away sooner or later." That answer was enough for her. Without any hesitation, she accepted the truth. There was a glow of acceptance on her face. And that's the way she lived her life.She was ready to go when the time would arrive. Before she passed away, she asked all of us- me, our grown up children and grand children- to face her face. She touched everybody's hand, looked at all of us and said, " Is everyone OK?" She lived that way caring for all and left  the same way showing her caring for all. These were her last words and these words deeply resonate with me when she comes to my mind and heart. Like my dad, my wife taught me a lesson of how to live and how to die.

Suffering is an integral part of living fully. The evening is  born in the womb of the morning sun. There is no morning without evening and there is no evening without morning.The river of life flows in between the banks of joy and suffering. They are intertwined. They are the wings of the bird, the tide and ebb of living.

May we cultivate this art of living and dying to live fully and die fully.

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave

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Spontaneous Resonance, by James O'dea

FaceBook  On Aug 7, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 As I understand, a spontaneous reaction is an action to a stimulus outside of oneself. It is like a fight, flight or freeze stress response. It is instinctive with no intervention of cognitive processing. It is an instant reaction.It may result into a positive or negative outcome, a blessing or a curse; a blessing to celebrate,a curse to regret or repent. Spontaneous resonance happens within oneself with no conscious intention or deliberation. It just happens. It is like a flower blooming, a poem birthing and naturally coming out.It is unfolding. It is like fragrance of a flower spreading without an effort. It is an effortless happening. I have experienced both -spontaneous reaction and spontaneous resonance. I reacted to a scorpion by jumping off- an instant avoidance behavior, resulting into no painful stinging. Reacting to a driver cutting me off with an angry feeling is another example of a instinctive reaction. I have had many experiences of spontaneous resonance. I am a poet.The poems spouting from my heart effortlessly have been the most endearing poems.I get lost in my own self to find myself. I am not composing the poem, the poem is composing by itself. The song is composing itself and I am listening to it. The composer and the listener merge into each other. the dancer becomes the dancing or the dancing becomes the dancer. The subject-object separation gets dissolved  resulting in oneness. There is a knowing, an experiencing, a realization of the mantra, aham brahmasmi- I am that. It is an awakening experience. I have such experiences when I meditate, when i walk in nature by myself, when i read certain poems that touch my heart. We all are blessed with such gifts arising in and from our hearts. It is my observation that we are becoming more and more head-oriented missing the joys of uncomplicated simple but profound living. May we keep out hearts open to receive and give simple gifts of love and joy. Jagdish P Dave  See full.

 As I understand, a spontaneous reaction is an action to a stimulus outside of oneself. It is like a fight, flight or freeze stress response. It is instinctive with no intervention of cognitive processing. It is an instant reaction.It may result into a positive or negative outcome, a blessing or a curse; a blessing to celebrate,a curse to regret or repent.

Spontaneous resonance happens within oneself with no conscious intention or deliberation. It just happens. It is like a flower blooming, a poem birthing and naturally coming out.It is unfolding. It is like fragrance of a flower spreading without an effort. It is an effortless happening.

I have experienced both -spontaneous reaction and spontaneous resonance. I reacted to a scorpion by jumping off- an instant avoidance behavior, resulting into no painful stinging. Reacting to a driver cutting me off with an angry feeling is another example of a instinctive reaction.

I have had many experiences of spontaneous resonance. I am a poet.The poems spouting from my heart effortlessly have been the most endearing poems.I get lost in my own self to find myself. I am not composing the poem, the poem is composing by itself. The song is composing itself and I am listening to it. The composer and the listener merge into each other. the dancer becomes the dancing or the dancing becomes the dancer. The subject-object separation gets dissolved  resulting in oneness. There is a knowing, an experiencing, a realization of the mantra, aham brahmasmi- I am that. It is an awakening experience. I have such experiences when I meditate, when i walk in nature by myself, when i read certain poems that touch my heart.

We all are blessed with such gifts arising in and from our hearts. It is my observation that we are becoming more and more head-oriented missing the joys of uncomplicated simple but profound living.

May we keep out hearts open to receive and give simple gifts of love and joy.

Jagdish P Dave


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The Pleasure of Serving, by Gabriela Mistral

FaceBook  On Jul 30, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 This beautiful poem deeply resonates deeply with me in my heart.I wonder who has not been touched by the tender and gentle touch serving joyfully. I see the signatures of many, both natural and human, extending their helping and nurturing hands right from my childhood until my old age. The world will not be able to survive and flourish if there were no serving hands.

Some have served the whole mankind leaving their foot prints behind on the sands of time.They  left their names behind with no conscious intention of leaving their  name and fame behind.They served because that was in their nature. It was their breath.

And there are many who do small acts of kindness joyfully. We have a vegetable and fruit garden on our front and back yard. Nature's hand is bountiful. She serves us by the gifts she gives us the gifts of fruits and vegetables. We express our gratitude for the gifts we receive from her. We serve her by doing whatever we can, watering the seeds and plants and providing organic soil. We give our friends vegetables and fruits and enjoy sharing our gifts with them. I remember Mahatma Gandhi had named the community where he lived Seva Ashram- a community who serves, a community of servants. That work is being carried on in the Gandhi Ashram in Ahmedabad, my home town. When I visited  Gandhi Ashram last summer with my young grandson, I was deeply touched by the service the Ashramites do for slum children It was quite an experience for us. serving people is God's work. In our language we have a saying: Seva paramo Dharmaha- serving others is the spiritual way of living.

May we serve all beings with our heart and be grateful for serving them.

Jagdish P Dave

 

The Surrender Experiment, by Michael Singer

FaceBook  On Jul 24, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 To me, surrendering means surrendering my egoic mind, the mind that is self-centered, possessive, not caring  for others that incudes nature-animals, plants, trees, water,earth and sky.I am responsible and accountable for messing things up and doing right to sustain and preserve the creation. How do  I employ my energy in creating, sustaining, contributing and serving life is my life mission. When I live this way, I feel I am in harmony with life force. I feel like I am in a dance with the life force. When i receive the grace from nature and people, my heart is filled with joyful gratitude. Such gifts are not measured on a materialistic scale. They are experienced in our hearts and they blossom our hearts.

This may sound very simple. It is my knowing that too much "headding" takes away the simple joys of 'hearting". How to have the  joyful innocence of a child in an adult body and mind is an interesting challenge. It is like planting a seed and watching it grow with an ever present curiosity. It is like hearing the birds chirping, watching the clouds floating and listening to the inner voice singing on its own.These are the moments of grace and I am blessed to have them coming everyday on their own. My heart is filled with gratefulness.

May we keep our hearts open to receive and give gifts coming from everywhere!

Jagdish P Dave

 

Effects of Adversity, by Eranda Jayawickreme

FaceBook  On Jul 21, 2015 Jagdish P dave wrote:

 It is my experience and observation that we all experience adversity and suffering in varying degrees. How we take it makes the difference in the impact of adversities. I also realize that some adversities are out of my control such as natural happenings like floods, hurricanes, volcanoes and earth quakes. But most of our sufferings are self created and self-sustained,

Looking back at my life, I see how we growing up in a poor family did not suffer for not having many things others had in their lives. My parents had a deep sense of contentment with whatever possessions we had. By growing up in such a family, I did not feel the poverty within me for not having "enough" in my life. I married a woman I loved very dearly. She was born and raised in a very rich family having luxurious things she wanted. She left her home and embraced to live in the poor extended family out of deep love for me.Love and faith were our anchors that kept us flowing with the wonderful life.

That happy journey ended when she passed away about three years ago. Did I suffer? You bet. Losing some one, a soul mate for some 60 plus years of my life is very very hard. Is there a grace in suffering? Yes.I have realized the truth that  every hi has a bye and every bye has a hi.Nothing is here for ever.Living life with this awareness is keeping the cup of my life full.Sharing the fullness of my living with others and serving them from my heart is a blessing to me and I feel gratitude for receiving such blessings from others. It is by giving I indeed receive.

May the suffering we go through enkindle the light of forgiveness and compassion in us  and make us feel connected with each other..

Jagdish P Dave


 

Call Me by My True Names, by Thich Nhat Hanh

FaceBook  On Jul 10, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 Compassion is like unconditional love, not bound by right or wrong or good or evil laws.Compassion has no boundaries or barriers. Compassion is like mercy offered to any one regardless of flaws. I used to begin my classes with meditation in a state university . There was no reference to any religion.The students loved it and they found it very helpful for relaxing their body and quieting their mind. One of the professors objected to  starting my classes with meditation in a state university. It took the turn of a scandal. According to me, I was not violating any law as meditation is not religious.  In his eyes, I was trying to convert the students to follow a religion. This situation presented a great learning opportunity for me to apply compassion to my apparently adversarial colleague.I requested him to visit my class any day and then make a judgment about what I was doing. He accepted my invitation and it resulted in a respectful and cordial genuine relationship. Practicing compassion has made me humble and has helped me  keep my heart open to relate to others with no expectation in return.

Compassion, like unconditional love, is a spontaneous emotion with no agenda for getting anything in return.It is not imposed on anybody.It is not offered when someone asks for it.When I see someone in pain or hurting, I deeply feel for that person and offer my helping hand to him. A compassionate act does not look for a reward in return. It is an offering from the heart. Compassionate actions have enriched and fulfilled my heart.

This poem eloquently expresses the beauty of compassion and kindness. I read it over and over and it feels my heart with joyful gratitude.

May we feel compassion for us, for the people close to us and far away from us, and especially those who disagree with us and may hurt our feelings.

Namaste.

Jagdish P dave








 

Money is a Lot Like Water, by Lynne Twist

FaceBook  On Jul 7, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 Money, like any other thing such as nuclear energy, is a reality of life and living. It is not what we have but how we use it.People do charity for a variety of reasons. The best is doing it from our heart and feeling the fullness of giving.It is like a selfless service or loving someone unconditionally. This is spirituality at its best. However, there are going to be people who do acts of compassion and kindness, small and big, with a mixed or selfish motivation.Should we feel guilty for giving money or food or clothes or other things with selfish motivation and or should we feel guilty for receiving it? I donate my skills,knowledge , time and things as gifts with no ulterior motives.And when I do it,  giving feels like receiving. This is what I call my heart acts. But when the ego comes into picture, what is also for me, it taints the act of doing.I am a human being and there are times when I have acted like this.  It is not the money, time or knowledge that we give makes our acts spiritual. It is the motive, what is behind my doing,  makes it spiritual.

And we had and we will have these two streams of giving in all parts of the world, rich or poor, the first world or the third world countries. I believe in counting our blessings and not judging others who have different motivations for doing what they do.Maybe, the more industrialized and urbanized and materialized we become, we lose heart to heart connectedness. I would like to continue evolving from from self-centered consciousness to transcendental state of consciousness. That makes my life journey a pilgrimage.

May we cultivate empathy, compassion and kindness for all who need our help.

Jagdish P Dave

 

Man's Most Important Mistake, by G. I. Gurdjieff

FaceBook  On Jul 1, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 There are three interrelated dimensions of my self: The changing self, the spiritual self and the social self. The physical, mental, and emotional aspects of my self are changing experiencing pleasures and pains, ups and downs. The spiritual self is unchanging, unaffected by the changes taking place in the changing self. The social self, the cultural self, is the relational self having a net work of different relationships helping me grow but also conditioning my changing self.The intra-personal self and the inter-personal self creates varieties of colorful experiences, pleasant and unpleasant.The spiritual self is the being  self-the embodiment of love, compassion and bliss. When I am in the becoming zone, I experience the changing self. When I am in the being zone, love , compassion and bliss arise on their own. The changing self is the doing and possessing self creating bondage in me. The spiritual self is the freeing self, the universal self. When I practice mindful awareness the clouds generated by my changing self slowly slowly fade away and I experience blissful openness, clarity and expansion of my consciousness. When I relate to others mindfully, I experience connectedness, compassion and gratitude. During that time, I am more in the being zone while I am in the doing zone. According to my experience, the being self, the spiritual self is experienced in the doing zone when there is no bondage created by my expectations.The challenge is to remain awake when I go through self-created clouds of suffering.

This is an ongoing journey fro me and I love it.
Jagdish P Dave

 

A Bigger Container, by Charlotte Joko Beck

FaceBook  On Jun 23, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 When we relate to the world, people and nature, by the separating and isolating egotistic mind, our life container is very small and shallow.Our pleasures are short lived and we go through the cycle of pleasure and pain. When we I realize that this way of living has no deep meaning and purpose, We wake up, we awaken. We realize the futility of chasing the shadow.The challenge is to to stay the course of awakening.

The daily practice of mindfulness meditation has helped me to work on my self by becoming aware of my bodily sensations, ego generated thoughts, feelings and emotions  and to be free from their grip, I experience the expansion of my container. My relationship with myself becomes happy and contented and my connectedness with others gets richer and deeper. I feel more alive, loving and loved, more compassionate and understanding and more happy.

I am grateful to the teachers who have shown this way of living by living this way, by walking their talk.I am also happy to see more people  moving in this direction.

Jagdish P Dave


 

Privacy Is Not Possible, by Vimala Thakar

FaceBook  On Jun 12, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 On level, we all  are one. On another level we are different from each other in many different ways. When these differences create distances and disrupt or break or damage connectedness, they become obstacles and result in me against you. My space is your space too. What I think, what I feel and how I cat not only have an impact on me but on many connected with me or even remotely connected or not connected at all.How to to transform the me space into we space is a challenge for me. Gratefully practicing mindfulness and empathy and compassion keeping my mind and heart open has been very helpful to me. It becomes effortless.We are in the being gonne.This happens in many contexts for me. When I walk in natural surroundings, when I meditate and live meditatively and when I serve 

I have learned life lessons  from Mahatma Gandhi, J Krishnamurti, my parents,, my wife and from children.  I am grateful to Nipun for sharing this illuminating real life experiences..

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave

 

Not Minding What Happens, by Eckhart Tolle

FaceBook  On Jun 9, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 Yes, it sounds simple but it is very profound. It seems easy to understand but difficult to implement and practice. This secret of living mindfully and fully reminds me of short yet profound sutras like Be Here Now, Now Consciousness, Beginner's Mind , Suchness, Isness  and may other similar pearls of wisdom. Cultivating mindfulness practice everyday holistically in many contexts of my everyday living has been very helpful to me. Does it mean I do not use my mind for planning, problem solving and processing information? Of course not. It is like everything:clearing up self-created clouds and relating to me and others mindfully and wisely. When I do not live this way I compassionately forgive myself and count the blessings without dwelling on my burdens. This for me an art of living and it is an ongoing amazing journey.

i always appreciate getting wonderful weekly gifts getting and reading reflections and comments. Thank you all and namaste.

Jagdish P Dave

 

Love is the Source of Fearlessness, by Margaret Wheatley

FaceBook  On Jun 3, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 This writing evoked memories of many experiences and things I have done in the past and what I have been doing in my long life span. years. There is a continuous and consistent theme running through my life. As a teenager I wanted to relate to girls of my age passionately. A part of myself wanted  to do it and a part of myself restrained me from acting on it. The restraint came from my fear of being rejected or ridiculed or criticized for doing the wrong thing or not doing the right thing.It was not a devastating deal for me as I had strong interest in studying and I had many close boy friends. I learned not to do what I would love to do out of fear. And that continued until I reached 20. And when I took the risk of expressing my true feelings of love for a lovely girl, I was thrown out of that girl's family circle. Love should bring happiness and joy which I deserved. In stead I got a big setback, a deep hurt and deep feelings of depression. The ray of hope was my sense of self. I  never felt unworthy. I love myself and there is no fear in having a positive sense of my self. And that trait in me led me to a very loving and a beautiful soul mate whom I happily married. Both of us could do it  because both of us loved deeply and were ready to face difficulties arising from her parents not wanting me to marry her because of class differences- me an ordinary low income earning teacher and she having all the comforts and luxuries one would like to have.Love triumphed as we embraced life fearlessly. Another significant arena of my life is characterized by the theme of follow your bliss.  I was eager to go to school as a child  because I love to learn. That passion has enriched my life to make me a life-long learner. Nothing has  deterred  me from following my bliss. The other side of the equation of learning is teaching. I love to learn and to teach. I became a teacher in Ahmedabad, my home town in India. The teacher's  See full.

 This writing evoked memories of many experiences and things I have done in the past and what I have been doing in my long life span. years. There is a continuous and consistent theme running through my life.

As a teenager I wanted to relate to girls of my age passionately. A part of myself wanted  to do it and a part of myself restrained me from acting on it. The restraint came from my fear of being rejected or ridiculed or criticized for doing the wrong thing or not doing the right thing.It was not a devastating deal for me as I had strong interest in studying and I had many close boy friends. I learned not to do what I would love to do out of fear. And that continued until I reached 20. And when I took the risk of expressing my true feelings of love for a lovely girl, I was thrown out of that girl's family circle. Love should bring happiness and joy which I deserved. In stead I got a big setback, a deep hurt and deep feelings of depression. The ray of hope was my sense of self. I  never felt unworthy. I love myself and there is no fear in having a positive sense of my self. And that trait in me led me to a very loving and a beautiful soul mate whom I happily married. Both of us could do it  because both of us loved deeply and were ready to face difficulties arising from her parents not wanting me to marry her because of class differences- me an ordinary low income earning teacher and she having all the comforts and luxuries one would like to have.Love triumphed as we embraced life fearlessly.

Another significant arena of my life is characterized by the theme of follow your bliss.  I was eager to go to school as a child  because I love to learn. That passion has enriched my life to make me a life-long learner. Nothing has  deterred  me from following my bliss. The other side of the equation of learning is teaching. I love to learn and to teach. I became a teacher in Ahmedabad, my home town in India. The teacher's salary at that time was very low. But that did not stop me from following my bliss. And it did not stop Vanleela from being my life partner. I love to to teach and I teach with love. It is very fulfilling.At the age of 90 plus my journey still continues with the same passion and vigor bringing gifts of happiness to me and to others connected wit me. The more we give, the more we receive.

May the spirit of fearlessness enkindle love in all of us.

Namaste. Love.

Jagdish P Dave


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Eulogy Versus Resume Virtues, by David Brooks

FaceBook  On May 22, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 David Brooks talks about me and many friends I know deeply.People may not remember me for what I did or said. They remember me and will remember me by how I made them feel, how I got connected with them in my heart. We are so much used to use the head language and the mind language, useful and necessary but not enough. When I listen and relate to me and others with an open heart and open mind, I feel the deep connectedness, intimacy and oneness. Such experiences create and leave deep traces in my brain, in my mind, in my heart and  in my soul. As I am getting older ( 90 plus), I am getting richer in my heart and my relationships with people of all ages regardless of the outer shapes and colors are getting more lively, energizing, joyful and meaningful.

When I was in India, I went to to an exposition. The theme was  The Family of Man. When I entered the hall, I read a poem written by the American poet Carl Sandburg. I still remember the words. They deeply resonate with me. Here are those words:

There is only one Man in the world and the man's name is All Man.
There is only one woman in the world and the woman's name is All Woman.
There is one child in the world and the child's name is All Child.

This is the spiritual dimension of ourselves. We experience it when we open our mind  and heart and live mindfully and heartfully. Blessed we are for having such potential in us and I bow to many who have opened their minds and hearts to me and let me dwell in that sanctuary.

Namaste.

Jagdish P dave



 

A Strange Predicament, by Pavithra Mehta

FaceBook  On May 18, 2015 Jgdish P Dave wrote:

 I know. No man is an island. We all are connected, branches of the same tree called The Tree of Life. However, most of us are taught and conditioned to create and live in an individualistic bubble. I am an individual physically. I have my own mind. I have my own personality, my own signature, my country, my religion and ME.When I operate with this perspective, my relating to me and to others who are very close to me have this I-and- You. It seems like the reality.There are moments in my life, when this unique and divisive separateness disappears and vanishes. This happens to me when I naturally and truly follow my heart. I feel one with me and with the other including nature. Where there is no TWO. There is  one flow of energy, the earth and the sky merging, no sense of duality, beyond subject and object.The bubble becomes the ocean.These are moments of awakening hard to express conceptually and verbally. This feels like the sound of silence.

Is the first world of separation an illusion? I do not know. I know that it is transitory, like an ebb and flow, day and night, pleasure and pain.There is also another world- a world of oneness.How to live in the world of subject and object with the perspective of oneness is a challenge for me.And I accept it gracefully.

Namaste to all who live in the dualistic world knowing there is the real world that transcends the dividing boundaries and barriers. And we are blessed to have the awakened and enlightened beings who live in the world but not of the world.

Jagdish P Dave

 

Surrender Your Data, by Michael Quattrone

FaceBook  On Apr 17, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 I hear the clear voice of YES when I am still. In that space of being, I feel the presence of YES. This YES is beyond my analytical mind and free from self-created afflictions. This YES is my never failing friend, the eternal beloved. It is beyond the right and the wrong. I feel this YES when I hold a sad and crying child in my arms. I feel it when a stranger holds me from falling down and when someone lets me cry and wipes my tears. I feel it when I laugh spontaneously by myself  and with my family, friends, children and at times with strangers. It happens. I do not make it happen.  I feel blessed to have such YES experiences everyday in my life. It is the sound of silence and I hear it when I my noisy mind is quiet, I see the ever present  light when the self -created clouds fade away.

YES is the meeting place where we celebrate the gift of life together transcending divisive boundaries created by us..Blessed we are to receive and share such blessings. Life is good.

May we all get connected with the flow of YES. Namaste

Jagdish P Dave


 

Graduation, by Nimesh Patel

FaceBook  On Apr 3, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 Three basic inquiries have laid the foundation of my living holistically. What? Why? And How? 

What is my purpose/? What is my intention? Why Am I here? What I am doing or going to do is in alignment with my intention? How am going to follow my bliss? These question have been guiding questions for me as I have been walking on the path of  my life.To me it is a journey, I am arriving and  I am not in a hurry. I hasten slowly. In fact, the path is the goal. There is no disconnect with What? Why? And How?

In my journey I run into people who are on the same path, people who are much more evolved and a few who are self realized. Such readings resonate in me and I am grateful for receiving such gifts. The real work for me is to not only to reflect and contemplate on such readings but to practice and apply them in my everyday life.

I am grateful to remain connected with like minded people who share their learning by responding to such readings
 and be a part of Sangha- a community of seekers and following their path.

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave

 

You Cannot Capture Silence, It Captures You, by Richard Rohr

FaceBook  On Apr 1, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 Silence  is my way of being connected with myself, with others in my life and with nature. Silence helps me to mindfully process my inner world of thoughts, feelings and emotions. It helps me to get out  of my autopilot mode of doing to the mindfulness mode of being. I practice mindfulness meditation everyday regularly for twenty minutes It helps me to clear up the clouds I create in my consciousness.I also do mini  mindfulness practice when I go through stressful experiences in my daily life. I start my classes and therapy sessions with  15 minutes of Mindfulness Meditation. That helps me, my students and my clients to get centered to learn how to focus our energy for learning and working on oneself and others connected with us.Evryday offers me this opportunity to save and invest my energy for creating, nurturing and sustaining wellness in me and people connected with me.

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave

 

Returning to the Language of Life, by Anat Vaughan-Lee

FaceBook  On Mar 1, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 Life is everywhere and life speaks in many ways. We need to be silent , open and  be fully present to listen to it. It creates awe and deep connectedness. It is expressed through eyes, by a touch, by a smile on the face, by the blossoming of a flower, the chirping of the birds. by the twinkling of the stars, the rising and setting of the sun and by a spontaneous laughter.

I have many wonderful recollections of such experiences. My mother gently stoking my head and singing a song for her little boy, hearing my father chanting early morning and listening to the enchanting cooing of a cuckoo bird, and watching the love in  the eyes of our cow whom we called Jamuna.I would never forget two eight years old boys, me and my friend, walking to discover where the river was originally coming from. And the same stream of listening to the the sounds and watching the sights of nature and humans is flowing filling my life with awe and wonder and joy. What is required is my being fully present.

It is a great gift given freely to those who keep their minds and hearts open.

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave




 

Difference Between Healing and Curing, by Michael Lerner, PhD

FaceBook  On Jan 30, 2015 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 Curing comes from outside such as the physician treats the patient to cure. Healing comes from inside. It is an inner work. In curing, a part of the body is treated. In healing , the whole person is involved. Curing is physical. Healing is holistic-physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. Healing is an integrated process. I have had  prostate cancer for the last four years. When I discovered that I had tumor, I went to my physician friend who confirmed that I had the disease. My first reaction was oh my goodness! Why me? The good doctor advised me to consult an oncologist and get help from him. I followed his advice.I read about cancer, about alternative medicine,and made significant changes in my life style.  I did not stop there. Having cancer has showed me the value of living my life as mindfully and fully as possible.Each day is a blessing to count knowing well that one day, some day will be the last day. I have been practicing mindfulness mediation daily. I become aware of whatever arises in me physically, mentally, and emotionally: Painful sensations, worry some thoughts, sadness and concerns. I breathe in fully. I let whatever arises in myself come, I breathe out  fully and let it go.I accept my humanness compassionately surrendering myself in the loving hands of my being. This is a profoundly healing experience for me.Yesterday, I spent one hour with a gentleman who has bone marrow cancer.I shared my journey with him. We did mindfulness mediation together. He felt grounded, at ease. and peaceful.When he left, I saw change on his face- a glow of acceptance. He realized that his energy was consumed  by dwelling on and being obsessed with awful thoughts and feelings.. He learned a lesson of healing.We are going to meet once a week to continue our work of self healing. It is my conviction that life offers great opportunities to learn and to serve.How we perceive it and how w  See full.

 Curing comes from outside such as the physician treats the patient to cure. Healing comes from inside. It is an inner work. In curing, a part of the body is treated. In healing , the whole person is involved. Curing is physical. Healing is holistic-physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. Healing is an integrated process.

I have had  prostate cancer for the last four years. When I discovered that I had tumor, I went to my physician friend who confirmed that I had the disease. My first reaction was oh my goodness! Why me? The good doctor advised me to consult an oncologist and get help from him. I followed his advice.I read about cancer, about alternative medicine,and made significant changes in my life style. 

I did not stop there. Having cancer has showed me the value of living my life as mindfully and fully as possible.Each day is a blessing to count knowing well that one day, some day will be the last day. I have been practicing mindfulness mediation daily. I become aware of whatever arises in me physically, mentally, and emotionally: Painful sensations, worry some thoughts, sadness and concerns. I breathe in fully. I let whatever arises in myself come, I breathe out  fully and let it go.I accept my humanness compassionately surrendering myself in the loving hands of my being. This is a profoundly healing experience for me.Yesterday, I spent one hour with a gentleman who has bone marrow cancer.I shared my journey with him. We did mindfulness mediation together. He felt grounded, at ease. and peaceful.When he left, I saw change on his face- a glow of acceptance. He realized that his energy was consumed  by dwelling on and being obsessed with awful thoughts and feelings.. He learned a lesson of healing.We are going to meet once a week to continue our work of self healing.

It is my conviction that life offers great opportunities to learn and to serve.How we perceive it and how we take it is up to us.

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave




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Freely vs Free, by Thuy Nguyen

FaceBook  On Jan 24, 2015 Jagdish P dave wrote:

 Free, freedom and freely are very profound words. Words have power only if they resonate  with our inner being, if they reflect ourselves.I am a teacher and a psychotherapist. To me teaching and psychotherapy are relationships based on authenticity and compassion. They reflect and represent me, my being.My profession is me. When I relate to my students and my clients, i enrich their lives and enrich my life too. It is by giving, we receive as St Francis of Assisi reminds us.Work becomes worship with no conditions attached.I am following my bliss when I work.I am 89 years old and I am not retired. I am still working and following my bliss. When I was 20, I was riding I used a  bicycle to do my work. I am 89. I drive to do my work. The inner joy and satisfaction, the inner abundance have not changed regardless of my age and my bank balance. I am free from self created bondage which lets me blossom and blossom others. Life is a wonderful gift and it becomes more wonderful by giving freely.

Namaste, my friends.

Jagdish P Dave

 

Anyone Else Suffer From Active Laziness?, by Sif Anna Dal

FaceBook  On Nov 28, 2014 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

I am more with myself when I am lonely. The loneliness gives me good quality time to be present to my self. To meet me, to be with me without feeling the pressure or obligation to be connected with others. I value my alone time to reflect on my self and feel the presence of people with whom I am deeply connected.This kind of deep connectedness I feel with myself and with others when we do not have time pressure. Such experiences are at times full of spontaneous laughter or when we explore some personal significant existential questions or when I am in a deep loving relationship. As I am getting older, I enjoy such time out to have time in. quiet time to be with me when the time flows like a river. This is my being zone, very different from the doing zone and  the having zone.Blessed are such moments.

Jagdish P Dave

 

Who are you, really?, by Kosi

FaceBook  On Nov 18, 2014 Jagdish P dave wrote:

 Truth about me-who am I, my true self-is multidimensional.I am born in this world, some where, some time which can be described in words and needs to be described at times. I have grown and developed in my culture which can be described and is helpful to me and others related to me. I have had beliefs about what is right  and good and what is not right and good and I have spiritual core values by which I live my life. I have cultivated tastes for a variety of things. I am different from others and I am also alike others. Is there something which is universal without out boundaries created by us as human beings? Is there something that bonds all life, which has no name but exists, which is beyond thoughts and words? Do we experience that without the intervention of our mind? Can we feel it, sense it, realize it?  I am reminded of a story that I had heard in a discourse. It is the story of Buddha holding a flower in his hand and asking the listeners the following question: What do you see in my hand? Everybody started thinking about the flower, looking for words to describe it. Mahakashyapa saw the flower, smiled and said, " I see the flower." He saw the flower. He did not think about it, did not compare it with other flowers. He saw the flower as it was.To me,truth is being fully present as it is revealing, unfolding and emerging on its own, spontaneously and effortlessly. It is perceived as it is without coloring it by past experiences or future anticipations. It is realized in the here and now consciousness. To quote Krishnamurti, it is choiceless awarenes or as Rumi puts it, it is Presence. When and how do I experience such awareness? When I am in deep meditation I am in the awareness  being zone. When I see a child with an innocent expression of wonderment. When I see a flower blooming, hear a bird chirping, birds flying in the sky in a V shaped design, looking at the twinkling stars and moms holding their babie  See full.

 Truth about me-who am I, my true self-is multidimensional.I am born in this world, some where, some time which can be described in words and needs to be described at times. I have grown and developed in my culture which can be described and is helpful to me and others related to me. I have had beliefs about what is right  and good and what is not right and good and I have spiritual core values by which I live my life. I have cultivated tastes for a variety of things. I am different from others and I am also alike others.

Is there something which is universal without out boundaries created by us as human beings? Is there something that bonds all life, which has no name but exists, which is beyond thoughts and words? Do we experience that without the intervention of our mind? Can we feel it, sense it, realize it? 

I am reminded of a story that I had heard in a discourse. It is the story of Buddha holding a flower in his hand and asking the listeners the following question: What do you see in my hand? Everybody started thinking about the flower, looking for words to describe it. Mahakashyapa saw the flower, smiled and said, " I see the flower." He saw the flower. He did not think about it, did not compare it with other flowers. He saw the flower as it was.To me,truth is being fully present as it is revealing, unfolding and emerging on its own, spontaneously and effortlessly. It is perceived as it is without coloring it by past experiences or future anticipations. It is realized in the here and now consciousness. To quote Krishnamurti, it is choiceless awarenes or as Rumi puts it, it is Presence.

When and how do I experience such awareness? When I am in deep meditation I am in the awareness  being zone. When I see a child with an innocent expression of wonderment. When I see a flower blooming, hear a bird chirping, birds flying in the sky in a V shaped design, looking at the twinkling stars and moms holding their babies in  loving hands. I feel it when words come out spontaneously connecting people I have known or have not known. It has has its freshness and fullness. These are precious moments. They are not repeatable as they are always in the here and now flow.

Bow to you  friends.

Jagdish P Dave


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Who are you, really?, by Kosi

FaceBook  On Nov 18, 2014 Dave J wrote:

Though  truth of who I am is beyond thoughts and words, I use words to describe the realization of the truth which is beyond the thoughts and words.I am reminded of a story form the Buddhist literature. Buddha, the awakened one, held a flower in his hand and asked a simple question to his listeners, "What do you see in my hand?" All who were present were looking for a word to describe what they were seeing. Mahakashyapa, the one who was sitting quietly, smiled. Buddha said," Mahakasyapa. You got it." Realization of the truth about me is felt in the cave of the silent heart. The thinking mind is completely quiet, Awareness dawns on its own and I realize who I am. I have glimpses of such indescribable beyond the beyond, the beyond experiences in deep meditation, when I feel the presence of the air touching me, seeing the innocent and wondering eyes of a child, the sound of a bird coming from nowhere, watching a humming bird dancing on a flower and a smile flickering on my face effortlessly, words coming out of my mouth spontaneously. Rumi uses the word Presence to describe what is indescribable in words.

 
I bow to you silently, friends.
 

Get a Life, by Anna Quindlen

FaceBook  On Sep 26, 2014 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 How to live a life is a choice making journey. The bottom line as I understand is to make choice that that makes and keeps my body healthy, my mind calm, clear and creative and my heart caring, compassionate and loving. The wise choice for me is learn to be fully present to my self, to others in my life, to nature and to what I am doing and what is happening in me and around me.To me life is a like a flute through which divine music flows which brings deep joy in me and fulfillment in me. I share my music with my family, my friends, my clients and my students and whoever is around me and with me. The more I share, the more I feel I connected within me and with others. Life is a beautiful song which does not depend on having expensive things and making a big name. All these things are things, not me. The big challenge for me is not identify myself with my external clothes and lose my being. 

I have not found it difficult to follow this simple path and I have never felt poor inside of me.I am blessed to have such inner abundance. I am grateful to my parents who lived that way and showed me the path how to live from within. I am very grateful to them and also grateful to many wonderful spiritual teachers who have inspired me to live that way.

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave

 

The Golden Eternity, by Jack Kerouac

FaceBook  On Aug 15, 2014 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 Jack Kerouac's poem evoked a poem in my mind.

It is an echo, not the sound.
Do not chase it and call it your call.
Your legs will be tired and your voice will be lost.

Who is to forgive and what is to forget.
It is all the mind's game.
The loser is the winner and the winner is the loser.

Still the body and quiet the mind.
Let a smile flicker on your face.
Let it come and let it go.

Nothing is here for ever.
Even the time!
Nothing to do, 
Nowhere to go.
Be here and now-the ever present present.

Jagdish P Dave


 

Art is a Life Raft, by George S. Clinton

FaceBook  On Aug 1, 2014 Jagdish P Daveh wrote:

 Art has been a connector and refuge for me. My father was a poet and devotional singer. He was singing from his heart. His poems and singing evoked deep feelings in us and moved us. He was the the song and he was the music.The listeners became one as it were. The devotional music was an emotional and spiritual experience for us. I feel the same way when I listen to  devotional music touching my heart.

As a young man, when my heart was broken, poems and songs that resonated deeply with me, helped me feel my sadness deeply and fully. It was a very therapeutic experience for me. And when I found the love of my life, poems kept pouring from my heart and our life felt like a song. And when I lost the love of my life, the devotional music that I used to listen to when I was a child came back and held me in the loving hands of my father. I feel the comforting, soothing and inspiring energy by listening to devotional music and heart touching poems. 

Jagdish P Dave






 



 

In Praise of Idleness, by Bertrand Russell

FaceBook  On May 30, 2014 Jagdish P Daveh wrote:

 Bertrand Russell is one one of my favorite authors, thinkers and activists for social justice and fairness. I read what he writes with respectful attention. Work hard, don't be lazy, don't  be a bum, has been a modern person's mantra. To write about " In Praise of Idleness" is by itself a bold and out-of-the box kind of thinking. The title of the article was good enough for me to read, reflect and respond.   The Bhagvad Gita-The Divine Song- is one of the few books that have made me think about balance, equanimity, excellence in action, and fulfillment. The book for me is about asking deep questions about living a happy and fulfilling life. It is about discovering and practicing the Yogic way of living. A mindful and balanced way of living has been very helpful to me. i have learned that there is a time for work and time for leisure; a time to be alone and a time to be with others; a time to be serious and time to be silly; a time to be sad and a time to be glad; a time to receive and a time to give; a time to talk and a time to listen. These stances  may seem opposite to each other. To me, they are complementary, like back and front, day and night, yes and no, right and wrong. They are not absolute. Either/or dichotomous way of thinking and way of living and relating is not my cup of tea. I like the "and" between two apparently opposites; to be able to see them as different. A lot of unnecessary and harmful pain and suffering has been caused by the either /or- stance-either you are with me or against me- a way of thinking and living and relating. The differences do not have to cause distances if we keep our mind and heart open, to be empathic to others. So work is worship and play is also worship. It is indeed simple unless we make it complicated and difficult. Simplicity is easy to understand but difficult to practice. Small is beautiful but difficult to implement. We all are familiar with con  See full.

 Bertrand Russell is one one of my favorite authors, thinkers and activists for social justice and fairness. I read what he writes with respectful attention. Work hard, don't be lazy, don't  be a bum, has been a modern person's mantra. To write about " In Praise of Idleness" is by itself a bold and out-of-the box kind of thinking. The title of the article was good enough for me to read, reflect and respond.
 
The Bhagvad Gita-The Divine Song- is one of the few books that have made me think about balance, equanimity, excellence in action, and fulfillment. The book for me is about asking deep questions about living a happy and fulfilling life. It is about discovering and practicing the Yogic way of living.

A mindful and balanced way of living has been very helpful to me. i have learned that there is a time for work and time for leisure; a time to be alone and a time to be with others; a time to be serious and time to be silly; a time to be sad and a time to be glad; a time to receive and a time to give; a time to talk and a time to listen. These stances  may seem opposite to each other. To me, they are complementary, like back and front, day and night, yes and no, right and wrong. They are not absolute. Either/or dichotomous way of thinking and way of living and relating is not my cup of tea. I like the "and" between two apparently opposites; to be able to see them as different. A lot of unnecessary and harmful pain and suffering has been caused by the either /or- stance-either you are with me or against me- a way of thinking and living and relating. The differences do not have to cause distances if we keep our mind and heart open, to be empathic to others.

So work is worship and play is also worship. It is indeed simple unless we make it complicated and difficult. Simplicity is easy to understand but difficult to practice. Small is beautiful but difficult to implement. We all are familiar with conditioning, hypnotizing and brain washing. Liberating oneself from these powerful external forces is difficult.

I always appreciate getting such weekly gifts, reading reflective comments by other friends and remaining connected with them.

Gratefully,

Jagdish P Dave
 

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Transforming The Wandering Mind, by Ven. Master Miao Tsan

FaceBook  On Apr 25, 2014 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 I have been regularly practicing mindfulness mediation. I have found this way of meditating very helpful. Meditation has helped me to be more aware of the wandering mind and the mind that gets stuck with something that happened in the past filled with deep sadness and emotional pain. When such  deep sad feelings arise in me I allow them to come and go realizing that nothing is indeed permanent. When I am not sad, it is easy for me to think and say nothing is permanent. This  kind of thinking feels  superficial. But when I deeply feel the loss of my beloved wife, sadness arises in my heart. I do not deny it and I do not fight it. I accept that human part of myself and allow myself to feel it. Breathing deeply lets me be centered and helps me go through this experience without getting stuck with it. Slowly and gradually the realization that nothing is permanent unfolds and lets me be free from myself. This is indeed a liberating and healing process. I always remind myself what I  learned from Carl Jung; You need to feel in order to heal. There is a grace in suffering. It offers me an opportunity to grow and be empathic and compassionate to others When I want to focus my mind on something that is very interesting and important, and if my mind gets distracted, I gently bring it back to my breathing.In this way my breathing becomes my anchor. I feel centered and grounded. I find such experiential learning profoundly helpful and healing. I need to practice it regularly. With practice, it becomes easy to live in the present fully. I experience peace and deep contentment. I feel connected with me and with others around me. Wandering mind, the monkey mind, at times visits me. However, the visiting time  gets shorter. The conditioned and habitual mind at times makes me judge and criticize others. Before the mind gets caught up in the habitual and default reactive thought patterns, I mindfully become  See full.

 I have been regularly practicing mindfulness mediation. I have found this way of meditating very helpful. Meditation has helped me to be more aware of the wandering mind and the mind that gets stuck with something that happened in the past filled with deep sadness and emotional pain. When such  deep sad feelings arise in me I allow them to come and go realizing that nothing is indeed permanent. When I am not sad, it is easy for me to think and say nothing is permanent. This  kind of thinking feels  superficial. But when I deeply feel the loss of my beloved wife, sadness arises in my heart. I do not deny it and I do not fight it. I accept that human part of myself and allow myself to feel it. Breathing deeply lets me be centered and helps me go through this experience without getting stuck with it. Slowly and gradually the realization that nothing is permanent unfolds and lets me be free from myself. This is indeed a liberating and healing process. I always remind myself what I  learned from Carl Jung; You need to feel in order to heal. There is a grace in suffering. It offers me an opportunity to grow and be empathic and compassionate to others

When I want to focus my mind on something that is very interesting and important, and if my mind gets distracted, I gently bring it back to my breathing.In this way my breathing becomes my anchor. I feel centered and grounded.
I find such experiential learning profoundly helpful and healing. I need to practice it regularly. With practice, it becomes easy to live in the present fully. I experience peace and deep contentment. I feel connected with me and with others around me.

Wandering mind, the monkey mind, at times visits me. However, the visiting time  gets shorter. The conditioned and habitual mind at times makes me judge and criticize others. Before the mind gets caught up in the habitual and default reactive thought patterns, I mindfully become aware of them and attend to what is happening.

I appreciate reading this article for giving me opportunity to contemplate and express my ongoing learning. 

Gratefully,

Jagdish P Dave





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The Question of Being, by Adyashanti

FaceBook  On Apr 18, 2014 Jagdish P Daveh wrote:

 This insightful writing rings bell in my mind. I hear the clear sound when I am still. I call it my being zone, the here and now consciousness. It has been very helpful to me to be mindful of my ego created and ego sustained world of illusion. When I go through the cycle of self -created suffering, I give myself space to move into the being zone. I let the thoughts, feelings and emotions be processed mindfully and get connected with the presence of my being. The most precious gift I can to my self is this presence of being. This process helps me to make wise and wholesome choices and bring  peace and deep sense of contentment. It is an ongoing journey that requires me to remain awakened and not go back to sleep. I slip and compassionately acknowledge and accept my slip or nap taking. My mistakes have been a wake up call for me to return to the being zone. I feel like I am coming home. When I was young I used to listen to a song of awakening. It is in Hindi, an Indian language. It was a call of awakening. The poet sang: O the traveler. The night has gone away, The dawn has arrived. How long will you remain asleep? Wake up.The one who wakes up gains everything, the one who keeps on sleeping loses everything. I enjoyed singing that song everyday like a mantra. When I would take a step leading me to the dark zone, this mantra helps me to wake up. That mantra came to my heart as I was reading this very insightful writing. This writing also reminded me of the dilemma that Duryodhana, one of the main characters in Indian epic Mahabarat. He says: I know what is the right thing to do but I don't do it. I know what is the wrong thing to do but I do not refrain from it. This prince represents the dark zone we all go through and get stuck with it. Knowing by itself is not enough. Applying it , practicing it even in small measures is the way to ending our suffering. For me , it is an ongoing process. At times the open, vast and clear sky of being gets&  See full.

 This insightful writing rings bell in my mind. I hear the clear sound when I am still. I call it my being zone, the here and now consciousness. It has been very helpful to me to be mindful of my ego created and ego sustained world of illusion. When I go through the cycle of self -created suffering, I give myself space to move into the being zone. I let the thoughts, feelings and emotions be processed mindfully and get connected with the presence of my being. The most precious gift I can to my self is this presence of being. This process helps me to make wise and wholesome choices and bring  peace and deep sense of contentment. It is an ongoing journey that requires me to remain awakened and not go back to sleep. I slip and compassionately acknowledge and accept my slip or nap taking. My mistakes have been a wake up call for me to return to the being zone. I feel like I am coming home.

When I was young I used to listen to a song of awakening. It is in Hindi, an Indian language. It was a call of awakening. The poet sang: O the traveler. The night has gone away, The dawn has arrived. How long will you remain asleep? Wake up.The one who wakes up gains everything, the one who keeps on sleeping loses everything. I enjoyed singing that song everyday like a mantra. When I would take a step leading me to the dark zone, this mantra helps me to wake up. That mantra came to my heart as I was reading this very insightful writing.

This writing also reminded me of the dilemma that Duryodhana, one of the main characters in Indian epic Mahabarat. He says: I know what is the right thing to do but I don't do it. I know what is the wrong thing to do but I do not refrain from it. This prince represents the dark zone we all go through and get stuck with it. Knowing by itself is not enough. Applying it , practicing it even in small measures is the way to ending our suffering. For me , it is an ongoing process. At times the open, vast and clear sky of being gets clouded by me and when I mindfully go though it, the clouds clear up and there I am in the clear light of my being. What a blessing! It is a wonderful life.

I am grateful to Adishanti for reminding me to stay the course of awakening and receiving gifts and blessings from the flow of life, from my own being

Jagdish P Dave

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Only Service Heals, by Rachel Naomi Remen

FaceBook  On Apr 9, 2014 Jagdish P Daveh wrote:

 Well said. You know the way, the path. We practice it everyday and our life journey becomes joyful and fulfilling. I am happy for you.

Jagdish

 

Only Service Heals, by Rachel Naomi Remen

FaceBook  On Apr 5, 2014 Jagdish P Daveh wrote:

 You listen to your heart, speak from your heat and act accordingly. And that is service though it may be interpreted as help.How you view and from where it comes makes the difference. Thank for sharing with us.

With gratitude,

Jagdish

 

Only Service Heals, by Rachel Naomi Remen

FaceBook  On Apr 4, 2014 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 As I was reading this writing, words of St Francis flashed in my mind: Make me an instrument of thy peace. Serving others is going beyond myself, surrendering my ego. The big I does many admirable and helpful things, fixing and helping. In this ego bound limited consciousness, the other always exists-the other separate from me. When I serve  the other from my heart, the ego dissolves. The drop becomes the ocean.Peace blossoms and joy radiates.

My mother's heart was always open to offer unconditional love and serve others joyfully. We felt deeply connected in her presence. I have had many heart touching memories as I was growing up. The stream of her loving presence  continued until she passed away. I feel that stream in my heart even as I am nearing 90. 

In the Mindful parenting class that I am teaching, I posed a question to the parents attending the class: who comes to your mind who treated you special when you were a child? My answer to the question arose effortlessly. My mom. Tears of gratitude flowed from my eyes. Her loving presence in my heart created deep connectedness with us  and among us. Such connectedness happens when I serve children in my daughter's Montessori school.This happens when I water the plants; when I hold myself compassionately when I feel deeply sad missing my wife.

At times, fixing is necessary; helping is necessary. Serving oneself and serving others creates a profound healing in oneself and in others. I think we need to tap this inner resource more than we do, individually and collectively.

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave

 

Should We Spend Time Like Money?, by Stefan Klein

FaceBook  On Mar 28, 2014 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 Time and space are mental construct we have created from functional point of view.The sun and the moon and the natural phenomena follow their own natural rhythms. Civilization is not natural. Cultural is not natural. People in different civilizations and cultures have a different perspective on time. In this digital period everything is moving fast including our mind. So the speed of the time and the value of the time, fast or slow, useful or useless, good or bad, is perceived, assessed, evaluated and is felt by by our mind conditioned by our culture.  When I am in a village in India, the understanding, perception and value of the time is do different  when I am in a big city. The people who do not carry watch or cell phone have a different way of looking and feeling time.  I will never forget an experience I had in a small village in my home state. My sister used to live in the same small house  that was the farmer's house. It was living in an extended family. I watched the farmer family=husband and wife , getting up early in the morning before the sun rise. They would do the morning activities without feeling stress that included lighting up the the candle like lamp, bowing to the lamp and praying together.The husband would take his home made fresh simple lunch with him. Every morning , the wife asked the same question with a genuine natural feeling as her husband would leave: what time will you come back? Her husband;s answer was the same expressing the genuine joyful and thankful feeling: I will come home when the dust arising from the hoofs of our cows settle down. Like all villages, they worked hard with a great sense of pride in doing their work. No rush, no quick kiss on the lips, no hurriedness in their daily life cycle. This was an eye opening and unforgettable experience for me. This is what learned. Flow with the time and do not let the time determine the flow of my energy. When  See full.

 Time and space are mental construct we have created from functional point of view.The sun and the moon and the natural phenomena follow their own natural rhythms. Civilization is not natural. Cultural is not natural. People in different civilizations and cultures have a different perspective on time. In this digital period everything is moving fast including our mind. So the speed of the time and the value of the time, fast or slow, useful or useless, good or bad, is perceived, assessed, evaluated and is felt by by our mind conditioned by our culture. 

When I am in a village in India, the understanding, perception and value of the time is do different  when I am in a big city. The people who do not carry watch or cell phone have a different way of looking and feeling time.  I will never forget an experience I had in a small village in my home state. My sister used to live in the same small house  that was the farmer's house. It was living in an extended family. I watched the farmer family=husband and wife , getting up early in the morning before the sun rise. They would do the morning activities without feeling stress that included lighting up the the candle like lamp, bowing to the lamp and praying together.The husband would take his home made fresh simple lunch with him. Every morning , the wife asked the same question with a genuine natural feeling as her husband would leave: what time will you come back? Her husband;s answer was the same expressing the genuine joyful and thankful feeling: I will come home when the dust arising from the hoofs of our cows settle down. Like all villages, they worked hard with a great sense of pride in doing their work. No rush, no quick kiss on the lips, no hurriedness in their daily life cycle. This was an eye opening and unforgettable experience for me.

This is what learned. Flow with the time and do not let the time determine the flow of my energy. When I misstep, I pay the price for it-some times head aches, at times tension in my stomach. I am creating my own psycho somatic disorder, deviating my natural orderly rhythm. If I am late due to traffic jam or an auto accident, I take deep  and soft breaths practically doing nothing except observing the annoying and upsetting behaviors of my fellow car drivers praying for their well-being. Without rushing and feeling anxious I call the receptionist or leave a message on the voice mail. I make it sure that I do not act irresponsibly and insensitively.

So what is time? It is  a man made construct and not the reality. We make the world how we perceive it. it is the mind's creation. It is up to me-to make myself imprisoned by the culturally created and conditioned mind set or letting my mind free from the culturally conditioned my mind. It is a matter of making  a conscious choice with a quiet and clear and free mind. Knowing when to run and when to walk slowly, when to eat and not to eat, when to go to bed and not to go to bed. It boils down to making a clear and conscious choice making. It  requires remaining awake in my mind. The awakened mind is a wise mind, a peaceful mind and unhurried mind.

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave

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Are You Bored Yet?, by Karen Maezen Miller

FaceBook  On Mar 25, 2014 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 Boredom is a  subjective experience of doing something that has no intrinsic connection with me or meaning to me.When I feel disconnected with any activity, task or a person I feel bored. At this time I become mindful of my feeling of boredom and make an existential response. This response varies. There is no one standard and fixed response. I turn another page of the book or skip something not interesting me. I  withdraw my my mind from the  superficial  participation in the activity or the shallow presence of myself in the conversation. I take boredom as an opportunity to understand why I feel bored and make a conscious choice. I do not like to pretend that I am interested in what is going on. Taking such steps mindfully makes me more authentic both  in  personal and social context. I stay with boredom if it feels right to stay rather than withdraw. pretend or deny.Mindful processing of boredom has helped me o learn more about me. In that case, boredom becomes a gift to me to work on myself. I do many apparently boring tasks mindfully such as cleaning pots and pans and dishes and going to grocery store, I see the value of doing them to help me and others and to serve them. These tasks take a different meaning and I do them joyfully. The tasks become purposeful as I change my perspective. This shift in perception is very beneficial to me. I have fond memories of fetching water from the well and helping my mom wash clothes. I cherish those moments-the moments of having quality time with my mom and serving her. In a large family consisting of four brothers and three sisters, having such a quality time was deeply meaningful to me. Such experiences have planted precious seeds in me  and have impacted me deeply. Mom! I am very grateful to you. When I am in a meeting and I sense the boredom arising in me, I take a mental nap and let me my mind and brain rest. At times I let people know that I am feeling bored  See full.

 Boredom is a  subjective experience of doing something that has no intrinsic connection with me or meaning to me.When I feel disconnected with any activity, task or a person I feel bored. At this time I become mindful of my feeling of boredom and make an existential response. This response varies. There is no one standard and fixed response. I turn another page of the book or skip something not interesting me. I  withdraw my my mind from the  superficial  participation in the activity or the shallow presence of myself in the conversation. I take boredom as an opportunity to understand why I feel bored and make a conscious choice. I do not like to pretend that I am interested in what is going on. Taking such steps mindfully makes me more authentic both  in  personal and social context. I stay with boredom if it feels right to stay rather than withdraw. pretend or deny.Mindful processing of boredom has helped me o learn more about me. In that case, boredom becomes a gift to me to work on myself.

I do many apparently boring tasks mindfully such as cleaning pots and pans and dishes and going to grocery store, I see the value of doing them to help me and others and to serve them. These tasks take a different meaning and I do them joyfully. The tasks become purposeful as I change my perspective. This shift in perception is very beneficial to me. I have fond memories of fetching water from the well and helping my mom wash clothes. I cherish those moments-the moments of having quality time with my mom and serving her. In a large family consisting of four brothers and three sisters, having such a quality time was deeply meaningful to me. Such experiences have planted precious seeds in me  and have impacted me deeply. Mom! I am very grateful to you.

When I am in a meeting and I sense the boredom arising in me, I take a mental nap and let me my mind and brain rest. At times I let people know that I am feeling bored and check with others if others feel that way too. This happens when the person in charge of the meeting keeps on harping on the same topic as if we have not heard him or understood him. On such occasions, I let the person know politely how I feel and can we move on to another item on the agenda. I personally feel that I need to give constructive feed back compassionately and politely. I like to be authentic and compassionately assertive rather than faking and being aggressive.This way of dealing with my boredom helps me to be myself and maintain connection with me and with others.

As always, I am grateful to Nipun and others for giving such weekly gifts to reflect, communicate and get connected with all of us.

Jagdish P Dave

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Practice Without Integration is a Waste, by Krishna Das

FaceBook  On Mar 19, 2014 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 I learned spiritual practice by experiencing spiritual values such as love, compassion, truthfulness, service and kindness. The foundation of spiritual learning was constructed in my childhood. It is like planting the seeds and slowly growing and blooming. To me it is an ongoing process. It is a way of living. I am not perfect and there are times when I deviate from this path. With mindfulness, I come back and contnue my journey. Meditation, following my bliss and serving and helping others with love and gratefulness fills the cup of my life.

Namaste.

Jagdish P Dave


 

Your Life Cannot Go Wrong, by Jeff Foster

FaceBook  On Feb 17, 2014 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 Jeff offers an interesting and refreshing perspective on life and living. I feel close to this  teleological perspective. I also relate to the causal perspective. Bad things have happened to me for a variety of reasons. Some of them seems to be largely beyond my hands and control. The prostate cancer that I developed at the age of 85-I am 88 years old and still going- seems to have a genetic basis. What caused it I do not know. I have some ideas about it-the toxic conditions I have been (like most of us are) exposed to, chroinc stress I have been going through like most other go though and a a lack of adequate exercise and a lack of hundred percent wholesome food that I should have eaten consistently and on and on. I have not given up on living. I have learned a few good lessons from this happening and I am doing the best I can to treat it. I have been learning a lot from my illness and I am sharing my lessons of living with many I come across. So, there is also a purpose for me going through this somewhat devastating experience.

And there have been a few self-caused emotional sufferings and regrets I have had due to my own foolish and narrow sighted ways of pursuing my desires, needs and wants. These experiences have caused suffering, humiliation regrets and remorse. I have learned from my mistakes and wrong doings and have become a little wiser . My sufferings have made more empathic and compassionate and kinder to others.

I believe we all are here for a variety of reasons. Remaining awakened, mindful and aware of myself and other in my life is a way of growing and fulfilling of our purpose of being in this world. Knowing that and living that way keeps me going on my path.

I am grateful to Jeff Foster for creating an inner space for me to contemplate , reflect and share myself with many  of my fellow travelers.

Jagdish P Dave

 

The Power of Patience, by Sharon Salzberg

FaceBook  On Feb 9, 2014 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 When I introduce my full name- Jagdish P Dave- I always say P is for patience. And I mean it. Patience has helped me to listen to the other person with full attention. Not hearing, but listening helps me to be connected with the other person. The other person feels valued, cared for and understood- the basic ingredients of connectedness. Patience also helps me to remain relaxed and empathize with the other person.  When someone is eager to share an idea or something that troubles him, I mindfully refrain myself from abruptly expressing my point of view or offering  a suggestion. or an advice. Our conversation becomes deeper and richer. When someone keeps on talking on and on, I feel impatient. This is the time that is challenging for me. I do not want to offend him, and I do not want to pretend that I am listening to him. I become mindful of the impact  of his behavior on me-my impatience, my irritation and my inclination to ask him to stop talking for ever. I take a few deep breaths and summarize what I heard from him. Then I respond. I do not want to react to him which is a sure way of cutting the thread of communication. Standing in a line in a grocery store with a few items in my hands in front of a customer with a full cart load of items is another trying situation for me. I use this time for relaxing and quieting my mind. Interestingly, when I take this stance, I empathize with the person and feel for him. When I drive and when I am in a hurry, the red light stares in front of me. instead of cursing the red light, I take this waiting as an opportunity for me to take a few relaxing breaths.   In the fast paced world we live in, an ongoing challenge is how to deal with my impatience without reacting and without stuffing my stress in my body and mind. I find taking deep belly breaths very helpful. And the good thing about it is that I can do it any time and anywh  See full.

 When I introduce my full name- Jagdish P Dave- I always say P is for patience. And I mean it. Patience has helped me to listen to the other person with full attention. Not hearing, but listening helps me to be connected with the other person. The other person feels valued, cared for and understood- the basic ingredients of connectedness. Patience also helps me to remain relaxed and empathize with the other person. 

When someone is eager to share an idea or something that troubles him, I mindfully refrain myself from abruptly expressing my point of view or offering  a suggestion. or an advice. Our conversation becomes deeper and richer. When someone keeps on talking on and on, I feel impatient. This is the time that is challenging for me. I do not want to offend him, and I do not want to pretend that I am listening to him. I become mindful of the impact  of his behavior on me-my impatience, my irritation and my inclination to ask him to stop talking for ever. I take a few deep breaths and summarize what I heard from him. Then I respond. I do not want to react to him which is a sure way of cutting the thread of communication.

Standing in a line in a grocery store with a few items in my hands in front of a customer with a full cart load of items
is another trying situation for me. I use this time for relaxing and quieting my mind. Interestingly, when I take this stance, I empathize with the person and feel for him. When I drive and when I am in a hurry, the red light stares in front of me. instead of cursing the red light, I take this waiting as an opportunity for me to take a few relaxing breaths.
 
In the fast paced world we live in, an ongoing challenge is how to deal with my impatience without reacting and without stuffing my stress in my body and mind. I find taking deep belly breaths very helpful. And the good thing about it is that I can do it any time and anywhere. It is good for me and for the people with me and around me. Live long Patience!

Jagdish P Dave

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Deep Inquiry: Not for the Faint of Heart, by Gangaji

FaceBook  On Jan 17, 2014 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 To me, inquiry is a curiosity to understand me and others in my life. The starting point and the continuing point is me and that ongoing process includes the outer world the people I relate to. Openness, mindfulness and courage to be myself are important ingredients of this process.It is not always joyful to me to discover and face the inconvenient truth about myself. This  is where the push from within to continue working on myself helps me. At times, the process slows down and it picks up and continues.It is marked with ? (question marks), ! (wonderment), pause and excitement.

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What to Remember When Waking, by David Whyte

FaceBook  On Dec 31, 2013 Jagdish wrote:

 Just for communication, I name this kind of experience and living as the fourth dimension- a dimension that transcends the other dimensions of seeing, perceiving, thinking and expressing. it is beyond conceptual, philosophical and other boundaries. It is like being in the moment and not thinking about the moment. It is where the dance, the dancer and the dancing become one. I experience this fourth dimension in many contexts when chanting comes to me and I become the chanting, when i see a mom with her child being fully present to each other and I deeply feel a part of them and I feel that when I am holding a sad child in my arms. it is not even I and Thou.It transcends the I- Thou, a child and an old man- dimensions of the relationship.This a gift is  for both. It is cyclical experience and not a linear experience. The veil disappears and there blooms the beauty of the beloved, the Divine.

Jagdish P Dave

 

Honoring the Gill Inside You, by Mark Nepo

FaceBook  On Dec 20, 2013 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 When my analytical or synthetic mind is quiet and when I am in the pure and bare heart zone of being, I feel the flow of floating, gliding  or flying within me and between people and nature with and around me. The doing-talking, listening, writing a poem and the un-planed bodily spontaneous movements unfold, arise not bound by the external factors or ideas. The doing is in total alignment with the being.  That feels like the sound of one hand clapping without bound by the other hand. In the words of Rumi it is the" Presence" of the pure presence.

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Beauty Harmonizes Law and Liberty, by Rabindranath Tagore

FaceBook  On Dec 17, 2013 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 I am very fond of Rabindranath Tagore. I love his poems . he has helped me to appreciate the beauty in all phases of life. He inspired me write poems. Law and Liberty do not oppose each other unless I allow myself to be bound by  the law. When a poem comes to me, I spontaneously go beyond words and grammar. I hear the voice without words. I transcend without knowing the boundaries of of the form. There is a natural flow from form to formless. from sound to soundlessness, a sky-like freedom.


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Reaching Underneath Our Protective Shell, by Pema Chodron

FaceBook  On Nov 8, 2013 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 I am glad to know that you're trying to relate to her anger with emapthy. I know it will take time for her to change herself.  Patience and compassion are the two wings of the bird of healing.We try our best with God's blessings. We need to raise the sails for the grace of the Divine to help us.

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Reaching Underneath Our Protective Shell, by Pema Chodron

FaceBook  On Oct 31, 2013 Jagdish P Dave wrote:

 Growing  up is not always easy for anybody. The most difficult part of growing up for me when I was going through my young adulthood, a time to be connected with someone romantically and passionately. I went trough an agonizing relationship experience. It took almost a year from me to bounce back from my depression. As long as I was focusing on finding fault, blaming, others for my misery and suffering, I could not really free myself from my suffering. I did not blame myself for my  chronic and crippling  emotional pain. I also tried to console me by attributing my unhappiness to fate and destiny. That brought a little solace but did not alleviate my deep suffering. Support of a couple of  my close friends and my deep passion for learning helped me to get out of the deep whole of depression. Real healing slowly happened to me by mindfully embracing my suffering-owing it, contemplating on it and accepting it. I grew from my unforgettable experience. It helped me to understand clinical depression and helped me to cultivate  compassion for me, accept me as a human being and feel genuine empathy for others. This experience was an awakening call for me. It paved my way to be psychotherapist to serve others who  like me go through the inevitable cycle of suffering. I am at peace within me and with me. Life offers not only to deny but to also blossom.

Jagdish P Dave